How do i go for the kiss?

caP1taL1sm · 2017-03-20T17:53:57+00:00

Just some key tips here:

Escalate kino. Get her comfortable with your touch, which also helps you calibrate if she's even going to accept the kiss in the first place. You can't go from an interview-style date with no touching to then just pushing your ahead forward to kiss her.
Change venues on the date -- helps the flow of the interaction. She won't feel as slutty kissing you if you've spent "more" time together (of course the actual amount of minutes is irrelevant, but she's in a different place than she started)
The kiss -- again, your positioning is important. It's best to be side by side, sitting at a bar or something. Give her visual cues by looking sexually at her lips. You WANT her to see you looking at them. Then, in a lull, look into her eyes, look down at her lips (SLOWLY, NO HERKY JERKY) and SLOWLY lean in and kiss her. Simple! You're basically guaranteed success because you've escalated and if she didn't want you to kiss her she wouldn't let you touch her arm, or knee, or leg, or stomach....

DarthNihilus1 · 2017-03-20T18:13:55+00:00

natephant · 2017-03-20T18:12:30+00:00

It totally depends on the situation but let's simplify the scenario. Let's say you're already physically in close proximity for a kiss, and you're fairly confident the kiss will be well received, you're just not sure how to initiate.

This is my go to and I find it works about 95% of the time regardless of if we are in the midst of conversation or if their is a silent pause.

Say "look at me." Now you're facing each other and your lips should already be in close proximity.

Now with your index finger place it right under her chin and guide her to you.

Now you're kissing.

_TurnuptheSun_ · 2017-03-20T17:50:47+00:00

Here's how I advise guys to do it.

A lot of inexperienced guys think that going for a kiss should be one big moment, but in reality that is more likely to freak a girl out because their was no lead up. Natural escalation happens in a lot of little steps that build up to a kiss. Here's my basic outline of how it should look:

Stage I: So you're enjoying a conversation with a girl and you want to start escalating physically you might say 'I love you_____, let's get married." and then hug her. If she's responds positively by laughing or whatever, that means you can step it up a little bit.

Stage II: While you're talking, put your hands on her hips, and move in a little closer, keeping eye contact. If her body-language is positive (e.g, she wraps her arms on your neck, she locks eye contact with you, she smiles and flicks her hair etc.) then you're probably good to go for the kiss.

Stage III: A good final test is to gently place your palm on her cheek, if she doesn't pull away or give you other negative signals, you're almost certainly good to go for the kiss.

Other points to consider: Never ask a girl if it is "okay" to kiss her or do any of the thing listed above -- it's a serious turn-off. Read the girl's body language to find out if she's interested. Is she moving closer or further away? Making eye-contact or avoiding eye contact? Remember that male and female sexuality are different: Guys are ready for sex pretty much at the drop of a hat, whereas women get turned on much more slowly, so the key is to be patient; you might have to go back and forth through these stages a few times in any interaction before the girl is comfortable enough to kiss you.

One important caveat: Remember that no two interactions are the same, and every girl is a little different. It's impossible to have one model for every situation, but the above represents a model you can stick to. For a more in-depth breakdown, check this video on escalation out: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G-_oBZfdd8Q

The_Cock_Roach_King · 2017-03-20T18:39:31+00:00

Wait for the right moment. I like to usually wait until there's a bit of a gap in conversation. I use to ask before kissing, until one girl told me that since I asked I wasn't allowed to anymore. I still kissed her right there, and she giggled and thanked me, but it made me think.

Now I just go for it without asking and it's way more fun.

1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v · 2017-03-21T17:59:52+00:00

I use a "whisper technique". Get her close enough, touch her arms, legs, hands, do all the typical KINO things.

Then lean in and get close enough to whisper to her, gently grab her by the back of the head, under her hair. Pull her in and whisper to her a few times. Then go in as if you were to kiss her, but then move to the side and whisper to her again. Then go in, and just kiss!

