How to keep going after cold approaching?

Chicagoj1563 · 2022-08-02T11:55:25+00:00

It’s all inner game. When you are around your friends or other people you don’t run out of things to say. But, because she’s a hot girl you get stuck in your head and your thinking mind shuts down.

Let go of the outcome and learn how to be unfiltered. Free associate, make it fun, etc… don’t worry about how it turns out, focus on free flowing and saying whatever pops into your head. Treat the girl as if it’s someone you already know where you don’t care if you say the wrong thing.

SPENCEandtonic · 2022-08-02T17:23:03+00:00

Watch Social Animal on YouTube. Ruben gives really great, direct advice on how to approach. Just found the channel s few weeks ago and I love it.

You can literally say anything. Bold move to approach and tell her you wanted to meet her. What do you want to know about her?

Ask her what her favorite flavor of Gatorade is ? Tell her everyone’s into horoscopes these days but you can tell a lot about a girl by the flavor of Gatorade she drinks.

Then just make a goody cold read. Tell her orange Gatorade drinkers are big dreamers. Ask her what’s one thing she wants to do but is too afraid to do?

Things like this make for fun, interesting convos in my opinion.

Asking about her job CAN be interesting if you joke about it a little bit. If she tells you she’s in sales for a tech company. Tease her about being a nerd or something. Tell her you’re surprised her social skills are so good for a girl who plays on her computer all day.

When you talk to your friends you’re relaxed. You connect AND laugh. So do a little if both.

Cheers my dude. Keep approaching.

weird-but-hawt · 2022-08-02T16:19:29+00:00

Recently at a festival (i was unde the influence tho, but i try to enjoy these moments as well as learn from them on how to improve social skills)

I noticed, after asking someone's name i paused... It was usually after 2 sec's maybe they would ask my name back, this would get me hyped... After i said my name i would make a pause keeping eye contact and smiling (because hyped) and then i would ask the next question, where are u from/are u from here, what are u doing right now (or in my case "are u going to X later?"), do u have a bf?...

I noticed, each question i would intensely look into her eyes and really find the joy in being a LIL weird and exaturating respones sometimes... (Things i normally never do because im scared it would seem fake but which seemed to work really wel)

I noticed i would (relaxed) take the time to ask a new question which sometimes caused her to ask the question i asked her back to me (name, girlfriend...)

This all came together in really enjoyable lil convo's...

I noticed the difference between my normal self where i would always worry about the next thing to ask and imidiatly ask that question after she answered.

Take ur time and be chill!!! After a while, when u spoke to enough people (something I've been putting off actually and i feel bad about) u will stop caring and have the technique of taking ur time down you can start exaturating respones...

But dont overdo it, like a clown... Just say things with a lil more color than normal or pronounce something wrong on purpose with a straight face. And be sure to look for her reaction... After all thats ur prize if u do it right.

And if she asks u if u have a GF tell her u have room for one more 😉

bluemind361 · 2022-08-02T19:57:18+00:00

Ask about things she likes to do, places she’s been, things she would like to experience. Listen to her responses. Maybe you have common interests. If not, ask her to talk more about her’s so you can learn. Try to throw in a little humor when possible. If she has a cute outfit or accessory on, you can compliment her style. So many things to say. There is no script to this, it’s just supposed to be a naturally flowing conversation. Try not to dwell too much on how hot she is and think of it as a normal interaction.

Calamity__Bane · 2022-08-02T19:57:59+00:00

The number one principle of any seductive conversation is to draw the other person into the present moment. Talking about what someone does for a living is less intimate than talking about what they’re doing right now.

Ok-Talk-4303 · 2022-08-02T19:11:36+00:00

You continue the conversation based on what is amusing or interesting to you. If you need content to talk about make observations and assumptions about her, you can draw off of random associations and if you ask a question, don‘t make it a yes-or-no question. You should aim for emotionally engaging topics like hobbies, traveling, goals.

Healthy-Rooster1969 · 2022-08-02T19:16:32+00:00

Ask open ended questions to keep the conversation going. Don’t ask something that will lead to a one word answer. Look for things to compliment her on aside from her beauty. Maybe her shoes, hairstyle, color of nails, eyes, etc

OreOscar1232 · 2022-08-03T01:13:39+00:00

One really good thing that you can pick up from Craig Ferguson and Joe Rogan is ask why questions and use the absurd. Like I see a lot of clips with Craig Ferguson where he’ll make an absurd statement about like coffee haters being a part of ISIS, it always gets a laugh. You need to build on the traditional, boring questions and make them fun. Generic questions bore the shit out of people. So spice that shit up.

Also like unblock the part of mind that goes “omg maybe she won’t like me 😨😰😨😰😨😥” shits dumb. You need to be a free flowing river. Literally anything that comes to mind say it. What’s the worse that can happen? Well I’ll tell you, she gets mad and leaves and that’s the worst that can happen. Most people like people with a good sense of humor, sometimes even a dark sense of humor so gauge what she’s like and roll with it.

Lil-sam · 2022-08-03T01:43:11+00:00

If you ever feel like your losing it just say this

I got to go (any excuse) but before I leave can I take your number or snap and if your free this week I would love to take you on a date so we can get to know each other more

Sup3rHD · 2022-08-03T02:55:18+00:00

Talk for 30 40 seconds, then ask for number and say that u have to do something. U dont have to talk much

Total_Obligation_371 · 2022-08-03T06:53:31+00:00

Read my cold approach format post.

incognito3107 · 2022-08-03T10:40:06+00:00

Well, you should set some goal like "Exchanging numbers" or "Get some intimacy going" beforehand. Your questions should come naturally, depending on the situation and your current feelings. "Small talk questions" also should come naturally, most people don't react with enthusiasm to such plain conversation, make it also interesting for you.

whitepillman · 2022-08-04T04:09:37+00:00

Learn how to flirt/tease. Talk to EVERYONE so you have more interesting conversations in general and get the practice. Don't just cold approach women.

dobbs1997 · 2022-08-05T17:43:36+00:00

your looks have nothing to do with anything , it’s the conversation skills that need work..a commenter said to free associate and that’s a good piece of advice, work on doing that in your everyday life with ANYONE you encounter such as family/friends/store employee/ etc.. listen to what the person you’re talking to is saying & that’s basically you’re ammo, for example they say they’re coming from the gym, you can ask what their fitness goals are/how working out has improved their life…things like that, you go off what they said and create conversations threads. But with girls you approach just keep it short and sweet and lead the interaction to where you want it to go, so if you wanna go out with her, ask her questions like what she’s up to this weekend, she answers and say she says “nothing” then you say “great put my number in your phone & text me cause we’re gonna go out”, lol just an example.

Title	How to keep going after cold approaching?
Author	Professional-Ad2737
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Date	August 2, 2022 11:41 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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