How do I make my intentions clear without coming across as creepy or desperate?

dearlenny · 2012-12-31T02:14:11+00:00

You escalate.

Take step by step in the right speed. If you go too fast, will be creepy, and if you take too long to make the move, it will be creepy too. So, always assume attraction and make your moves, if she seems to like it, you go to the next step, if she seems unconfortable, you release and escalate again.

You need to read some material to know better the phases, but is something like this:

Meet her, she is attracted to you, kino all the time
Hand-holding, arm in arm, hugs (try to do all of these in a playful way in the begining and if she is confortable, you start to do in a more romantic way)
Smell her, bite her, take her hand in a more romantic way (interlocking fingers is a nice way)
Kiss and everything else

A good way to know if the girl is ready for the kiss is to know if she is confortable holding your hand, if she is, you go for the kiss.

About going to a girl and saying "Hi": It looks creepy and desperate because it is.

If you are going to talk to a girl, think first what to talk, it really doesn't matter what you're going to say, but you have to say something.

Make a comment about her or her clothes, ask for an opinion, say some routine, whatever, then you can escalate and make your intentions clear without having to talk about it.

Just don't go to a girl and say "Hi/What's your name/How are you?/etc". You have to play the game.

ian1421 · 2012-12-31T01:48:19+00:00

what are your intentions in what sutuation bro?

lightfaces · 2012-12-31T19:38:03+00:00

YOur doing it wrong, walk up and say, "Hey you whats your name?" and if she asks why, just say, "I just thought you were cute and had to come talk to you."

Socrates1991 · 2012-12-31T05:56:34+00:00

Rather than starting with hi, try a witty approach. The creepy look that you get is probably confusion because hi is generally used between previously associated individuals. If this is a new encounter, she may be trying to remember who you are. Laughing always starts a conversation up on a positive note.

For-Teh-Lulz · 2012-12-31T09:29:36+00:00

It really helps to have some kind of context or situational observation to open up a conversation. If you don't have one, you're going to have to be direct and say "You're kinda cute, I just had to talk to you.", which automatically establishes context, but if you're not confident in your approach, nothing will really work for you.

Your best bet is to just continue making smalltalk and eye contact with everybody you meet, and make sure to check the side bar on inner game and start incorporating some of those things into your daily activities.

cougarclaws · 2012-12-31T15:19:31+00:00

Throw & Go

demokata · 2012-12-31T20:16:05+00:00

WWJBD - What would James Bond do? remember that before approaching a girl.

"Hey/Hello, my name is (your name)" reach out shake her hand, after she shakes it ask "and you are?" say it slowly in a controlled manner.

This shit screams confidence in contrast to "hi, whats your name?" which comes across a bit weak and fake/desperate.

heckz · 2012-12-31T20:16:33+00:00

Kino.. Touch is the great communicator of interest that is for both parties to give/deny without words.

themusicgod1 · 2012-12-31T02:52:25+00:00

...pretty sure the fact that your'e asking in /r/seduction means that you're doing it wrong

Title	How do I make my intentions clear without coming across as creepy or desperate?
Author	LightVader
Upvotes	18
Comments	30
Date	December 31, 2012 1:20 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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