Persistence can be attractive, but chasing a person is not. Here's the critical difference between the two...

caesarfecit · 2022-05-13T17:07:42+00:00

Persistence is when you hold your course while she stays on the fence.

Chasing is when she's showing you clear disinterest and you ignore it.

To me the real reason why it matters is because when a girl shuts you down, or plays super hard to get, the move is to take her at her word and walk away. Either she's not interesting or playing games and regardless of which it is, you should be no longer interested. Nothing but pain will come from persisting in those circumstances.

Whereas when a girl is just unsold or waffling, your move is to be resolute and stick to your guns. And the reason why is because if she senses weakness or artifice in your attitude towards her, she'll sense that she can put you on the back burner without losing you.

chamberlain323 · 2022-05-13T14:38:02+00:00

Confident persistence feels like one of those things that could theoretically work but I’ve never seen it in real life. Instead what I see out there are smitten guys try in vain to get an attractive woman to date him when in fact she categorized him as a platonic friend right away and never changes her mind. Perhaps this could vary depending on the culture of the people involved, but here in the US women know within the first few minutes of meeting you whether you have potential or not, I find.

DrixlRey · 2022-05-13T16:59:03+00:00

This is actually great advice.

willgo-waggins · 2022-05-13T15:51:47+00:00

Confident persistence is being steady and straightforward but maintaining enough indifference and independence for her to see and understand that you are just fine without her or her attention.

The other thing is be to very simple.

Have sex with her early - immediately after first meet if possible - and at least three or more times BEFORE you show any sort of attachment at all. Once that is established you become the person in the drivers seat. There is no longer a game of withholding sex for attention or goodies. You’ve been there and done that. And depending on how good or not it is you can then make a rational judgement on how invested you want to be.

Title	Persistence can be attractive, but chasing a person is not. Here's the critical difference between the two...
Author	MK2718
Upvotes	137
Comments	16
Date	May 13, 2022 12:10 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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