How to get over oneitis?

TolarianFapper · 2013-04-10T09:39:23+00:00

See other girls man... She's busy for a week, boo-fucking-hoo. We live in a hang out, hook up culture, children. Take the red pill. Dating in the 21st century means you have fun with each other, fuck each other and sometimes see each other. Dating means you see multiple people. People are busy - it doesn't mean she doesn't like you. Be secure dude. You are dating - you aren't in a relationship. There are no obligations or commitments until both parties agree on it. No labels, no pressure - all fun. If she wants it slow, go slow and be fun while improving your sexual market value (gain at the gym, advance your career and FUCK OTHER GIRLS). If she wants you for a serious thing, she'll indicate that. Just chill and enjoy the ride of life man. Your neediness shows her that you have lower value than she does (no girl wants a lower value guy). Show her that you have higher value by being interesting and aloof. If you honestly want her, do not show her desperation. Continue to ask her out but don't be pushy. Keep up the banter and suggest plans once a week at the height of a text/phone exchange. You may not see her for two weeks - whatever. Sex is sex - don't be needy about it. Focus on your career, family and health (and of course, other women).

oreopimp · 2013-04-11T01:25:11+00:00

all you should have sent her once she said " I was taking it more seriously than her and taking things too fast" (which you should not have done regardless, you can like a girl, but pushing the relationship type stuff fast will always backfire unless you're with a v needy even insecure woman)

Anyway all you should have said, or texted was "okay" and then ignored her for two weeks. then pretend like nothing happened. but in this time go out with other girls. you have got to have the attitude of like 'cool, sounds like you made your decision, go live your life, peace" I understand onenitis, I lived and breathed it once...you need to break it hard, you need to train yourself to know logically what the best way to deal w it is and dont feed any emotional insanity. YOU HAVE GOT TO BE CUT THROAT.

NEVER CHASE. ANd when you think about chasing, go back to rule number one: NEVER EVER CHASE.

you could also sub in:
"sure"
"right"
"cool"
"ah"

EDIT: ha, example from today. Im seeing multiple girls, one I care about but she texts me this (note: this is a girl who usually dominates guys in every way in any kind of relationship and w me she constantly asks if this is okay or if that is okay, is it okay if she does this, or wears this... buys drinks, etc):
Her: Hey I kinda have a thing if I get radio silence this long. Sketch alarms ring and my momentum just dies. See you, space cowboy.
Me: okay
Her: Man. You're cold. What happened?! 6:16 PM
Her: Oops. Didn't mean to slip that exclamation in there. 6:17 PM
Her: It's not a big deal. I just get all pissy when I'm confused. Haha. 6:23 PM

Look at the shit test right there. What do you think would have happened if I chased? (its what she wanted, but its also what she doesnt want). I was and am willing to drop everything in every way w her, never speak to her or have her in my life even if I care, if a girl wants to leave OPEN THE DOOR FOR HER, let her go, you have better things to do then deal w someone who already decided in her head that she is out of the relationship. Fuck that. Now I can turn the situation into whatever I wish. But at this point I don't care, Ill text her tomorrow or when I feel like seeing her. BE CUT THROAT. Not only is it in your best interests, it also makes them wet.

ronmagicjohnson · 2013-04-10T00:59:54+00:00

Spend some time building up your inner game. That can be achieved by exercising regularly, eating a healthy diet, pick up a new hobby (or two) that you really enjoy, meditate, spend time and converse with a wide variety of people and finally stop masturbating. Sex doesn't lead to higher self-esteem, it's the result of high self-esteem.

kez88 · 2013-04-10T02:39:45+00:00

The reason people typically get oneitis is because they don't feel they deserve or can attract more women, so they invest in this one girl because its all they have. Really the key is to know that there are billions of other girls out there and you just need to go talk to them and attract them, and then if 1 girl flakes on you it doesn't matter because you have several others.

EDMfanHotSpur56 · 2013-04-10T16:08:49+00:00

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KilgoreTrouserTrout · 2013-04-10T00:45:31+00:00

Fuck 10 other women.

2013-04-14T17:47:22+00:00

I don't get why the talk to more girls opinions are getting downvoted. Its true, especially out of a dry spell. If she's a great girl you'll get clingy and scare her off instead of letting things flow as they may. Hey every ailment has its medicine, this is the one for oneitis now, and the preventative for the future, hate it or love it.

Roaaarr · 2013-04-10T10:32:32+00:00

Posters who answered are all right but the truth is you don't really get over one-itis. Some people used to call it love.

So basically what you do is stacking. You're piling one girl over the other and you focus on your current game. But, then the girl you one-itis-ed shows up again and you realise that, wow, she's still gorgeous in your eye.

We consider them, we please them, we love them. Don't be a victim, just stack and stack again.

nittutt · 2013-04-10T14:25:30+00:00

Simple: Fuck more girls. Talk to more girls. Flirt with more girls. Get more reference experience.

Edit: That's right. The order is: FUCK, TALK, FLIRT. You won't get over oneitis if you keep getting to know girls before you fuck them. It will probably just make it worse.

knomb · 2013-04-10T02:15:08+00:00

Oh No Hillary deleted all my comments! that rascally woman.

Title	How to get over oneitis?
Author	EDMfanHotSpur56
Upvotes	9
Comments	17
Date	April 10, 2013 12:28 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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