How to become more dominant?

Mickleton_Mouseroo · 2021-04-15T09:27:02+00:00

If I want to feel dominant, I put myself in a mindset where I’m at the top of the hierarchy in any given situation, these means I take action to say and do whatever I please with the intention of bringing those lesser individuals around me up to my level. For example, making jokes to make people as happy as I am, being bluntly honest about how I feel to show others that honesty is valued around me, talking to anyone and everyone I want to because it’s a privilege for others to talk to me. Of course people can see when you’re faking it and then it can backfire horribly, a good thing to do to build up to that mentality is just saying “I am a champion” or something along those lines into the mirror every morning.

Shit_31_Fuck · 2021-04-15T10:24:37+00:00

Take DMT.

Lazlo25 · 2021-04-15T13:59:47+00:00

Maybe start out with more safe dominant things like leading a girl to a location, deciding on a date spot, or possibly even ordering her food for her (if you talk about her food preferences ahead of time). If you do a lot of these things in a single interaction, then it makes it a lot less weird when you escalate to something like pushing her against the wall before sex.

I feel like society conditions guys nowadays to be scared of being dominant with females because of sexual assault and being “creepy”, but as long as you’re not doing anything extremely far out of the realm of normalcy, (and you calibrate accordingly based on her reaction), you’ve gotta let yourself know that it’s okay.

revente · 2021-04-15T08:16:40+00:00

By the end of the day it’s your conscious decision and effort you put.

Yeah new stuff often feels off, not because it's wrong but because it’s different from what’s comfortable.

Remember that being dominant isn’t a ‚dick measuring contest’. You can be chill 95% of time, but then take action when it counts.

bonix · 2021-04-15T12:30:58+00:00

So when I try being more dominant it feels wrong, or at the very least I'm unaccustomed to it as it doesn't feel like an honest portrayal of who I am. And that more than anything I'm not a fan of.

It doesn't matter how dominant you seem to be, pretending to be something your not will always be obvious. Don't do something that goes against who you are just for the sake of "seduction." The last thing you'll want is to be with girls who don't actually like you for who you are rather they just like this show you're putting on. That might give you short term gratification but in the long term you will probably start to hate yourself.

OrzhovPalatine · 2021-04-15T15:36:22+00:00

Short term you fake it, when I started I just cosplayed a very exaggerated version of myself to figure how how its suppose to look like and more importantly how others respond to it.

Long term, you naturally develop it. Over time as I started to get more success with women I didnt need to fake it anymore as I started to get more comfortable just being me.

It's a slow gradual process that's reinforced by each success. Not something you can rush.

REVENGEBLA · 2021-04-15T08:16:25+00:00

Dude I used to feel the same way still do most of tge time honestly I just get angry but not at anyone or anything important just work towards ut raise the testtosrone

Ket_om · 2021-04-15T15:44:06+00:00

You know how everyone says "just be yourself"? Well I think what you're referring to as dominant may be just that. Instead of that shitty answer of being yourself look at it as doing, saying, and being whatever you want. Who you are is only defined by terms you set yourself.

tehrealdirtydan · 2021-04-16T23:53:33+00:00

You don't have to be an Alpha to be dominant in the way you mean. I find they mean more in the sense of taking the lead, making the decisions and plans. Mainly so they don't have to decide, youre more taking charge.

BrendaBeeblebrox · 2021-04-17T15:47:17+00:00

Bro,you can't be dominant with women or in bed without actually being competent and taking charge of your life. Fix your approach towards life first. Are you easy going & lazy in day to day life or do you make plans of what you want and work on getting them? Do you want decisions made for you or do you like being in control of your own life? Do you speak your mind or try to be diplomatic inorder not to rub people around you the wrong way?

There's nothing wrong with having a sense of humour. Men & women have different types of personalities, generalisations don't work in dating. If you're funny & light hearted the woman who'd most probably be attracted to you the most would be someone either very similar to you or opposite of you, meaning you'll attract women who have depth & seriousness, maybe a little introverted & bold.

Title	How to become more dominant?
Author	Scared_Box4941
Upvotes	15
Comments	24
Date	April 15, 2021 8:01 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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