How can associating your self worth with being able to date and have a girlfriend affect you?

Electrical_Formal755 · 2024-03-01T21:36:14+00:00

My second ever daygame lay really boosted my self worth. She was a wonderful woman, really intelligent and feminine and the fact that someone like that wanted to have sex with me really boosted my self esteem. My previous neediness evaporated and I no longer needed approval from the opposite sex . Lays can really help , sometimes you need success to prove to yourself that you’re capable.

Emotional-Brush5563 · 2024-03-01T21:10:04+00:00

It really fucked me up

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-03-01T21:23:30+00:00

It can destroy you.

You need to understand your worth as a man has nothing to do with your dating ability.

It's the girls job and pleasure to pursue the man, the man's job is to hunt and gather. When you think about it like that, you become free from a burden that you never had in the first place, pursuing ain't even your role as a human hence your ability to date and have a girlfriend means nothing to your measure as a man.

The opposite holds true. Being great with women and having a lot of sex and relationships also has no bearing on a man's worth.

What really matters is your ability to protect and provide for those closest to you. Be as strong as possible for your family and girls will see in you what really matters.

TRTGymBro · 2024-03-01T21:17:40+00:00

It's the source of all problems with women.

letsgetwizzyy · 2024-03-02T01:56:23+00:00

Your focus should always be on your purpose / mission in life. Everything else comes after. Enhancing your dating life is important, but if you tie yourself worth to having a girlfriend then you ultimately won't ever be worth anything because your girlfriend will leave and then you have nothing.

So, develop yourself as a man and develop abundance.

Enhance your looks, money, social status, develop competency in some domain, learn about female nature, and game. Do all of this and you will without a doubt attract more women.

The goal should not be to get a girlfriend though, this shows that you have no abundance and will most likely accept women who are bad for you/ treat you poorly. Basically, since you want a girlfriend so badly you will probably except validation from anyone who gives it to you. Also, women can tell when you want a relationship, your behaviors indicate so and they keep moving too fast.

This article discusses how to develop yourself into a man more desirable to women: https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/what-to-do-after-getting-a-girls?r=31tj3q&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

This article discusses why women must always ask for exclusivity: https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/why-men-must-always-let-women-ask?r=31tj3q&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web

DaygameCode · 2024-03-01T23:13:08+00:00

When you see women as judges or a tribunal of how much you are worth, it will be impossible to connect with them, date them and seduce them because you won’t be treating them like flawed humans similar to you but as superior beings who only exist to give judgment on your worthiness as a human being.

In order to pick up women have sex with them and date them, you must pick treat them like humans, recognise their flaws, you must stop acting like they are above you, stop being superficial, and you must have self esteem.

Epiphanic_Eros · 2024-03-01T22:10:06+00:00

Relax, start meditation and exercising, if you don’t already. Look around your region, and pick out the most interesting, cool, cutting-edge group that’s happening. Join them and become part of the organizing.

Love-Is-Selfish · 2024-03-01T22:22:08+00:00

For your own thriving, your primary source of self-esteem, ie knowing you’re competent at thriving and worthy of life/thriving/happiness, should be from your productive work. It’s also important to be competent at pursuing love, so zero pressure isn’t good, but it’s helpful for yourself to approach and do it the right way. The best place for the motivation to come from is because you think dating and getting a girlfriend will improve your life. If it’s not, then something is going wrong somewhere. Like, you’re not approaching dating so that you’re better off even when the date doesn’t go well.

eyewave · 2024-03-01T22:58:43+00:00

I don't care if I have a girlfriend or not. I'm good on my own.

But give me a single crush and I'll be an idiot for her every damn time. That's what's challenging my self worth. Messing up interactions with crush. It's not even like I fail to take a phone number or to arrange a first date. It's much more insidious. It's about how I handle myself emotionally and how it shows a couple of weeks down the line. They realize they don't want to fix me ahah. Fuck.

HCHDGSH · 2024-03-01T23:13:52+00:00

Where is the best place for this motivation to even come from?

From being grateful for your life and everything in it. From being in tune with who you are and what you want, and loving and embracing that. And then focussing on the process and letting the chips fall where they may.

From there you're not looking for women to accept you because you already accept yourself and you understand that there are girls out there interested in meeting you, so focus on finding those instead of the ones that aren't for you anyway.

Because you do know in theory that every girl isn't going to like you right? So in practice that means you will get rejected, or you will meet a chick and realize you two are not compatible as you go. Why would you think badly of yourself for something that is supposed to happen. That's like being down on yourself for your inability to consistently roll 3's with two dice.

ROBYoutube · 2024-03-02T05:19:28+00:00

I find that doing what people online say to do to get laid re-frames talking to women, seeing if you're compatible, and dating to something that you pass / fail. It's why I advocate dudes just behave in a way they can be proud of and is authentic to them. There's no failing that. Also they are way more likely to get laid being authentic than doing an impression of a the internet's idea of someone interesting.

fritzzorn93 · 2024-03-02T07:45:26+00:00

It fucks me up, really. I'm not very lucky with ladies, I mean the longest relationship I had was 2 months and that was 7 years ago. Since then, the longest "thing" two dates. It depresses me, makes me think that I'm meant to be alone, and there's something wrong about me that I don't know about. I've decided couple of days ago that, I would stop thinking about this whole issue, and drop it. I mean there's no use in keep fighting the strong tides, since every sign, shows me that to stop trying. 😅 Now I'm trying to make myself accept it. 🥲

ZenoGeno · 2024-03-02T12:25:47+00:00

I feel like people who have experienced relationships and have been with a decent number of women are more ok with being alone, if your experience is very limited then it's very hard to not associate your self worth with it

boom_shaka_lakaa · 2024-03-02T19:49:43+00:00

It's a really bad idea to have your self-worth based on anything that is outside of your control. If you get you love and appreciation from yourself, then you aren't reliant on others for it, which lowers your neediness. Also getting your self-worth from outside things makes your more anxious because you're constantly concerned with getting rejected as it will trigger shame.

Having an appreciative view of yourself (self-esteem) is one of the most attractive qualities you can have.

Total_Obligation_371 · 2024-03-03T22:50:02+00:00

I personally think you need to put pressure on yourself. You won't fully invest in accomplishing a goal unless it's something you really want and will experience a negative emotion/consequence from not achieving. But there's also so many other layers to this. A lot of personal info we don't know about you to really make a solid judgement either way.

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