I've always had a tough time cold approaching, and I do need to work on this, but after having a couple of dates with girls from online dating I realised my game is actually pretty good apart from the approaching side of things (too much AA still).

Anyway on I wrote on Reddit about the two first dates I had. One girl didn't want to see me again. Had a second date on Thursday with the other girl and fclosed her.

Something I think is relavent is that it was her house we went back to. I also got loads of LMR (the price I paid for the Mystery Method book was justified purely because his stuff on there about dealing with LMR was what got me laid on Thursday night). After sex she tells me how she doesn't usually sleep with people she really likes so quickly. I think I should have said something then which let her know I liked her too, and for more than just sex. Anyway, the significance of this never really stuck in my mind.

She texts me to say hi the next morning, I respond. One thing I didn't pick up on is that she's feeling a bit guilty about the sex. She's saying, "Whose idea was it to stay out... I think it was yours".

She texts me again when she finishes work, asking if I want to catch up at the weekend. I text back, inviting her round to watch a film on Sunday night (today). I get a text Sunday afternoon saying can we meet up another time, her friend just had some bad news and she needs to be with her. I text back saying ok, will text you in the week. Her excuse seems very standard "I don't want to come" flaky excuse.

After talking to people, my take on the situation is this. She feels guilty for sleeping with me so soon, and now feels the need to play hard to get. She also wants to slow things down, and for me to not just see her as a source of easy sex. When I invited her round to mine in the evening, this screamed "I want to have sex with you", so she freaked and bailed on me.

Ok, now for your advice seddit. I have the following questions:

Do you think I've read the situation correctly?

Have I screwed my chances of seeing her again?

I need an idea for a date which will make it really obvious that I won't be sleeping with her on that date (e.g. not at my flat, not out for drinks in the evening, because that lead to sex last time), so I need seddit's help with some date ideas. I'm thinking Saturday day time, I have a time constraint of an evening BBQ if I do that, so it will be obvious I'm not trying to bed her.

What do I text her when asking her out that makes it obvious there will be no sex on the date?