Does having multiple sexual partners make it it difficult to settle down with someone?

Agreable_Actuator84 · 2021-04-15T13:26:00+00:00

For some yes, for others no.

I have seen ‘research’ that purports to show that the more partners a women has prior to marriage, the greater risk of that relationship ending in divorce. The same doesn’t seem to hold true for men. I can’t vouch for the methodological rigor of the study, but it seems directionally true based in my own biases real life observations.

But I don’t know if that is simply a correlation with another variable. For example, women who have many partners may be more assertive, more open to new experiences, derive more pleasure from novelty or other things that may cause them to be more likely to have multiple partners and more likely to file for divorce. Some would say the key variable may be neuroticism. I remain neutral on this.

Why are you asking? Have you already had multiple partners and fear you can’t marry successfully? Or are you wondering if you should remain celibate to have a better chance T successful marriage?

I don’t find hard and fast rules to be helpful. Each person is different.

lesliebogart · 2021-04-15T07:37:30+00:00

It didn't for me. The reason why I had multiple sexual partners was because everyone would eventually start dating someone and leave me, so, if I wanted get laid, I'd have to look for a new partner. But when I got into a relationship myself, I didn't need anyone else because I was already being satisfied with my boyfriend.

Also, the sex life you have with random hook ups and fwb is nothing like what you have in a relationship. I had some amazing experiences as a single girl, but it's much more comfortable and satisfying with a partner.

Just my experience, though, other people might view it differently.

rafr256 · 2021-04-15T19:41:28+00:00

If you end up getting sex addiction like Neil Strauss and others then yes, you will struggle with monogamy. You will want all different kinds of girls. Tall/shirt, big/small boobs, big/small ass, ethnic girls, etc etc

For others you my get all your sexual craziness out of your system. I know for me I had a bunch of weird kinks and stuff I wanted to try and now I’ve done them and I’m over it - I had my fun. I’m ready to settle down.

It comes down to you personality, just don’t let sex addiction ruin you.

Tulanol · 2021-04-15T08:34:37+00:00

I have known people that were poly and decided to go back to monogamy and vice verse.

gammaJinx · 2021-04-15T14:50:10+00:00

Well I don't know about that but I can promise not having any definitely doesn't help your chances

shaggy2gay · 2021-04-16T00:43:46+00:00

Yes and no. Yes because the more women you sleep with, the more you know you're missing out on if you lock into a monogamous relationship. No because you need to be skilled with women in order to not fuck up prime girlfriend prospects when they arise by being a weird needy dork.

whomeverIwishtobe · 2021-04-16T04:07:00+00:00

I’m settled down with someone who let’s me have sex with other women and the opposite is true, I love her so much and am so attracted to her and happy with how things are with her it’s hard to find energy/time to fool around.

knockyouout31 · 2021-04-15T10:35:20+00:00

One of the many theories is yes is because, the desire to fight to stick with one partner. Will be difficulty, since you were able to have sex easily. Psychology mindset thing.

BensonInFL · 2021-04-15T18:35:20+00:00

Does having multiple sexual partners make it it difficult to settle down with someone?

From a guy's point of view, it will be more difficult in the sense that we will seek someone with much higher value to settle down with, because it will be seen as something worth while in exchange of the sacrifice to ending the fun of multiple sexual partners.... so it will be more difficult to find a girl that has so much value..

The second difficulty will be that once you've settled down, it might be more challenging to 'stay' settled down as the months and years roll on, and you are used to talking and flirting with other girls and you will start to miss the fun and variety more...

A lot of guys get married because they are tired of the hunt, they are tired of the game, they want to come home and have guaranteed intimacy, and they are in for a real shock.

-B

revente · 2021-04-15T08:20:56+00:00

No, if you meet a person who is a clear favourite.

ToweringPolish · 2021-04-15T16:01:18+00:00

Depends if you’re a guy or girl

jbo99 · 2021-04-15T16:23:36+00:00

What do you mean by multiple? Like actively seeing multiple people at the same time? Or having seen lots of partners throughout ones life?

Fun-Cardiologist2350 · 2021-04-15T19:53:24+00:00

I don’t necessarily think so, I have multiple women that I sleep with on a consistent basis. The expectations were set and there wasn’t a pursuit of anything more than casual encounters. Seems to be a fairly even playing field with their views on it as well. Now mind you, I have found someone I’m interested in but it’s certainly early stages and I’ve treated her differently than the other women as I feel that she’s one I could date exclusively. Now I’m sure I will receive some judgement on the basis of my lifestyle but I’m not out here hurting anyone’s feelings as they are all aware the encounters we have are simply that. So no I don’t believe so, I think more so it’s your intention and if you are looking for the next level or just happy with a casual lifestyle.

True_Music48 · 2021-04-16T07:46:50+00:00

Not if you’re in an open relationship. If you want to be with one girl than it can still be easy. It’s harder if you still want to have sex with a lot of people but you can still settle down with someone. If you’re in an open relationship you can still have sex with a lot of people and you can have a girl you are closer to at the same time.

berttbeans996 · 2021-04-15T23:05:18+00:00

For men no, for women possibly.

Shit_31_Fuck · 2021-04-15T10:24:55+00:00

herendzer · 2021-04-16T03:49:19+00:00

Most likely

soumilr7 · 2021-04-15T07:37:27+00:00

Following

Godletrich · 2021-04-15T16:38:56+00:00

I want to have this problem 🤣🤣

BonvivantNamedDom · 2021-04-15T17:51:48+00:00

Yes.

Quiet-Bug-6541 · 2021-04-16T01:14:42+00:00

You can have ur little relationship on your terms otherwise she can get out

stereosayan95 · 2021-04-16T08:23:11+00:00

Statistically? Yeah. All other things equal someone who has been with 100 man/women in the last year will have more difficulties settling down than someone who has been with 1.

The problem is that there is no such thing as "all other things equal" in this situation.

Title	Does having multiple sexual partners make it it difficult to settle down with someone?
Author	Scared_Box4941
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Date	April 15, 2021 7:30 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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