In library right now. Told myself I'd approach. Experiencing massive AA.

NaturalNewbie · 2014-02-11T17:47:10+00:00

You will NEVER get rid of that feeling if you don't just start approaching. Ever. You HAVE to talk to girls to feel more comfortable talking to girls, there is short cut around it.

zombiecombat · 2014-02-11T19:13:27+00:00

Update my man, or are you too busy F-closing?

kazagistar · 2014-02-11T19:46:24+00:00

Your goal is not to relax. Your goal is to get rejected like mad. Your goal is to get rejected so bad it makes a scene. Because your goal has nothing to do with right now, but with the future... you are getting out of your head and overcoming your fears. The harder it hits you, the quicker the callous grows.

michael98118 · 2014-02-11T20:18:38+00:00

Do you feel this pain when you approach guys? No. Why not? Because you are there to have fun and don't care what happens because of it.

We all are scared of approaching women because we're attached to the outcome. We want something from them and are trying to perform to "win" an outcome. (AKA: You get laid).

My recommendation is to focus on enjoying the conversation instead of worrying about an outcome. Just have fun. Be playful. Expect nothing.

Practice that a few times and it gets a lot easier.

ozone007 · 2014-02-11T18:38:47+00:00

All you need is 20 second of mass confidence and u r life will never be same again .

Remember lion hunt their Food alone that's y he is king of jungle

bl1y · 2014-02-11T20:53:49+00:00

You don't get on Seddit, that's for damn certain.

Do you feet move? Does your mouth work? Then get close your computer right now, stand up, start walking, open mouth, make sounds come out.

2014-02-11T20:14:56+00:00

Do it OP I believe in you.

readonlyuser · 2014-02-11T23:28:12+00:00

You're in a passive frame of mind. Get active. Shake out your arms, stand up, turn directly towards her, and walk in a straight line to her, then say, "Excuse me. " Your brain will do the rest.

iguessimnic · 2014-02-12T02:34:58+00:00

Probably long past time now. But remember the words of wayne gretsky. You miss 100% of the shots you dont take.

2014-02-12T02:38:11+00:00

Ignore everything you ever read, drop the idea that you HAVE to make it work, and just do it.

Give yourself permission to be creepy and to fail, then go for it.

Even if you make yourself look like ass, it's going to feel eighteen times better than winning the lottery.

much luck

zombiecombat · 2014-02-11T18:14:07+00:00

If you can't escalate, just find the first girl with something about her you like. Her shirt, the way she holds she herself, whatever. Then you have 3 seconds to go and tell her: "Excease me, I need to go meet my (blankL right now but I just had to tell you you have an amazing (blank)." Then walk away. No reason to be scared. Do this a few times to loosen up if you need too.

bjlmag · 2014-02-11T18:07:33+00:00

Select target. Being mind and attention to the soles of your feet and walk over without letting yourself think about anything other than the feeling of your feet in your shoes. Arrive, open, and continue from there. You can do it buddy!

aalewis____ · 2014-02-11T23:05:29+00:00

LOL, pls be a troll

Title	In library right now. Told myself I'd approach. Experiencing massive AA.
Author	zach84
Upvotes	28
Comments	23
Date	February 11, 2014 5:37 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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