Should I pull back from this girl?

Jmibbk77 · 2026-04-17T08:44:58+00:00

I think you should pull back. In the sense that you should be busy enough that you’re fine with seeing her once a week.

Ideally it should be her that’s chasing your time, because if you’re signaling that you’re always available or even ready to change your plans in order to see her, trust me that’s gonna kill the attraction real quick.

I would just play it cool for now and definitely stop putting pressure on her to meet more often

Back2theCouture · 2026-04-17T11:19:24+00:00

Ideally getting clingy is a woman’s role. Don’t take her role. Now she’s doing a man’s role who needs to lead you and to say no.

DrBarackPendergrass · 2026-04-17T10:09:53+00:00

QUOTE: ”I really liked her….” — (Did you hit it right? You sure?) Sometimes women pull back and even run from men who ”show that they Really Like them…” (Dumb, but true……)

Don’t initiate for a while, only respond (mainly when she’s DTF), focus on yourself and your goals, and start seeing other women until you’re monogamous (which you should’ve been doing anyway) so you’re not so fixated on any particular girl.

Altruistic-Patient-8 · 2026-04-17T11:08:18+00:00

Absolutely pull back. From a personal perspective, it feels like you're begging for attention, and thats not fair to you.

Routine_Scheme2355 · 2026-04-17T22:44:33+00:00

From a woman's perspective: once a week for someone you just met is very normal. I did that with my long-term relationship for the first three months. You want to take it slow and give each other time. Give it time and get yourself busy. Also, don't take her “no” very personally. She might like you but does not want to rush into things. You can put the ball back in her court and say something along the lines of of “ I would like to see you again. When are you free to hang out next?”

venomreps · 2026-04-17T13:57:13+00:00

Pay attention to who pay attention to you. It's need to be mutual. Your energy and attention should be the same

Hydroplanet · 2026-04-18T02:08:42+00:00

Be direct like an actual man and stop playing games. These comments are dumb. Also, still be a man if you don’t like her answer and don’t beg or try to convince her otherwise. Either she’s playing games and you call it out and things get better or she tells you she’s seeing someone else and it’s more serious and you get clarity. Tons more girls out there if this doesn’t pan out.

ArkansasDood · 2026-04-17T11:55:34+00:00

tattooedpanhead · 2026-04-17T23:16:45+00:00

Find something fun to do. Then call her and ask her if she would like to go do X. If she says no? Go with out her take lots of selfies and post them on your Instagram. Then wait for her to call you. Don't expect her to call right away. But if you don't call for a while. She'll start to wonder or even miss you.

And if she doesn't call? Just keep working on yourself. And go have fun even if by yourself. You're sure to meet other girls. Just make sure you're seen one in a while.

Title	Should I pull back from this girl?
Author	chipsanta
Upvotes	12
Comments	17
Date	April 17, 2026 8:35 AM UTC (3 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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