How to be chased and valued more

cl1p5 · 2025-09-02T19:47:57+00:00

Two ways at your age.

The first way.

Unfortunately if the first one was possible you wouldn’t have to ask.

The second

You build your value as a man. Socially (position) Security (wealth)

I guess there is a third way. Get a girlfriend a trade up to a better model till you get one you want. Having a woman makes you more desirable

ElusiveAbs · 2025-09-03T02:35:48+00:00

People just tend to stick to friends they’ve known for longer like from school or college. I’ve made friends outside this too but they need to see value hang out with your ie you’re good looking/fun/dance well, etc

That being said, some groups just suck, why not just exit them and hang out with groups that do respond?

Western-Month-3877 · 2025-09-02T21:51:35+00:00

Learn how social media works. People love talking, people love to be asked so they can answer them (re: reddit). The problem is what kind of topic you bring up to the table, what kind of question you ask them. Look at the posts that people ask on reddit, many left unanswered because they sound boring or even borderline dumb (“you could easily google it but you wanna ask people? Seriously?”)

Even before social media exists, one of typical methods of PUA to approach women was to simply rage bait: “did you see the fight outside?” “If you were given a million dollar…” “I could guess what number/card you will pick…”

Another way is to talk about your counterpart. I happen to have a colleague who loves talking, so much so that he could stop any strangers just for sake of initiating a convo. Too bad the feeling is not mutual; people find him rather annoying, because every time they try to answer him or talk about themselves, he always finds a way to shift it into a convo about himself.

cl1p5 · 2025-09-02T23:33:33+00:00

Be born exceptionally good looking. But building your value as a man becomes more valuable by 30 and by 40 when looks value has the options on younger prettier girls.

The third way is very effective just not a great outcome if you’re not building value as quickly.

HomelessMilkman · 2025-09-03T10:54:38+00:00

"Don't pursue, attract".

Basically, in whatever situation, you're demonstrating that you're unstifled and having more fun than everyone else. Being in the same situation as another person and having the mental fortitude to take more value out of it than them is 'status'; naturally, people would see that and gravitate to where there's more fun happening, want your perspective on something you're taking more enjoyment from.

Group chats, online game, whatever impersonal communication is kind of a dice roll because not only are you competing for the relative attention in the chat, you're competing with the 20 other tabs have opened of porn, drama, curated content, existing friends, etc.

In a physical situation, you can see the playing field. You should have a good idea of whether you're enough of a 'competing stimulus' which would attract people's attention; generally speaking, it's clear, honest feedback. Elsewhere, as I said, you're also competing against things you're unaware of and relying somewhat on their disposition to engage in text chat and the value dynamic you've established in person.

Fundamentally, you have to demonstrate a good time; not suggest one that's unproven. That's what establishes clear, obvious value. "If I were to spend time with this person, I'd feel great, and I'd feel better doing so than 'x' other thing", that's the leverage.

There is an element of meeting people with stuff going on you could be invited to. People are boring, man, they don't have this exciting thing to invite you to. If they did, they might, if you're proven to be a good time and aren't going to be weird, get desperate, needy, pushy, etc.; you've either had the opportunity to do so in meeting them in the first place, or you have to invite them to something first.

You can't just 'be valued' (which for some reason people like to think they can bypass by 'being good-looking' or some shit), you have to put down the marketing before you sell the product, no matter how good it is.

climaxingwalrus · 2025-09-03T00:09:38+00:00

Therapyyy

julian123411 · 2025-09-03T10:09:39+00:00

Get lean get a hair transplant and build muscle

FixAccomplished9993 · 2025-09-08T12:29:42+00:00

You reek of validation-seeking.

It's something social people can smell a mile away.

Why do you care if they text you back. What are you trying to do? Be goal oriented rather than being validation oriented. You are a 26 yo male yet you have the self-esteem of a 14 yo girl.

Stop forcing your way into groups trying to beg for some value thrown your way. Build value, and bring people along the way.

You are just trying to socialize with people for the sake of socializing. No dude does that.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2025-09-02T21:48:00+00:00

Have a lot of money / a good income stream coming in.

Have a nice vehicle (aka newer year)

Dress good/nicer

Take care of yourself. Exercise more eat healthier (whole foods).

Live in a luxury apartment or nicer place

The bottom line is bring value to the table

Also hang out in a place with higher quality people aka not bars and clubs

gothgfneeded47 · 2025-10-12T22:56:10+00:00

Why?

Pedro_Moona · 2025-09-03T06:57:06+00:00

Go to med school... I don't know.. Nothing is interesting or stands out about you.

Title	How to be chased and valued more
Author	IslandMan01
Upvotes	23
Comments	82
Date	September 2, 2025 7:22 PM UTC (11 months ago)
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