Need help with dirty talk

kanyesbathroommirror · 2021-11-28T20:55:07+00:00

A good rule of thumb is just to describe either what you're gonna do or what you're doing right now.

Gonna do: Something like, "I can't wait to (taste your pussy/be inside you/cum inside you/etc)," "I'm gonna make you cum with (this cock, my fingers/tongue, this toy)," "Ah yeah you're gonna make me cum"

Doing: "I love being inside you," "It feels so good when you (suck my cock/clench down/ride me/spread your legs for me/etc)," "Ah yeah, (suck my cock/ride me/take my cock/etc) just like that," "You look so (beautiful/hot/sexy) when you (insert similar description as above)," "Your (ass/tits/legs/back) looks so good when you (insert sex act here)"

It sounds like she also would respond well to being commanded to do things, either softly ("Lick my cock, baby" "I want to see you touch your pussy") or forcefully ("Show me how you ride my cock" "Cum for me").

Honestly, the secret to turning a woman on is to let her know how much she turns you on. Women get off on feeling desired. Start before sex by sending her a naughty text about how much you're fantasizing about her, whispering in her ear while you're out in public about what you're gonna do to her, or maybe put her hand on your hard dick while kissing her.

Also, noises! We love them. Grunt, growl, sigh, give an "ohhh yeah" kind of laugh.

Those are the kind of things that work for me.

EDIT: Added a few things. Thanks for the award. Talk to your women, fellas. We like that shit.

mollywhinchester · 2021-11-28T17:11:58+00:00

This is gonna sound stupid but watch some female audience based porn. It is solely based on what /we want/ to hear and you can basically take some of the same phrases and switch it up a little so it's not robotic. "You like that? Fuck, that feels good. Just like that. You're doing so good. What a pretty, little slut you are. That's my good little cockslut. Take it like the whore you are." These are some examples. Hope this helps

SIV221 · 2021-11-28T17:26:17+00:00

There was a section in Models where a woman wrote what she wanted out of men during sex, and it included being vocal.

Sometimes you don’t have to say words but just letting out what you’re feeling or what causes you to grunt is enough.

Now, just start small, say how good it feels, or how hot she looks in a certain way. Women love being desired, and having their bodies have an effect where you lose control of thinking, is going to make them go crazy too.

creativeoutlaw44 · 2021-11-28T19:20:52+00:00

Start the dirty talking before you're actually having sex. It will then just seem like a natural, dominant part of the encounter.

If she's a truly sexually submissive gal (which it sounds like she is), there's a whole host of things you can do that allow her to be submissive and get hot and bothered before you even penetrate her.

Whispering in her ear can be a great way to convey the intimacy and dominance without having to vocalize it too much and hear yourself say it, although eventually you should work up the confidence to say it at a normal (or louder) volume.

Getting her naked in front of the bathroom mirror and fingering her (while whispering dirty things in her ear) while you stand behind her is excellent foreplay. If she's spread eagle on your bed and waiting for you, take her hand and place it on her pussy...she'll get the hint. Eye contact, low vocals and short phrases are best. Encouragement, such as things like "God I love when you play with your pussy for me...you look so fucking hot" go a long way, and most dirty talk is derivations of encouragement/appreciation in the long run.

Once you've established things like these it will just seem natural to dirty talk while you're actually inside of her.

TherealPadrae · 2021-11-28T18:39:20+00:00

I still remember the first time a called a woman a bitch during sex then play slapped her a little. Took the good time from 10/10 to 20/10 real fast… make sure she’s into it tho…

mollywhinchester · 2021-11-28T20:34:21+00:00

So, and this isn't ALWAYS true, but generally it is.

The reality is that, as a man, unless you are absolutely tiny, you have the ability to dominate basically any woman physically.

Now, OBVIOUSLY, women do not like a dominating, controlling and cruel man. But sometimes they wanna know who's in charge.

