This is just the basics and a lifestyle choice…Just go outside more.

Although its a “numbers game” odds go up when your out more

Its not about going to the bar or a club to find love interests. Women who go to these places know its a giant social game of barreled crabs. Thats why they have a consistent attitude when at these places. One person upping another to feel more validated or such. And theres no other reason to go to bars or clubs knowing you walk by people your interested in almost everyday. So dont fall in the trap that you have to be in a “socially acceptable” place to engage in flirting and such.

I came to this conclusion in high school and it still holds true today now that im working. Simply walking around can catch the attention of someone. And as long as you hold your head up straight and take care of yourself someone will find you attractive. Women do this all the time. They do things to look appealing (not necessarily for us but in general its good etiquette). And therefore its no surprise to them when they are approached.

One should be socially involved and present. When you spend too much time inside and in your own thoughts you become an echo chamber (im guilty of this). This is why 99% posts on here are men who havent really done what their posting about and are just complaining without a resolution. If your comfortable and not with the opposite sex often then your mind warps to what media your consuming and your own beliefs. Life is different for everyone and thats the beauty of meeting people and learning about them.

Lastly for example. I live near a large city and every time im in that city you will always run into groups or crowds of single people. The city takes on many different cultures and ideas so many are accepted. The city also has a larger lower and middle class amongst young people. So its not hard to differentiate from the crowd though looks or general life stability. After all people are looking for these common traits. Try your best to fit into a few common and good character traits and it will not be hard to date.

Again its not about game and all of this complicated crap. Its more so about being around like minded people. And being open to forming connections. If one isnt interested in that then its likely one will keep coming back to this sub…Finding ways to cope.