How do you guys see human conversation and interaction?

2012-04-09T12:58:30+00:00

Honest and sincere interest in the people you are interacting with. Most people want that "real" connection, but are afraid of it. Make the first move and make sure you're coming from a sincere and honest place.

dablac · 2012-04-09T12:58:06+00:00

You should see interaction as other people attempting to make a good impression on you, after all you are the coolest person they have ever met.

PyouA · 2012-04-09T17:49:42+00:00

The idea that people are mechanistic and that manipulation is the best way to build a relationship are the two undercurrents around here that I absolutely resent. And in my experience, are mostly wrong.

The best gift you can offer someone is to accept them and like them as the person they are. I'm not talking about all the superficial stuff (jobs, money, looks, etc.) but about admiring they way they interpret and experience the world - and then totally accepting it. I would argue that this is the basis of love.

So if you think that you are cool because you can get x number of girls to sleep with you, eventually you are going to crash and go into a hellish introspective episode. This is because you have been accepting verification/acceptance of all of your superficial qualities without really sharing yourself with any of these people. So at the end of the day you have a bunch of girls who were willing to sleep with you - but the loneliness of being the only person to see the world from your eyes still remains.

So it's not like you are solving puzzles, it's that you are trying your best to understand who is person is, really. The way you learn this is by learning all the superficial bullshit, observing how they react to the world around them, and seeing the contradiction in those moments where they open up between who they are and who they are pretending to be. This is the precious stuff.

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-04-09T18:55:08+00:00

It makes my self-esteem rely too much on other people to fuel my happiness and confidence.

Quite the opposite. If you rely on other people liking you in order to feel good about yourself, you will always seem desperate for attention. It is only when you stop relying on other people's opinions of you, that you can be genuine and other people will like you for who you are, not for who you are trying to be.

jimii · 2012-04-09T19:38:46+00:00

If I act in certain ways that make me awesome and people like me for it and I end up interacting with them a lot as a result, it isn't manipulation. It's a mutual relationship.

Also, be internally validated and you won't have a problem with self-esteem. Have values and standards for yourself and other people to live up to. Don't try to entertain others. Crack jokes and do shit that YOU find funny, and most other people will think you're funny/like you (if you have a decent/good sense of humour) because you're being authentic, being yourself and are showing that you're not scared of judgment. It's a win-win.

Edit: Also, overall I see human conversation and interaction as a source of entertainment, a way of having fun. So I try not to take it too seriously. Obviously, there are certain situations that should be taken a little more seriously, but generally for me it should be as light-hearted as possible.

So find a way to enjoy it... or become a hermit. It's up to you. :)

Title	How do you guys see human conversation and interaction?
Author	David_Coron
Upvotes	7
Comments	10
Date	April 9, 2012 12:36 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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