How do I even reply to this?

recyclablebanthas · 2017-12-25T03:38:49+00:00

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That's a shame....

The mistake started right off. It sounds like you messed up the invitation just before? Like you asked her more directly and she said she wasn't available.

At that point, you should have dropped it. Asking her about Tuesday in a vague way at that point, was more desperate and a waste of time, besides.

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....you got plans for Tuesday?

And anyway, you don't ask her if she has plans on Tuesday. Just plan something for yourself. Something you'd like to do, even if it was by yourself. Then you invite her to join you. She's either in or she's out, and you know her interest level immediately.

Then you followed that up by digging yourself into a hole here, trying to come up with something she'd agree to. You've built up expectations so that if you don't come up with something that fits into the narrow spectrum of what this girl (who you don't really know) finds interesting or cool, then it'll be a letdown. You have Mystery Boxed yourself into a corner here.

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WE can't answer how you solve this. Only you can. And you only can, if you have been paying attention to things she has said before this, which give you a hint about her interests and tastes. That's where you'll find your answers.

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Also how do you guys get girls to invest into you?

You don't GET anyone to do anything. You interact with people, put yourself out there, push a little and see what the response is. People will have a reaction when you push a little, and they'll show investment at that point, if they like you. That's it.

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I’m having trouble with this especially because they seem to be uninterested (referring to girls on tinder) how do you guys invest with online/irl girls?

Your problem is that Tinder and other dating apps are supplementary at BEST. These should be supporting real life socializing that you do IN REAL LIFE.

Because you can only really just put an invitation out there to a girl online who's never met you. And if she's got curiosity because of the marketing you've done with your profile, then she'll agree to a meet and that's where the real interaction truly begins.

Steve_Savage · 2017-12-25T03:45:50+00:00

She seems awfully interested, how can you lose on this one.

funky-monk76 · 2017-12-25T06:38:14+00:00

those stupid emojis

Republic_of_Ash · 2017-12-25T15:01:01+00:00

You could surprise her by not having sex with her. She'd want sex with you then.

ethical_pa · 2017-12-25T03:37:07+00:00

It looks like you only have to set the time and place at this point. Unless I'm misreading this completely, she just needs to be "convinced". I would personally just take the lead and say "great, this is what we're doing..."

Sistamillia · 2017-12-25T04:23:37+00:00

You dont

OrangeAndMaroon · 2017-12-25T05:02:58+00:00

Time and place

raikmond · 2017-12-25T11:21:26+00:00

👉😎👉 zoop!

Daguhh · 2017-12-25T13:11:10+00:00

I think that self made emoji thing at the end needs its own thread.

illya4000 · 2017-12-25T14:49:29+00:00

Just live for yourself. Make your own plans, invite them to those.

Garthanthoclops · 2017-12-25T07:19:02+00:00

How would you respond if some random person, say in a class you have, that you think is a decently cook person just asks you to do something but doesn't specify. When you ask for more details, they just say it's a secret? Probably wouldn't respond much to it...

The mistake here is that a lot of people think tinder is "just for fucking." It may be for some, but for the majority of people it's not. Very many just get on to swipe and nothing else. Some people just want to chat. Some are looking for new friends. Hell my roommate uses bumble to find girl friends and she has met quite a few people from it, and tinder. So unless she was very straightforward in her bio, or previously in her chat, you really have no idea what she's after. Offering to do something "fun" that's "a secret" really just looks like you're trying to get in her pants and based on her response, probably isn't too enticing.

BonelessSkinless · 2017-12-25T09:07:12+00:00

Lmao I fucking hate dating and texting. So much bullshit and rules just for MAYBE a chance. Fuck alllll of this rn lol

stendhal_project · 2017-12-25T17:32:36+00:00

Ask her to take a few guesses. Then you have some options to choose from.

joetheblow · 2017-12-25T02:40:46+00:00

Also how do you guys get girls to invest into you? I’m having trouble with this especially because they seem to be uninterested (referring to girls on tinder) how do you guys invest with online/irl girls?

Citonpyh · 2017-12-25T11:32:37+00:00

Give her a time and place, there you go

Supes_man · 2017-12-25T16:23:24+00:00

1: Cut a hole in a box.

KrAzyDrummer · 2017-12-25T07:43:46+00:00

Give her a time and place. Only

You said it's a surprise, keep it that way.

Better be a damn good surprise though.

MrK_HS · 2017-12-25T13:37:37+00:00

Good answers as always, but what is the point of "censoring" her profile image if it can still be seen?

SituationGTL · 2017-12-25T19:53:20+00:00

Reply with the venue and time for you two to go on a date. If she says no without suggesting a different time, move on.

replayzero · 2017-12-25T10:58:15+00:00

Can still see the picture

KyleBemmann · 2017-12-25T02:58:39+00:00

I honestly don't know. Be imaginative.

MCA_T · 2017-12-25T12:21:00+00:00

get the mask and gloves out and wait outside her apartment

ThorLives · 2017-12-25T17:05:35+00:00

Take her to an escape room. Maybe come up with a clue about what you're taking her to (example: you could send her a set of latitude/longitude coordinates that indicate the location - note: don't expect her to show up there because you sent her the coordinates). The "escape room" activity will fit with the "it's a secret" theme you've setup.

BigSnips · 2017-12-25T02:48:32+00:00

Tell her where/when you’re going to pick her up/meet her.

“Cool. I’ll pick you up at 7pm. Make sure you’re not wearing underwear.”

“I’ll meet you at the corner of X and Y at 7:30. I’ll be the guy in the clown suit.”

Title	How do I even reply to this?
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Upvotes	229
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Date	December 25, 2017 2:39 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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