Is it possible or useful to qualify women in basic conversation?

mtlash · 2024-12-02T21:58:33+00:00

Oh you mean you wanna get "qualified" by women rather than "qualify" women.

"Qualify women" basically mean you assessing women on a certain criteria, is that what you're asking?

razama · 2024-12-02T23:07:54+00:00

There is something called qualifying that is close by not exactly what you’re asking.

You qualifying is when you pose some sort of qualifying challenge or implied statement that causes someone to feel the need to gain your validation. When flirting, it looks like:

“Want to see the Jurassic Park drive thru tonight? Cant laugh if I make Trex roars.”

“Concert at 7:30, cool kids only”

“We’re getting together for board games at my place. You’re invited if you promise to stay non-violent when you get stomped”

You you’re talking about is demonstrating value. You shouldn’t actually try to demonstrate value in your words. Speak about what you’re passionate about or self amused about. Your tonality and body language will speak so much louder, plus anything that says “Yeah I mean I’m at the gym all the time at just work and lift you know?” That’s so transparently trying to qualify yourself to them, you’ve already lost the frame of being congruent with yourself and not needing validation.

If you actually want to talk about something important to you, literally say that. “I don’t have kids, so I REALLY get a blast seeing my nephews on Saturday for football games.” Leave it there, don’t get neon signs that say “IM GOOD WITH KIDS”.

Admirable-Rip-1606 · 2024-12-03T02:50:57+00:00

If she’s giving you signals of interest and you can tell the attraction is already there, qualify her is a good idea.

Often tho, the earlier you create a man to woman premise and the earlier you ask her to qualify/qualify her.. the better. It’s also good to do it simultaneously: “Hey I just love your style I’m intrigued, I wanted to figure out more.. who are you?” That’s an opener which shows the premise in the first part, and in the second there is already kinda a qualifier question, an evaluation phrase.

Qualify/evaluate is an excellent communication tool to create at the same time value and comfort in the interaction.

Usual_Way2636 · 2024-12-03T09:19:52+00:00

I am not a fan of Misery Method and its DHV stories. But if you go that route there is plenty of material on youtube on story telling.

But why are you asking this? Do you have low standards and are needy.

If you truly have standards and are not needy, it will come across in the way you behave, not as something you say,

A needy man will be excited because he is talking to a woman and will care about the outcome. If your mindset was "I am going to enjoy my life regardless of you being in it or not" you will come across a totally different way.

Solid-Frame-6860 · 2024-12-05T04:07:21+00:00

Absolutely, the first words (Opener) can be a qualifier. I use body language as a qualifier—so devastatingly effective.

It seems I have to leave an example after reviewing the comments here:

Opener qualifier: "Hola, you're cute, but are you friendly?"

Body language: Get/Step in front of her and open her by turning only your head, keeping your back to her, and presenting your question or opener. This conveys high value because you're not giving her your full body language and you're quite literally "talking down to her" not with words, but with body language. Do not turn to face her unless she says something affirmative to your question, and even then, only partially turn so she has to work to get your full attention.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-12-02T22:59:18+00:00

This is going to sound counterintuitive.

You undersell yourself in regular conversation. You are then the opposite of a "try hard" hence not needy.

Example: "I'm currently single because I'm not sure if I can be loyal"...you just made the girl wet even if you said this during platonic conversation

ElDub62 · 2024-12-03T00:08:53+00:00

It’s person to person. You need to stop with the incel crap and start treating g women like people instead of conquests.

Title	Is it possible or useful to qualify women in basic conversation?
Author	Durden93
Upvotes	5
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Date	December 2, 2024 9:48 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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