How do you keep going?

darthluke · 2011-03-09T03:47:20+00:00

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seydar · 2011-03-09T02:31:39+00:00

I don't try to hide it. If someone asks what's wrong, I'll tell them in a brief summary. I don't wear my emotions on my sleeve, but I'm not a lockbox, either. It's a great way for people to show that they care about you and it makes for great conversation, especially if you approach your problems sanely.

much_ado · 2011-03-09T02:50:26+00:00

It's all about diversifying. You don't want to have all your eggs in one basket with women or with happiness.

If you find validation in many areas simultaneously -- e.g. athletics, business, art, women, what have you -- no slump can take you down.

famousmodification · 2011-03-09T01:56:56+00:00

That's a damn good question.

I haven't been able to manage fixing it instantly yet, but I've found that recognizing your poor state of mind usually helps. Other than that, I throw on some upbeat music and try to pump myself up, but it's hard to pull yourself out of a rut. I was kind of in one yesterday, and the main thing that got me out of it was seeing a ~8 month old lab trying to chase a rabbit.

ApuaA · 2011-03-10T20:36:56+00:00

I asked a similar question a few weeks ago.

Sometimes you're just down. We're human, it happens. Sometimes its a bunch of little things, sometimes someone hits an emotional trigger, sometimes stress gets to us. There's no rhyme or reason to it. The best thing you can do is just keep telling yourself it's temporary. If it is not temporary (if it lasts longer than a couple weeks), you might want to talk to someone. Everyone gets the downers from time to time, but if it's a long stretch, talk to a friend or parent and maybe consider seeing a mental health professional.

PyouA · 2011-03-09T04:34:50+00:00

Thinking in terms of "I failed that test, oh shit! I'm going to fail this class now!" or "I don't have a job yet and all my friends do what the fuck am I going to do?!" Is an inherently low self-esteem outlook on life. The point of seddit is to make your frame of mind better, which will in turn make your life better. Someone who is in the right frame will not worry about a bad test or not getting a job offer, they will just be confident that things will eventually go right and keep working accordingly.

Anxiety, frustration and stress are three things that stop people from putting themselves out there. Lose these traits as much as possible, do not fear failure. Have the mindset that things will work out for you.

When you do this, you stop handicapping yourself with a bombardment of all these negative feelings that fuck up your confidence and your life. If I bomb a test (which I often did), my mindset should be all about calibrating.

"I just failed the shit out of this test I took, could have been in chinese. I studied all the wrong stuff. No big deal, but I'm probably going to take this Thursday night off and learn this shit so I don't get caught off guard again."

Will Always Yield Better Results Than

"I'm so fucked, I'm going to fail this class. I'm such an idiot! I don't know what to do. I have to like talk to the professor or something, I don't know! I'm freaking out! Why does this shit happen to me!?"

This is true of life in general, not just pick up.

2011-03-09T05:24:11+00:00

Maybe it's just natural, but I always have positive self-talk.

Had a shitty day or encounter? Good thing I'm a total bad ass. Women can't resist this handsome Italian pimp-shit.

Stuff like that helps me.

2011-03-09T06:14:10+00:00

I accept that it's a shitty period. I also accept that it is just part of the cycle that has been happening non stop in my life but I realize that the shitty parts are getting fewer and farther in between.

TheOldKesha · 2011-03-09T01:10:40+00:00

methamphetamines help.

thesacred · 2011-03-09T04:15:01+00:00

Tequila seems to work.

Title	How do you keep going?
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Date	March 9, 2011 1:06 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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