How well does guitar actually work at picking up girls?

HyeR · 2013-03-03T03:53:47+00:00

Learning an instrument for somebody else or to impress somebody is one of the "wrong," reasons to do so. You will not enjoy it, and it will not be special. Anyways, tons upon tons of amateur guitar players are out there to just impress girls, so what would make you so special? No disrespect or anything, but focus more on something unique.

kingofspoonerisms · 2013-03-03T04:04:32+00:00

Its worth learning just because its awesome. And lots of this subreddit is based on having an awesome life and having the girls be a byproduct of having a great life. No one's gonna hook up with you because you can play a couple chords, but it can be helpful for your inner game.

2013-03-03T05:46:11+00:00

Learning a guitar just to pick up chicks is very petty IMO.

el_frou · 2013-03-03T05:08:17+00:00

It is worth learning for the sole reason that learning an instrument is awesome. May it be guitare or any other instrument. BUT, if you are interested in playing guitare to attract girls (I'll be honest, that might work if you're good enough), you'll have to be very aware that it's a Damocles sword above your head.

For instance, there's always that "guitar guy" pulling the guitar out whenever he can, just to play the same song over and over again, you don't want to be him. Playing guitare with your friends singing along is an awesome feeling, it leads to great moments, lot of fun. Be prepared to know a lot of popular songs because you'll be asked to play them. You don't want to refuse a hottie her favourite song right ?

You also might want to know how to sing a bit, that helps a lot.

EDIT : Also i've come to think about that : If you are playing guitare and singing in a party, you'll find yourself NOT talking to girls. Of course you will draw attention, but is it enough ? I wonder. Worse you might end up creating an awesome mood for people to play their game (yeah worst case scenario but still...)! Guitare, a risky gameplan haha

SeekingAlpha · 2013-03-03T16:04:05+00:00

Don't learn guitar to get chicks. Learn to play and see what happens.

MYGUSTA · 2013-03-04T00:08:09+00:00

I'm pretty good at guitar and it hasn't done shit for my love life.

Jake_STi-RA · 2013-03-03T18:44:09+00:00

As a pianist that is intrinsically motivated (playing for the sake of the hobby itself rather than the potential outcome), it insults me people use music to promote themselves just to score.

It only floods the music culture with posers.

2013-03-03T03:48:03+00:00

only if you're good

hobodick · 2013-03-03T18:35:37+00:00

I've been playing guitar for about 12 years. Not once has it gotten me attention from women. Then again I'm not in a band and I don't play for other people, I play for myself.

The way I see it though is you can be the greatest guitar player in the world, but unless you're in a position where it works to your advantage it doesn't mean squat when it comes to attraction. It's what you do with it, whether you're in a band, or creating songs or whatever. Having some style works well too.

SO, my advice is learn to play WITH other people. In my town there is a "band school" where you can go and use their instruments and they will teach you about music with a focus on playing together. Post on your local subreddit or something.

Another bit of advice...learn an instrument whether it gets you laid or not. Every person should learn to play an instrument I believe. It's so very rewarding, and I believe it gives you a wider perspective on life, art, and the human experience.

KingofFerretPowers · 2013-03-03T19:16:29+00:00

Partake in a hobby for yourself - only pull the guitar out if youve got her in your room and she wants to hear you play it.

nyxx_vixen666 · 2013-03-03T21:01:31+00:00

I play guitar and if a guy is playing guitar to pick up chicks its painfully obvious and a turn off for me completely.

2013-03-04T00:11:46+00:00

The guitar itself isn't what's attractive. It's having a hobby/skill you're passionate about that'll make you more appealing.

Find something you like. Even if it doesn't get you girls, it's still a source of enjoyment and it'll help boost your confidence.

Nexus2045 · 2013-03-04T11:29:07+00:00

Maybe.

But hear me out - I can play a few show-off songs on the piano. Its a conversation maintainer, it can impress, but if you THINK that you NEED to play the piano, you're probably trying to show-off to the girl or other people. I used to expect girls to think I'm smart, cool, or talented and then like me just by citing random Wikipedia facts, playing good songs, dressing well. Didn't work because I was trying to show-off subconsciously.