IWriteForGroupies · 2017-03-20T17:40:09+00:00

There is no exact formula.

t1mman · 2017-03-20T20:10:22+00:00

Many of the issues guys are facing are most likely related to the fear of “taking a chance”. I know, I used to do it! Waiting for the perfect moment (instead of creating it), wishing for a safety net (instead of taking a leap of faith) and wanting some sort of sign when, in fact, it is never “enough”.

Then, you start to realise it’s all about this, it’s all about taking chances, having a risk and facing that risk no matter what. So, you start to create the moment and you don’t wait anymore. You start the so called anxiety is transforming into excitement, you don’t know shit when you go in for a kiss, but you do it anyway because you are man enough to take a chance and you start to understand that, the best things in life are worth taking a risk. Then, you start getting the better things in life! You transform your inactivity, your passivity and being the “recipient” of the decisions of others and you start deciding for yourself, tracing a life that is what you want instead of being directed by the life that others* want.

So, to answer your question: How do you go for the kiss? By placing you exactly where you want and going for it. Get in her bubble, start touching in non-threatening places, listen for her non-verbal answer to those touches, and live on the freaking moment instead of planning everything in your head. Every situation is different, every human reacts differently Listen, adapt, play, have fun!! (don't forget, you are both playing on the same team in this!)

eggsy · 2017-03-20T18:21:49+00:00

Yeah you can normally get a feel by how close you are. If you are like 1 inch anyway and she hasn't moved. Then you are an all go and just leave in that 1 inch more.

poman45 · 2017-03-20T18:33:30+00:00

Thanks guys any

syntheticballs · 2017-03-20T22:01:28+00:00

Assuming that you've already built enough attraction with the girl and you are sure she would kiss you back:

The way I go for the kiss, and if we are only talking about that step specifically is that I just take the girl's hand, whether or not you have any reason for it doesn't matter (you can say "come with me for a minute" if you are in a club), then I would put her hand around my neck and just kiss her.

No need to bang your head over it

abb424 · 2017-03-21T02:44:45+00:00

So this might not be the smoothest shit ever but i've been doing it lately and have yet to fail.

Situation: you're flirting with her, she's reciprocating, you've already built up some kino (i like hand on the small of her back, especially if it's a bar scene so it's like you're getting closer so you can hear what she's saying and also getting some fairly intimate kino in). The way I talk to girls is pretty playful; I'll joke around and hopefully have them laughing and joking back with me... so I say this in a lighthearted way so it's not like creepy but they also know i'm serious "what would you do if I went to make out with you rn"

This past weekend I got turned down at first but she was smiling and i could tell she was just playing hard to get. I kept at the flirting and tried again 10-20 minutes later and i was golden, we were making out in the middle of the bar and we went back to her place shortly after

keep in mind this is probably only/mostly applicable for bar/club scene

exophrine · 2017-03-21T06:09:55+00:00

Fortune favors the bold.

snapolicious · 2017-03-21T09:04:39+00:00

there are good and bad ways to go for it, but the KEY thing is that you actually do go for it. people have already posted in this thread how to do it. I wanna put emphasis on actually doing it, even if the circumstances are not ideal.

the purpose of the kiss is not to get the kiss, but to set the correct frame. even if it is rejected, you're now the guy that tried to kiss her. obviously it's better if she accepts it, but it's not the end of the world if it's rejected. if it fails, try again when the vibe is better.

LuvaGoodTuggin · 2017-03-26T12:18:56+00:00

I'll just say this:

Don't wait until the very end of your date when you're saying goodbye, it puts way too much awkward pressure on you and her.

thisiswhyiinternet · 2017-03-20T17:49:38+00:00

depends on the girl. If you feel there is a mutual feeling but you can't figure out a way to kiss her, just find a moment and ask her if oyu can kiss her. Worked on my current GF and she told me she liked me asking her first. Thought it was cute

Title	How do i go for the kiss?
Author	poman45
Upvotes	35
Comments	26
Date	March 20, 2017 5:33 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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