Yes, you should optimize your appearance, doing so will undoubtedly allow you to interact with more attractive women. However, physical attraction is only one part of the equation. Becoming more physically attractive allows you to put your foot in the door, it does not guarantee that you will get laid more or go on more dates if you do not have the social skills that attractive people are expected to have.

What optimizing your looks does

  • Allows you to put your foot in the door and interact with more women
  • Lets you have more time to talk with women to build their attraction
  • Results in more women approaching you
  • Will get you laid in spite of bad social skills if you are a woman's type
  • Gets you more matches on dating apps

What optimizing your looks doesn't do

  • Compensate for the fact that women are visceral and need emotions stimulated during conversation
  • Does not help you sustain women
  • Does not compensate for average/ inadequate social skills/ game needed to pull attractive women (unless you are her physical type)
  • Gets you more dates on dating apps (you will get more matches) if you are messaging her like every other average incompetent dude does

The idea I'm primarily trying to convey is that when people optimize their looks -- which every man should do -- they often do not develop their social skills to compliment their new appearance. Attractive men have an expectation to behave and act a certain way, and if there is misalignment between how you look and how you act, women will think you're weird.

This is why you see good looking women with men who are not conventionally attractive. It is normally because they offer something that is valuable other than looks, like the ability to stimulate their emotions regularly.

When a woman talks to an attractive but boring guy, she gets confused because she starts remembering guys who are less attractive than you being able to stimulate her emotions, and thinks something is wrong with you because more attractive guys should be able to do that because in theory they have been rewarded with female attention since adolescence.

So, when optimizing your looks, optimize your game and social skills, too.

This article goes into more detail about why good looking men also struggle with women:https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/why-good-looking-men-struggle-with?r=31tj3q&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web