Girls checking me out?

Key-Proud · 2026-08-07T23:10:42+00:00

Don't look for indication of interests ... just go approach.

- Get good at calibrating after you approach. This is done with practice.

duke_awapuhi · 2026-08-08T00:51:52+00:00

Smile at them in a non creepy way and see how they react. But honestly, whether they’re checking you out or not (they probably are), tell yourself they are because it will help with your confidence and make them feel more approachable to you

gryloscygnusx1 · 2026-08-07T23:03:34+00:00

Smile. See if they smile back

WebNew9978 · 2026-08-08T00:58:13+00:00

Smile at them, if they smile back, go over and introduce yourself to them.

Matter_Still · 2026-08-08T04:40:57+00:00

How about a pleasant, “Excuse me, have we met?” and if not, non chalantly reply “Maybe not. People are always thinking they’ve seen someone before.”

If done right, it doesn’t even seem like an “approach”.

merchant_of_mirrors · 2026-08-08T02:15:56+00:00

If you catch them more than once, assume theyre interested. Approach and start a conversation. If she seems interested in talking to you then start to flirt and see how she responds.being tall = being attractive to most women so odds are she'll be receptive straight away. It always helps to be confident in the interaction so it's better to assume that she likes you than assuming that she doesn't.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-08-08T05:47:43+00:00

Yes, they're checking you out because you're attractive. You can open them easily. They'll be glad you started talking to them. Some girls will be smiling. Some will shit test you immediately.

Start indirect or playful, or give a compliment about their style. The idea is for you to start a conversation and tease them. You can even point out that staring isn't free if cocky funny feels true to you. If not, don't address it, it's not important. Assume that it doesn't give you any extra points (even though it does). The thing is that you will get shit tested even if they like the way you look. Don't be surprised about it and don't eject when that happens. Some girls may insta reject your approach despite the indicator of interest. That's normal, expect it and plow through with a teasing nonchalant attitude. Looks alone aren't enough, you need to show you're unbothered by her testing your frame. That's what will make her actually attracted because she'll know you're not just a handsome guy, but a cool calibrated guy as well.

Assume things about them, tease them around it, break the touch barrier, get to know what they like to do in their free time, invite them to come along somewhere, exchange contact info, talk some more and say you've got to go. It's only going to be around 5-10 minutes of talking so you don't even need to know a lot of topics to talk about. Good topics for teasing are names and childhood nicknames, where they're from, their job, their hobbies. For example, you can assume their childhood nickname and call them that in the conversation, changing it up a little each time. Or if she gives you her real nickname, you use it and change it up to make it sound cuter or sillier. The idea is to have a spike of fun and laughter so that she won't be flakey when you text her later.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-08-08T00:52:40+00:00

Where do they look at you ? the environment meaning.

ControlGood8979 · 2026-08-08T01:02:13+00:00

When you go out and date a decent amount of women you'll get radar for the type of women that will like you. When you talk to them you'll see it in their eyes if they like you. If you're 6'4 ish you'll have a decent amount of women into you by default.

KeyMix5344 · 2026-08-08T04:46:24+00:00

Man I'm kind of in the same situation, I've start d taking care of my grooming, clothing and specially eye contact. Whenever I go out if alone or with friends, what happens mostly is: 1. I look around casually. 2. I see a girl, and as soon as I see her, like when I'm looking at her, she starts looking at me, now I don't know if she's checking me out or just looking back at me like tis this guy looking at me?" And then I look back at them after sometime and they are still like checking me out and shit and this happens again and again. Now since I'm in a public place with a lot of people around I don't approach but maybe I should.

Also what do you guys generally do when something like this happens only when you're walking? One time I was walking we made contact, I was passing by her and kinda holding the eye contact, but then I passed by her completely, after walking just a little more, I turned around to see, and they were still staring (it did feel liketshe wanted me to approach her) I do have good conversations with strangersIm meet

SoftTraining1706 · 2026-08-08T05:20:21+00:00

Wisdom says that approach reaction varies with girl interest. In linear relation to be precise.

An IOI is an unconscious hint that she is interest. If she checks you out (eyes will focus on objects of value unconciously) then the approach is more likely to work out. It is not a guarantee, but a good omen let's say.

Approach enough girls from IOIs and eventually you will have better results, simply based on probability

eablokker · 2026-08-08T06:33:25+00:00

Make eye contact, smile at them, say hi, and wink at them if you’re feeling playful.

autodidacticasaurus · 2026-08-08T09:27:05+00:00

What to do is go yalk to them if you're interested in them, regardless of what they do.

DrBarackPendergrass · 2026-08-08T00:10:13+00:00

TALL MAN GAME: When they stare, do the “come here” finger gesture at the one you want, then when she comes over, say “I just thought I’d make it easier for you to keep staring at me, I’m John by the way……”

She’ll giggle and tell you her name, then you briefly make the conversation “situational” and get her number, then field for logistics and take it from there…..

If she doesn’t come over, simply do the “Kanye Shrug” (either physically or mentally) and slightly turn away from her.

She’ll come in 5, 4, 3, 2…….

EDIT: Downvoters, feel free to debate me publicly on this or just admit you’re short and let’s move on.

Title	Girls checking me out?
Author	Isstr__
Upvotes	53
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Date	August 7, 2026 11:01 PM UTC (4 days ago)
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