Should I make her slightly jealous or will it backfire?

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SplashGodNate · 2024-11-28T20:49:10+00:00

I’ve discovered that just by focusing on yourself and living your own life, you tend to attract plenty of women. Don’t focus on impressing her or making her jealous, live the way you want and the women will follow

bad_intentions_too · 2024-11-28T20:52:40+00:00

Or maybe she’s just not into it any more.

riccardo2002ric · 2024-11-28T20:41:52+00:00

Go with another girl and play the preselection to reignite the spark. If it doesn't work then she doesn't like you period.

KoleSekor · 2024-11-28T21:03:06+00:00

You have nothing to lose.

ElDub62 · 2024-11-28T21:46:02+00:00

Stop thinking about intentionally playing games with someone. That says more about you than her.

burncushlikewood · 2024-11-29T02:03:45+00:00

This sub isn't really about singling out one girl, and I would never suggest intentionally trying to make her jealous, myself have done this, but I try to be more subtle with it. I'll be at a club just being myself talking to different girls, this usually works, but be careful using jealousy as a weapon because it can often backfire if she becomes too jealous. Also 4 dates and you haven't made out or had sex, not a good sign, you may be in the friendzone you need to touch her more, and somehow communicate that you want sex. One time I happened to bring up a situation unintentionally to a woman, it was related to my personal relationships, yea I could see her face get flush red and she was angry jealous, ended the conversation and walked away. This is not good as an intensely jealous woman will be resentful and lose attraction, while a slightly jealous woman will have her interest piqued, which is much better than the overly jealous woman.

cyrusm_az · 2024-11-29T04:59:14+00:00

Just ignore her. Don’t block, just ignore. Either she comes around or she doesn’t. Find someone else

Far-Sir1362 · 2024-11-28T20:42:00+00:00

It's been around 2 weeks since we last went out, and I tried inviting her for a fun date but she had quite a few excuses, which was surprising. Ever since she gave those excuses she hasn't texted back, leaving me on "read".

She's losing interest. If you chase her even more, she'll lose interest even more because you'll seem clingy.

I invited her to a concert and I was thinking of going and posting the concert on instagram. Would that make her slightly jealous as in 'she'd wonder with whom I was going with' or would it backfire and be very obvious those were my intentions?

I don't want to play hard mind games

Well the other paragraph directly contradicts this since you were considering going to a concert just to make her jealous.

Go to the concert with whoever you want and just enjoy it and forget about her. Focus on enjoying your life, maybe one day she'll come back, or maybe she won't but you'll be off having a good time either way.

Kroddy1134 · 2024-11-28T21:30:32+00:00

If you need to make her jealous for her to see how amazing a dude you are, you’re better off moving on and meeting the next girl.

The right girl won’t make excuses and will make the effort to spend time with you or properly communicate why she has to reschedule

Dwerg1 · 2024-11-29T00:08:57+00:00

If she's not interested in you it won't work.

If she's interested in you it might work if her self-respect is low enough, but if she has high self-respect she'll be repulsed by it.

If she's interested in you she'd make herself more available without you needing to resort to manipulative games.

She's not that interested. Making a bunch of excuses and then not responding is a pretty clear sign.

thiswontlastlongv · 2024-11-29T06:22:00+00:00

It’s over.

If she doesn’t want to suck your dick by the 3rd time she’s met you, there’s no “fun date” that is going to excite her

I think some of you guys think women can’t go to fun places with thier friends or alone, the fun place is supposed to highlight YOUR personality, not be a fucking day trip

If she wanted to go to a concert… she would

What would ACTUALLY make her jealous if you got a new flat… that’s what make women raise an eyebrow

mabden · 2024-11-29T03:17:39+00:00

This may be outside the realm of seduction, but the book Saving a Low Sex Marriage by the bluepillprofessor explains the concept and stages of dread.

In short, trying to "produce" jealousy is usually counterproductive.

callmeKhev · 2024-11-29T03:27:40+00:00

Hey great answers overall.

I guess I'm just overthinking things and should just focus on giving her space and continuing with my life without giving too much thought on it.

It sucks when someone clicks after a while of random not-so-good one night stands and flings tho, that's what made me worried. But I guess that's just life reminding me to choose me again.

doubleup___ · 2024-11-29T05:23:40+00:00

If you go with another girl, make sure it isn’t solely to spite the first one… you’re likely to lose out on both of them.

Focus on keeping your options open, and make the best of it…

And since a concert isn’t necessarily the ideal date, try to peep choosing signals from some of the woman at the venue while you’re there…

I have women friends that I go out with from time to time and I simultaneously use as eyecandy-wingmen when in appropriate settings. those are the ones who claim to have no little to no interest in me.

A pretty woman will see you with another pretty woman and it raises their curiosity, even if you say “oh that’s just my friend” just like they do to us… then that raises the respect factor because it shows dick discipline, on top of you having the confidence to approach.

Title	Should I make her slightly jealous or will it backfire?
Author	callmeKhev
Upvotes	9
Comments	25
Date	November 28, 2024 8:25 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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