Neediness in a relationship

failly · 2017-02-05T16:18:20+00:00

You acknowledge that you're needy right now, that is the first step. This is good, because you can act on it, but not in the way you mentioned.

Making her chase you more while you are being needy right now = putting more of your time and energy in her, which just leads to being more needy. You see? It's a circle track.

The only way you can become less needy is by doing more things for yourself. Go out, take a hobby or grab a beer at a friend. Come on, you know well enough that you are needy because you don't have much going on in your life.

Tropicalcody · 2017-02-05T17:36:35+00:00

What makes you think you need her or anybody? Love is a cool thing to have w someone and no one should feel like they are In control of a relationship. You sound like you need to do more things with your time than worry about your girl.

subsub12345 · 2017-02-05T16:03:50+00:00

how do i get her to chase me?

stop trying to be manipulative, this should happen naturally, not by intention

read models by mark manson; it's about neediness, read every single page

blindseeker · 2017-02-05T21:01:34+00:00

Non-neediness is when it doesn't matter how the date goes, because you have other things you could be doing, other friends you can hang out with and other girls you can ask on dates. Trying to get her to chase you is needy

purplestuff11 · 2017-02-06T01:30:00+00:00

Find a hobby you're extremely into. You won't even have to try at that point.

MusicPsychFitness · 2017-02-05T21:53:52+00:00

Agree with blindseeker that trying to get her to chase you is needy. Relationship dynamics are different. If you're still trying to "game" her after she's your girlfriend, she won't be for long.

Bongoringo144 · 2017-02-05T23:02:06+00:00

Fuck I wonder if I made that post and deleted it lol. Your neediness stems from not having other fulfilling things in your life.

Reevulate your goals, sit down with a pen and paper and write down what you want to accomplish in the next 3 months. Leave your relationship out of this. Make goals related to career, education, and recreation.

Don't ignore your SO, just don't make them your number 1. The effort should be 50/50 split. Think about it like this, if you need to put a 100% into making the relationship work, then it's not meant to be, and you shouldn't waste your time.

I_Main_TwistedFate · 2017-02-06T00:47:46+00:00

Quick question what is neediness, how do you know if your needy and how do you stop being one after you figure out your needy?

Title	Neediness in a relationship
Author	derwould
Upvotes	18
Comments	16
Date	February 5, 2017 3:49 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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