Learn how to be a little bit of a monster. Learn how to take control of her in a sexual way. Whether it be pushing her up against a wall and whispering in her ear with your hand holding her firmly in place. Learn how to hold her in place and turn her around and bend her over.

DO NOT ever be violent, but learn how to use your words and natural strength to put her in her place in a sexual way.

It's more than just words, it's a mindset. Like: "I care for you, but tonight I'm getting exactly what I want."

kryzsbeats · 2021-11-28T19:16:33+00:00

OP you need to read Alan Roger Currie’s Book called Ohh Say It Again. The fine art of verbal seduction & aural sex

Adventurous_Gene_692 · 2021-11-28T17:56:52+00:00

Follow sterling Cooper on YouTube and thank me later

kawasakizx7rMonster · 2021-11-28T22:45:30+00:00

(It doesn’t feel natural for me to talk during sex.) Re-frame this say following: '' Up until now it used to feel little bit un-natural for me to talk during sex but now It feels totally natural for me to talk during sex because now understand women love dirty talk''

Think of some positive habits you have. Obviously there was a time & place were you had never done some of them. Which up until now, probably felt little bit strange first time did it right. up until now any think new to you is going to feel a little bit strange. Until get used to doing it few times and then it doesn't feel strange anymore, but now it feels totally natural right.

somchai35 · 2021-11-28T19:30:53+00:00

Tell her you want to cut off her face and wear it as a mask.

Mrcopeland25 · 2021-11-28T18:51:34+00:00

Seriously watch some ASMR porn and listen to how the guys talk to the women. Try to be dominant but firm. tell the girl what you want in a very playful but sexually strong and firm voice.

to get in to the mindset i’d watch some one that’s a bit more romancy than pick up related for dirty talk.

froze_gold · 2021-11-28T18:59:50+00:00

Try adding a tone of positive reinforcement into the dirty talk.

Girl is sucking and choking on me "Oh yeah baby you're a good little slut. Keep going"

Not "TAKE THAT, SLUT!" Unless prompted for rougher play

Neil1398 · 2021-11-28T23:32:00+00:00

Pretty good advice already, and I’m not a pro, but make sure, you’re dirty talk, doesn’t sound negative. Like there’s dirty talk, where you can say things like

“Yeah you dirty slut you like this big dick, you’re only job is to take this dick you understand me”

That’s cool and will work but you don’t wanna keep saying shit like that because she might start feeling a certain type of way. It’s really about where you’re coming from emotionally and mentally when you say those things.

If you sprinkle in a little

“Yeah you like that dirty slut, you’re such a good girl”

“You make me feel so good”

Then this above somewhat has a negative but positive connotation and sounds like you’re being appreciative and not overly negative.

But this is just for the really sensitive girls that cry. I literally had a girl cry because it was too much for her even though it’s what she wanted. I learned to sprinkle in a lil appreciation talk as well

Hotshotskilla · 2021-11-29T00:19:19+00:00

Literally turn your brain off and say what you're feeling in the moment. Either it feels good, or you're working to get her off or you're finishing soon. Just say what you're thinking really at that point you're in charge and it's kinda hard to mess that up especially if that's what she wants.

kinstinctlol · 2021-11-29T00:20:13+00:00

I dont talk during sex. Besides telling her which positions I want to do. Not my thing.

Mmm91for · 2021-11-28T20:16:02+00:00

Just degrade her tf

ni99anuts1 · 2021-11-28T17:11:03+00:00

Are you fucking retarded or something? You have a mouth, stop being a pussy just say the words.

EasyThereStretch · 2021-11-28T20:35:23+00:00

I agree to an extent, but “thank god I asked the internet what to say to get you to fuck me” is a pretty low percentage play

2021-11-28T22:40:20+00:00

Just pretend your an actor auditioning for a role

Title	Need help with dirty talk
Author	packerswoop
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Date	November 28, 2021 4:58 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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