Seddit, I'm a short guy who just cannot seem to attract women. What is the single most important trait or technique to cultivate in order to get attraction?

TofuTofu · 2012-05-13T23:06:15+00:00

Dress well and approach all the time. There is no magic bullet. If you are not getting much attraction, body language and tonality are pretty darn important.

Leelluu · 2012-05-14T01:31:48+00:00

Some women like short men. I'm one of them.

nopolis18 · 2012-05-14T00:18:49+00:00

have the same attitude as E from entourage, he's small in size but never hesitates to let someone know he could beat the shit out of them

dantaeos · 2012-05-14T05:30:42+00:00

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watEvery1_isThinking · 2012-05-14T04:29:44+00:00

Humor

fires_a_blazing · 2012-05-14T05:45:12+00:00

Approach all the time.

breadrising · 2012-05-14T13:30:28+00:00

Everyone is different. One thing that attracts someone, will turn off someone else. Your best bet is to just improve yourself for you.

But if you want to break things down into "generalities" then I'll just say this; as long as you're confident, laid back, and able to have a good time anywhere, people will generally want to be around you. I've seen short dudes, with crazy beards, straggly hair, and dirty t-shirts picking up more women I could even fathom just because of the confidence they exerted. Looks can help, but they certainly aren't the biggest barrier. Seeing yourself as the fucking man, no matter what; that is easily the biggest barrier to overcome.

sosueme · 2012-05-13T23:41:04+00:00

Yup. Basically all women want to feel protected. It is biological. Either you're taller or bigger in other ways. So hit the gym, eat well and put on muscle. You will get better faster than any inner game meditations or confidence building tricks. Best research indicates couples feel best about each other when there is about 60 pounds of body weight difference between them

dantaeos · 2012-05-14T16:29:24+00:00

It's not because you're short. If you have negative beliefs concerning you're height then you need to work on either stopping those thought loops or calming your mind.

And it's simply about practice. How long have you been going out, how many times are you approaching per day, how hard is your approach etc.

Consider getting a decent wingman who can see what your sticking point is.

If you are a good conversationalist then maybe you need harder escalation. Basically you should be getting into kino immediately. When you shake a girls hand, hold on to it to see her response. If she pulls back just let go. But if she holds on, keep holding for a minute or 2 and you know instantly she is down. From there punch on the shoulder, hold her by the hips, hugging etc.

If this is night game, you should be physically escalating within minutes and making out within 15 minutes. Otherwise your wasting time.

Title	Seddit, I'm a short guy who just cannot seem to attract women. What is the single most important trait or technique to cultivate in order to get attraction?
Author	Glansburg
Upvotes	3
Comments	22
Date	May 13, 2012 10:02 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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