That means you're probably coming from a needy mindset, and for that reason alone its the wrong reason to learn the guitar or anything for that matter. Which is why I like going to the gym when its rather empty. I feel like I'm training for myself, against myself only.

jar_lev · 2013-03-03T04:31:18+00:00

It's not necessary about being good, it's about the passion and enjoyment you put into the playing. Girls tend to notice when a guy is really into what he is doing.

JC_Rozo · 2013-03-03T03:38:37+00:00

it depends on the type of girls, but for most of the cases it works

Maksimilian · 2013-03-03T05:52:03+00:00

yes, if you can show that you a unique and sophisticated sense of music, but this obviously will not happen until you have been playing for a few years. But in the meantime, your pursuit of the guitar is going to show girls that you have a passion for music (which you presumably do) and that you are seeking to better yourself. So these facts in conjunction with a great personality will definitely leave you better off than a great personality alone.

and obviously don't do it for picking up girls. you do things like this for yourself, not to impress anybody

rickyseddit · 2013-03-03T08:26:25+00:00

It's worth learning cause it's awesome. Music is a great thing to connect over. As far as women go it's good during the closing stages. If there is a girl in your room and you play them a song (and they are already somewhat attracted) they melt. Also is fun teaching a girl a song.

Don't do it just for that reason though.

2013-03-03T09:39:01+00:00

If you're only doing it to get laid, you're not ever going to get to the stage where someone is actually impressed by your playing

2013-03-03T10:17:59+00:00

Ukuleles are cheaper, more portable, just a little different, a bit easier, and pretty fun.

IceCream_Social · 2013-03-03T18:07:50+00:00

Okay, here's my story.

I came from a really small high school where I was one of maybe five people to play guitar or another instrument somewhat seriously. I was also big in my school's theater productions and other musical endeavors. Me being lead in show or playing guitar generated a lot of initial interest with girls which led to a lot of dates and it was nice to just walk in to places and have that reputation as the music dude.

So here are two reasons why music shouldn't be your number one strategy for pickup. Although my musical talents scored me a lot of phone numbers and dates I got flaked on a lot because these girls would spend a day or two with me only to find out I had very little game. I had generated a large amount of interest but that interest faded when the girls realized I didn't have a clue how to talk to women.

So fast forward a few years and I've moved off to college. I go to a HUGE music school and a HUGE city for music. Every person you meet her has some investment in music. So the one thing that had helped me pickup girls in high school was now totally void, there are dozens upon dozens of guys here who can play guitar better than me and aren't an AFC. My experience playing guitar has contributed absolutely nothing to any girl I have talked to for the past three years.

So if you want to learn guitar because its awesome and fun and you wanna rock out then go for it, but if your only concern is pickup you're better off focusing elsewhere.

ysef95 · 2013-03-03T21:56:13+00:00

yeah it works only as well as you better yourself from it. Guitar players have confidence rythm creativity and are interesting because they spend their time learning and writing songs instead of watching tv or playing video games. This is what attracts HBs and helps you to DHV not the actual act of playing a guitar. Consequently you can do anything you like that gets you out there. Personally I row and am an avid martial artist and these both help me to DHV because i am exciting and try new things thats what girls want not just some guy who plays guitar.

lintlickerrr · 2013-03-04T06:29:20+00:00

People who think they will get girls by playing guitar are...special. please don't disrespect the instrument I love dearly by only trying to learn to get chicks.

sisyphan_sophistry · 2013-03-05T06:07:35+00:00

I play guitar and piano very well. It has helped seal the deal on numerous occasions. That being said, it took about 10 years to be any good at either one.

It requires persistence and patience like few other things do and no matter how much you learn and how good you get, there are always going to be better players out there.

If you can play Damien Rice's "Delicate" at the right moment, it will get you laid. Moonlight Sonata on the piano is effective, as well.

deathlux · 2013-03-03T05:33:00+00:00

Definitely worth the investment of time.

RandianHero · 2013-03-03T09:38:12+00:00

Playing an instrument is very handy if your game isn't very strong on its own. My buddies always joke about how God gave me no musical talent so that other men would have a chance. Tongue in cheek as that is, there's actually a surprising amount of truth to it: I've seen guys who were otherwise very bland and uninteresting get girls by the sheer grace that they played an instrument. They weren't necessarily going to keep those girls, but it did help them out tremendously with building initial attraction.

Title	How well does guitar actually work at picking up girls?
Author	badonkadonkee
Upvotes	3
Comments	29
Date	March 3, 2013 3:36 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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