How to pull back a little bit after putting her on a pedestal a bit too much?

Rare-Degree-9596 · 2026-05-27T02:33:48+00:00

You can always blow it off to "feeling" it too much.

New relationships and love are like that, it's like a drug, it makes people do and say crazy things.

Just throttle back enough to control your...wordage?

But, don't lose the energy! show her with your body language how you feel about her, not with just sex.

FunkmasterJoe · 2026-05-27T01:04:16+00:00

"I'm experiencing a deep and beautiful connection with another human being. How do I stop?"

epimpstyle · 2026-05-27T08:51:41+00:00

She likes you as you are right now, so why change or say stuff just for the sake of it because you read it somewhere? It's obvious it already works without any of that extra gimmicks.

RarefiedAir1 · 2026-05-27T09:03:45+00:00

Investigate if she’s wife material. If she is then marry her. If she isn’t then cut her off immediately

softspoken19 · 2026-05-27T04:23:37+00:00

Just be busy bro. Cancel a date if you already have one lined up. But make sure it’s work related. Don’t text her at all while you’re “busy”. Even if you’re at home playing Madden. Send her a message at night before bed or something. You just need to literally pull back slightly and you need to do this periodically or she’ll get bored anyway.

xxxWhoHurtYouxxx · 2026-05-28T06:53:02+00:00

Simp....

AlvaroUrdaneta · 2026-05-28T17:07:25+00:00

two weeks is still very early, so it makes sense that the intensity is starting to scare you a bit.

when you’re seeing someone constantly, sleeping together, having great sex, and both of you are saying lovey stuff, it can feel like the relationship is moving faster than your actual foundation. that doesn’t mean it’s bad. it just means you’re noticing the pace before it turns into something unstable.

I wouldn’t “pull back” in a cold or strategic way. that can create confusion. she may feel the shift and think something is wrong. just start bringing a bit more balance back into your life.

see your friends. go to the gym. sleep at your own place sometimes. don’t text every thought the second you feel it. keep enjoying her, but stop acting like every day has to be a full relationship experience already.

also, watch the wild romantic talk. early intensity feels amazing, but it can create expectations neither of you can actually hold yet. it’s better to let your actions show interest consistently than to say huge things before you really know each other.

so don’t disappear, don’t play games, and don’t punish her for the fact that you got excited. just slow the rhythm down a little and stay grounded.

good sex can make a woman feel rare fast. give it time to prove whether the connection is actually solid outside the bedroom too.

Feel free to message me if you have questions, dms open.

Matter_Still · 2026-05-27T02:14:03+00:00

Only your feelings matter. They are real, telling you the truth about the situation, and they are saying, “This is amazing”.

But then you start thinking about BS like “pedestals”, becoming “a little too infatuated”, and wonder if you should pull back.

Sure, why not, if you don’t care about sabotaging it?

From the thousands of things I’ve read on Reddit and seen in videos, even if you concede “game” works well for seducing women, its core principles are God awful for maintaining relationships, which is why Ovid in his classic “The Art of Love” had one book on winning a woman and the second on keeping her.

He wrote

“There’s no less virtue in keeping than in finding. There’s chance in the latter: the first’s a work of art

Picking up a woman, seducing her, and sleeping with her is largely a matter of chance. Holding on to her is something else. That, Ovid says, is “art”.

So true, but it’s the “Art of War”, which Ovid likens the whole business to:

Love is a kind of warfare, not for the timid! Night and winter, long roads and cruel sorrows, and every kind of labour are found on love’s campaigns. You’ll often endure rain pouring from heavenly clouds, and frozen, lie there on the naked earth.”

Now, the hard part comes—little misunderstandings, jealousies, the exposure of our fears and vulnerabilities… . If you don’t have the stomach for those things, then back off. Become a player. “Fuck and walk”. But if you want something that you can count on, come home to, and which can endure, forget all this crap out “bring a little too infatuated”.

Mr_Happy- · 2026-05-27T01:19:25+00:00

How are you sleeping together just after 2 weeks?

Title	How to pull back a little bit after putting her on a pedestal a bit too much?
Author	AidenMoMo
Upvotes	48
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Date	May 27, 2026 12:59 AM UTC (2 months ago)
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