Seddit, I'm a stutterer and need some advice!

johnnyguygin · 2012-03-19T08:02:14+00:00

i don't have a stutter so i'm shooting from the hip but if you like direct game maybe tell her that cute girls make you stutter. when you stutter get 'mad' at her and tell to quit being adorable. pretend it's her fault.

HelloAdventure · 2012-03-19T18:53:17+00:00

I'm a stutterer too. But I'm the silent one. Instead of stuttering I choose alternative words or don't speak at all. The best way to overcome this is to talk as much as possible with as many people as you can and basicly don't give a shit about what they think of you. Also when you're in your own headspace you'll stutter, if you focus on the person you're talking too, your stuttering will lessen dramatically.

HelloAdventure · 2012-03-19T02:41:55+00:00

my friend has a stutter, and if people are going to judge you on that, then you don't need them. When someone makes fun of him or rejects him just because he stutters, he and everyone around him knows the person is a douche.

KingNarcissus · 2012-03-19T19:59:37+00:00

As a fellow stutterer, I don't like anyone else's advice here. You can view it as a hindrance or a growth opportunity and strength.

You stutter more when you're nervous/anxious/upset right? Learn to better control your emotions. Learn to relax/calm down when you do notice yourself stuttering. If you're always calm, cool and collected your stutter won't affect you nearly as much.

It is a never-ending battle, that's one thing for sure. I was doing great for years until I went to boot camp (which is designed to stress you out) and going out to sea (and all the stresses that accompany a patrol). Well, it just means I've got to re-learn and re-practice everything I used to do. I stutter now way more than I used to, but it's okay, it's great practice in self-control.

TL;DR Don't hide from it, try to cover it up, try to affect others, or limit yourself; use it as an opportunity to improve yourself and your self-control.

gabriot · 2012-03-19T23:17:29+00:00

I have a slight stutter as well (much improved since when I was younger though). I've found in all honesty people don't care/notice NEARLY as much as you do. Sure, you'll catch shit for it every now and then, but personally I wouldn't even think about it and just get through conversation as you normally would.

Those that make a big deal about it don't matter, and those that matter won't make a big deal.

HelloAdventure · 2012-03-19T10:46:01+00:00

I stutter too. Want to not stutter? Talk slower. My problem is that I try to vocalize the 100,000 thoughts in my head. Take a nice breath, chill, and talk slower and more relaxed.

totalradass · 2012-03-19T06:05:23+00:00

You just gotta move your hands like you're doing dj scratching when you stutter.

enzo32ferrari · 2012-03-19T09:38:56+00:00

you may be able to play the "make her feel bad" card; i'm unsure about what Seddit would think about this, so i'm going to hop in my downvote bunker:

regular advice:

i'd suggest practicing some canned openers; some ppl use these, some don't, i think in this case you should practice a couple that you would use for openers because of the stutter. try your hardest to improve your speech however; (this is the best advice i could give).

now for the controversial/downvote probable part:

if you're talking to an HB-X, and you happen to stutter, stop what you're saying, exhale a bit (as if it's tiring you trying to talk to her), smile at her, look down then look back up and say to her, "i'm sorry, i have a stutter". i'd think it's better that she knows rather than her going away thinking "wtf was that guy's problem?"

NYCman11229 · 2012-03-19T22:09:49+00:00

I used to have a slight stutter when trying to say certain words. What seddit taught me was to talk slower. Talking slower allows more time to think what your going to say, and that combined with pauses makes people hang on your every word.

Like if your doing cold approaches, "hey" pause for a little bit, "I knew if I didn't introduce myself to you I would regret it" pause, girl blushes a little, "my name is NYCman11229"

2012-03-20T01:24:38+00:00

Haha I have really bad stuttering problems some times, for me it's not about anxiety though, I just stutter because I'm thinking and talking too fast. It happens a lot when I'm high for some reason. Anywho, as they say, "if you can't fix it, feature it". I usually just roll with the stuttering but if I stutter particularly bad I'll just laugh at it by shouting "FUCK" or making a joke out of it some other way. I think girls think it's cute, just embrace it, laugh at it, don't be embarrassed of it

aaronob · 2012-03-20T01:33:30+00:00

I stutter sometimes too. Two ways:

1) when I am caught off guard. But this isn't really a big deal, doesn't really happen to me much. 2) When I spend some time carefully formulating the exact phrase I am going to say when I approach people.

I corrected it by turning off my brain and just making quick decisions. If I want to talk to a hot girl, I just talk to her instead of taking a minute to plan it all out.

lookiamapollo · 2012-03-19T19:58:46+00:00

I am the opposite. I can introduce myself to someone, smack their ass, and deliver a great one liner/witty retort after that I have no substance.

You cant stutter when your singing.

TheRealCalculon · 2012-03-19T20:08:10+00:00

Breathe. From the diaphragm. Strong breaths. Now, just memorize a simple opener. Be it just "Hi, I'm so and so" Whatever. Then imagine you're acting a part instead of putting yourself on the line. James Earl Jones has a stutter. He didn't speak at all as a child. Actors and singers don't have it when they're acting or singing. So try memorizing stuff and breathing deep and not stressing out. There's a lot online that will help if you google it

HelloAdventure · 2012-03-19T21:15:40+00:00

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Title	Seddit, I'm a stutterer and need some advice!
Author	HelloAdventure
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Date	March 19, 2012 2:32 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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