Girls go COLD at me after pulling them

FFIX_is_underrated · 2017-06-15T22:20:37+00:00

This post is extremely light on details. What are your interactions with these women like? If none of them want to fuck you, or hang out again, you have at least one of the following problems:

1) You come off as creepy / needy / desperate - do you have a social life outside of these girls? Are you regularly hanging out with other dudes / family / friends? Do you have indications that your life is vibrant and fun outside of trying to pull poon poon? Do the girls feel safe and relaxed, or are you making it very blatant that you are trying to bust a nut? Girls want an experience and connection. They don't want to feel used.

2) You aren't very funny / charming / fit - do the girls appear to be happy when they are with you? Are they laughing? Are they interested in you? Are you interesting? Are you taking care of your diet / exercise / mental health regimen?

3) Your place isn't adequately tidy / cozy - something like a record collection or book collection is a great way to give the girl something to talk about, learn more about you, feel like she has an excuse for being there other than fucking you.

The lack of details in your post hints at a lack of self-awareness, and a lack of perceptiveness with the emotional state of the women you bring home. Look for obvious indications. Are they laughing? Are they giving you clear indicators of interest? Are you engaging with them on an emotional and personal level? Pay attention.

poonishapines · 2017-06-16T15:36:28+00:00

I read your edited updated post. Your date is obviously designed for getting laid, which seems to be in line with your true intentions. Change one or both of them.

Woujo · 2017-06-15T21:19:39+00:00

I get a lot of LMR and after the first date, girls will usually go cold on me and mostly never agree on meeting up again.

Bruh you sound super rapey.

You should only be closing the deal with girls that really, really, really want it. If she doesn't, either leave her alone or let some emotions build up.

TryhardPantiesON · 2017-06-16T01:06:13+00:00

You don't give many details, maybe you are getting in your own way, how?, well you could be talking too much, let her do the talking, try to ask as many question as possible, maybe you are coming off as desperate, maybe you are giving a rapey vibe or something. Can you be more specific in your interactions?

Jarn_Tybalt · 2017-06-16T16:45:45+00:00

Obviously you are not american, so I may be missing how interactions work there.

Here in US, if I get someone to come to my house for drinks, we're fucking. Chicks here seem to know that, which is why they won't agree to meet at my place unless they kinda want to fuck me. Which is probably why I have 100 percent success fucking them once they get here. Definitely don't have 100 percent success rate getting them to come to my place for a beer.

Inviting them for "tea" here in US would never ever ever work for me.

So it is weird you get so many over there, and make out, but can't go farther. But do you get second dates? Maybe just count this as long game?

I rarely get laid on first date. For me, it's always 2nd or 3rd date fucks.

These people that seem to meet someone, then take them back to fuck them seem like aliens to me. I've never been able to pull that off.

mellbell420 · 2017-06-16T01:11:58+00:00

As a woman, you're coming off way to strong and creepy. Don't invite girls back to your place on the first date. The best way to "get lays" .... -___- is to actually treat your date like you want to be her friend and be respectful and if she likes you she will sleep with you eventually. When I started dating my BF he made moves to kiss me but never pushed me and it made me want to be with him when I was ready. He never made me feel like fucking me was his end goal and we're still together 2 years later and he's my best friend.

letsgetrandy · 2017-06-15T21:39:32+00:00

Do you have alcohol at your flat? Do you take the time to make them a drink and chat a bit? Or are you just pulling them in the door and saying something really awkward/creepy like "care for a quick shag?"

Eliza_Douchecanoe · 2017-06-15T21:29:56+00:00

You might be coming on too strong or seem desperate. If you are getting that much play, then act that way.

PurgeTheFilth · 2017-06-16T01:42:27+00:00

Have you tried taking her clothes off?

Hoo-Doggies · 2017-06-16T15:13:35+00:00

Um... have a second date?

kalolilo · 2017-06-16T16:10:28+00:00

Be the one to push back on sex. Say ah it's too early, but we can make out. Let her push for sex, make her work for it.

Title	Girls go COLD at me after pulling them
Author	_Black_Owl_
Upvotes	12
Comments	48
Date	June 15, 2017 8:54 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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