So you talked to her, and somehow she agreed to go on a date with you.

Many guys just go in there unprepared and just don't know how to date. They end up with a flat, boring informational date that ends up in an awkward way.

Before we start, a confidence booster: she agreed to go on a date with you, so she knows you are here for romantic purposes and she agrees to see where it goes. Remember that if she is seeing you right now, you are the best romantic option she has right now otherwise she wouldn't be here.

Now that we parked the inner game topic, here's a simple structure to have in mind during your interaction with her.

A date is a goal-oriented interaction, not just a get-together where you chat and part ways. There has to be a kind of intent in your interaction and a progression to the date.

I basically do five things during a date: open, set intent, evaluate, build rapport and then close. Why do I do that in that sequence? Let me explain why:

  • First, why are you going on that date? What's your objective? Let's consider that your goal is to get her number / kiss her / fuck her / be her boyfriend (pick one). Let's call that close.
  • In order to close you need to interact with her, actually go on the date, right? So you need to open.
  • Now think from her perspective, if a guy just opens and then tries to close, she will resist. Why? How does she feel? Well, she doesn't know if she wants to talk to you, she doesn't see you as a potential mating partner, she doesn't know if she is into you, she doesn't know if she can be vulnerable to you. So, before you close, you have to let her know that you are here for a man to woman interaction (set intent), that you like her for some reason (evaluate) and that you can be close each other (build rapport).
  • Even if you do this right, one thing missing is that she has to be attracted to you. For her to be attracted you have to be an attractive man and behave like one. This is why you create tension, tease, tell stories, play games, banter...

Therefore, what you should do is the following:

  1. Open with an effortless, fun, nice conversation so with the goal that she is ok to be here talking to you right now. E.g., "You look like a fun and extrovert girl, I like your energy it's quite.. special"
  2. Set intent: make sure you're in a man to woman interaction (and that there is an open position for her to fill). E.g., "I'm not sure this is going to work between you and me ;)"
  3. Evaluate: let her know that as the interaction goes, you ended up becoming attracted to her because of traits other than looks that she displayed and that are unique. You have to give her a reason why you want to close other than she's pretty. For that you have to know her more. E.g., tell me something special about you that you usually don't tell guys, I'm asking you because I feel you are not like others. I also like to have fun interactions with her that allow me to explore her personality a bit more
  4. Build rapport: introduce "we", create a common story, build trust, see the world together. E.g., "do you realize we work right next to each other? What are the odds... I mean we would get married, have three children and die of old age, without even leaving the city or this neighbourhood, what a sad life..."
  5. Close: make your move. You MUST build physical intimacy i.e. escalate physically for you to reach this point. E.g., "Come here.. I like the way you smell... this kind of scent makes me want to cuddle... do you like to cuddle? hmm... look at her, look at her lips, look at her again kiss her". Easiest way to escalate is to have fake reasons to touch her like checking her accessories, drawing maps on her hand... The right order of kino is something like this: shoulder, forearm, back of the hands, hands, lower back, hair, face, kiss, outside of the legs, belly, ass, then NSFW

If you are not very experienced, the first step is to get used to the overall flow. See this as a blank template on which you can add in your personality and touch. Progressively, you will be able to break down more and more in detail as you get more experienced.

Does that make sense to you?