How do you love yourself more?

SnapSocialGuru · 2018-06-23T05:21:07+00:00

Read 6 Pillars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Brendan.

This is a topic that goes far deeper than anyone on this forum can answer.

For context, this dude wrote like 4 books on self esteem. It’s his life work.

But be careful. The book is deep. You might face some demons you don’t want to face.

Good luck.

BmanBruh · 2018-06-23T06:55:00+00:00

self discipline = self respect, self respect = self love.

I usually start hating myself when Im not doing what I am supposed to do or what I want to do. if I just get shit done then I stop thinking.

Watermelonman9 · 2018-06-23T05:40:03+00:00

Something that helped me was to not try and think about how great I was, but instead just stop thinking about myself negatively. I know it sounds like the same thing but just that difference in mentality made it so I had a chance to even try to achieve something. Good self esteem is great but neutral is still better than bad self esteem. Baby steps

hunterpua · 2018-06-23T14:36:57+00:00

Seeing a therapist is actually one of the ways to develop love for yourself.

Essentially the way you develop love for yourself is by investing in yourself. I'm using the word "investment" as a general term so its not just about money, its also about effort, time, emotion, etc. Because if you think about everything you value in your life, you have invested in it one way or another. No one ever values something that they get for free and neglect.

Guess what, by getting therapy you are investing time, money, emotion, and even the effort to put into practice what your therapist teaches you to do. If you want to love yourself more then develop yourself, clean up your diet, work out, build your career or business, work on your look and learn to groom yourself and dress better, etc.

You can even pay for coaching to ramp up the self love even further via monetary investment. So get a gym membership or personal trainer, pay for a stylist, hire people for your business, pay for dating coaching, etc.

The more investment you put in yourself the more you will love yourself.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2018-06-23T06:52:47+00:00

How's it going with the therapist and what methods has he /she recommended to help with this?

I have the same problem as you, but not as severe. However, I've found that therapy hasn't helped much to overcome this.

yellowidiot314 · 2018-06-23T07:16:32+00:00

Maybe focus on depression rather than porn addiction if you're seeing a therapist. I mean if you enjoy videogames some days you will play 10 hours and that's also unhealthy

Crimsonaxure · 2018-06-23T11:40:56+00:00

Why do you love yourself is a better question. When you hate yourself all you are doing is creating an attachment to the concepts about yourself you ‘hate’. The underlying assumption is that you can’t grow and change. Realise your potential. Don’t fight yourself, grow with yourself.

There’s so many things you can do and the journey of self understanding is amazing. But that’s for you to figure out.

Heres a few tips: -Take massive action. - realise that your shame/fear/anger are all emotions that are a compass to your freedom and self love -meditation -learning how the unconscious mind works and how powerful it can be. Learn how to communicate with it -Understand how breathing effects your state. Buteyko breathing and diaphragmatic breathing is really great for deep relaxation and release.

Hope this helps

ls737100 · 2018-06-23T13:27:30+00:00

Pick one single new thing to learn and focus all your extra energy on it. Want to learn to play an instrument or get in better shape. Do that and just work at it. Competence brings confidence!

subduedReality · 2018-06-23T22:56:36+00:00

Depends on the source of the low self esteem... for example I have a friend who has a "victim mentality." Nothing good happens to them (in their mind). Positivity can help with this. So what is the source of your low value/esteem?

XDarkstarX1138 · 2018-06-24T02:31:08+00:00

Pick a few hobbies, playing guitar, reading etc. Also set a few goals and start going to the gym regularly. Being able to get out and have a good workout has helped me clear my mind and made me feel better.

Title	How do you love yourself more?
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Date	June 23, 2018 4:58 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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