I feel weird jumping into conversations in group situations. I freeze up when I don't the group very well.

obadetona · 2012-12-01T07:52:50+00:00

just don't accidentally the group

mhrdth · 2012-12-01T07:46:13+00:00

Laugh at peoples' jokes. Relate to what people say by throwing in a "Yeah, me too!" or "Yeah, I know exactly what you mean." here and there. If people give pause when you throw in an agreement, that's your chance to elaborate a bit. Once you're more comfortable, you can work on interjecting with disagreements in the same way- always with a clear humorous or teasing vibe, not serious disagreement.

If it's a big group and a few people are talking back and forth, strike up a conversation with someone else over something else. Either just continue with that, or let that smooth the transition to you speaking to the whole group.

dablac · 2012-12-01T07:37:15+00:00

Just join in, when there's a pause say something. Doesn't even matter what it is, it's really not hard.

It's always weird when someone just stands there and says nothing, you feel kind of embarrassed for them.

Alternatively, you could walk away while they talk and look around/at something. This is useful when it's not the kind of conversation you can join into, like particularly emotional, heated or something you know absolutely nothing about.

Overt_Narcissist · 2012-12-01T13:56:05+00:00

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toysjoe · 2012-12-01T13:42:56+00:00

I don't the group very well

I think you accidentally a word there.

2012-12-02T18:20:47+00:00

Make yourself say something at least once a "round" (like, a moment where everyone is contributing, or every time there's a thought process/topic). I know it's hard to measure, but you probably know what I mean or have some feel for what I'm getting at. Even if it's just a "Yeah, that's so right" or "I know what you mean, that happens to me too". If you catch yourself saying something "stupid", let that motivate you to input more - the more you end up inputting, the less obvious that stupid comment from before will be memorable.

JihadDerp · 2012-12-01T14:08:18+00:00

Be funny with humor that plays off what's being said. For example, I apply things to their extreme or opposite. If girls talk about sharing outfits/bras/whatever, I say, "wouldn't it be funny if guys called each other up to borrow clothes?" then I do an impression of that silly phone convo. Or if someone mentions dogs, I say, "I wish I could get as excited as dogs do when I meet new people. Run up to them, shake my ass, pee on the floor. And then get scratched behind the ears!" these are just examples. Works well.

MyMotivation · 2012-12-02T00:10:46+00:00

Make sure you stay relaxed and keep your body language confident and open. Other than that it's not much of a big deal if you don't say THAT much, the problem is mainly in your head. I know because i was exactly the same in groups but now i dont give a fuck, I'm still not the most talkative in a group situation but it really doesn't matter. It does matter when you are sitting there all quiet and self conscious about your place in the group.

PHAS_95 · 2012-12-02T05:44:59+00:00

this is caused by your insecurities, only time and more exposure will help you get rid of them

meloshh · 2012-12-01T07:58:20+00:00

Yes, I have big problems with this as well.

In particular, if topics of conversation turn towards specific people, etc., in which case, I'm not sure if there's anything you can do, besides try to hijack the conversation. I think it just requires a great effort on your part to keep in control of the conversation. I think just being the loudest there helps.

drwl · 2012-12-01T09:59:17+00:00

Some mystery method advice would be:
- false time constraint
- maybe even do a canned opener

Title	I feel weird jumping into conversations in group situations. I freeze up when I don't the group very well.
Author	mhrdth
Upvotes	36
Comments	24
Date	December 1, 2012 6:51 AM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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