Watching and listening to interviews with stand comics and certain late night hosts can provide great examples of how to be playful, charismatic, and witty during conversations. Comedians will often display the following charismatic behaviors during conversation.

  • They’re opinionated and aren’t apologetic for their views. Their job is to be observational and present a certain viewpoint to the audience. They have to be certain of this viewpoint and not vacillate or apologize, otherwise they won’t connect with their audience.

  • They’re fun. This is obvious, but they will have a specific way of looking at things that can make even dark subjects palatable and funny.

  • They’re insightful. A big part of comedy is relaying emotions or experiences we’ve all felt, but communicate those feelings back to the audience in a way they might have not thought about.

  • They’re self-amusing. Although comedians obviously try to make the audience laugh and be engaged, they often will have a sense of independence in the fact that they are amused with what they are saying.

Here are a few examples of some comedians that fit the bill

  • Bill Burr. Bold and unapologetic for views, even if they aren’t politically correct

  • Russell Brand. Flirtatious and has a sense of self-amusement during interviews

  • Anthony Jeselnik. Not a complete fan of his comedy, but has the right amount of insight and sarcasm

  • Craig Ferguson. Flirtatious and engaging during interviews. Has great relaxed, yet engaged body language

  • Jimmy Kimmel. Has gotten too political over the years, but still has a great interview style. Asks broad questions which gives his guests freedom to expound, and can be teasing without coming off like a dick