My first cold approach today!

RedDeAngelo · 2020-06-04T15:25:46+00:00

First cold approach and it was a group. Props to you man.

rebelprogrammer11 · 2020-06-04T16:16:44+00:00

wow u approach a group? idk when i can be like u 😭

FJackxd · 2020-06-04T17:16:58+00:00

I remember the first time i approached a group. Her friends just kept giggling and it makes me really nervous lol

BlacBlood · 2020-06-04T16:25:46+00:00

Realest shit is approaching a group of girls for one of their numbers. I remember approaching a table full of like 6 girls at a restaurant and I asked one of the girls for their number. She gave me the damn wrong number but the feeling you get when you approach them like you completely don’t give a fuck is legendary especially if they’re a huge group lmao

bailsrv · 2020-06-04T16:57:52+00:00

My now boyfriend approached me last year when I was with my friend. Keep trying bc it can end in a good way 😊

ydeathrider132 · 2020-06-04T17:27:35+00:00

That's so cool bro! I was scrolling down the comments and saw that you are from Romania , so I wanted to say hi from Cluj! :) Also , I wanted to ask you if you went up there and talked only to that one girl or did you try and make small talk with all of them? I think it might have been a good idea to try and include the rest of the girls in the conversation too!

johnprynsky · 2020-06-04T17:27:38+00:00

Group as the first approach? You're my hero dude How did you open?

Odawg20miles · 2020-06-04T18:45:13+00:00

Big time move. Now your confidence is only going to improve next time you approach. This was a beautiful post.

wikuss475 · 2020-06-04T15:42:45+00:00

Legend has it up there ^{^{^}}

shes_ambitious · 2020-06-04T15:43:02+00:00

This.

Keep learning & improving king, you got this.

AvocadoBeats · 2020-06-04T17:25:02+00:00

Damn, you approached a group AND after passing them by. Good job!

WhiteBoobs · 2020-06-04T17:31:28+00:00

Nice fucking job dude. Braver than I was when I did my first one aswell, I had to wait until she was alone lmao.

casadechay · 2020-06-04T20:33:48+00:00

as a woman who doesn’t understand why guys don’t try this more.. thank you r/seduction

DrakesBrokeCousin · 2020-06-04T21:36:41+00:00

Should not have asked for the insta after she said she had a boyfriend, what’s the point?

ydeathrider132 · 2020-06-04T17:44:33+00:00

Salut :) . I am born and raised in Cluj , just wanted to keep the comments in English so that others may understand what I asked you! I remember the feeling of others girls giggling when you're around so I want to say that I'm proud of you and keep doing it!

RapTVCalifornia · 2020-06-04T21:18:26+00:00

Groups are hard. Kudos to you for ballsy doing kt

chipsanta · 2020-06-04T17:09:24+00:00

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shreksfannypack · 2020-06-04T18:14:32+00:00

Great stuff my guy! Keep at it

MagnumBurrito · 2020-06-04T18:29:21+00:00

Props man! Big step

n1ckh4lden · 2020-06-04T18:33:10+00:00

This is awesome bro!!

This is how it’s done, we should all do this. Great probs to you man. Keep at it, it’s a numbers game

chipsanta · 2020-06-04T19:03:07+00:00

Man this is awesome🔥

stevenhosss · 2020-06-04T19:23:17+00:00

7Saturn7Saturn7 · 2020-06-04T22:20:01+00:00

Read this message only after doing twenty five more approaches:

Alright, ready? At some point you have to go beyond the meet cute movie vibe because it's too validating to the woman upfront. It's addictive because the woman is overjoyed and will give you all sorts of positive feedback but then the easiest thing for her to do is reject you. Why? It's like she got her paycheck at the start of the week regardless of what she does, so why would she go into work (remember an approach is work for her too). Make no mistake that "I have a boyfriend" is a rejection line, and you'll get it less as your game improves. I told you to do more approaches in the same style because I think it's important to see how to validate a woman so you can bottle it up and then only give it to her when she goes along with your escalation. So how DO you go beyond? Basically you have to start off more indirect and mix in more sexual tones into your flirtation. Instead of saying she's cute use an innuendo then say she's cute if she goes along with it etc. Basically give her some romantic flirting only after she's accepted a little sexual flirting. As a more advanced technique you can open meet cute but then kill the vibe before she can reject you as a kind of "try before you buy".

ZmasterFlash69 · 2020-06-04T23:33:34+00:00

Bravo, keep up the good work. Not becoming a player, but communicating with a member of the opposite sex up close and in person. It took balls and will get easier the next time. You made that girl’s day and why wouldn’t she be elated as you were respectful and funny. Keep going, in sales we would say that’s one less no, to the one yes that will hopefully find you the girl of your dreams...

sardar--khan · 2020-06-05T00:37:24+00:00

Bro proud of you. u son of a bitch u did it

SteveSan82 · 2020-06-05T11:44:46+00:00

Best part is you're not crying about the rejection

hrishavkant · 2020-06-04T17:38:57+00:00

Bruh

Mistresslourdes · 2020-06-04T20:52:41+00:00

That’s great. I think women rarely think about how hard it must be for a man to come up especially with friends around.But I think it’s awesome to do it in person. I have spent years putting myself in experiences that scared me-but sometimes you just have to jump. And when you get past it, you realize how empowering it is. It really doesn’t matter if you get shot down, it’s more about building your confidence. Keep going ;)

udntcre · 2020-06-04T21:49:57+00:00

Chances made every champion. Without taking chance you'll never win! Big ups to you!

wolfsman · 2020-06-04T22:15:03+00:00

How did you start the conversation? My problem is not knowing what to say...

Desktop8 · 2020-06-04T22:35:12+00:00

Que crack 😎👊

vamsig66 · 2020-06-04T23:01:03+00:00

Congrats man! Keep it up. You will quickly become desensitized to the approach anxiety. Make sure you keep doing what you did consistently and be prepared for most girls to not be interested in you but if you keep it at you will quickly start getting results (phone numbers, dates, hookups, etc)! It’s an excellent feedback process actually. The results you get are gonna boost your confidence and women will pick up on it so it will become less of a numbers game the more you do it! But you will still have your good and bad days. Keep at it!

chipsanta · 2020-06-04T23:18:14+00:00

Guys I really appreciate all your support. Didn’t expect this post to get this much attention. You are great!

inmyownterms · 2020-06-05T00:12:58+00:00

Awesome bro!

yhiml · 2020-06-05T00:47:38+00:00

This is a way of became a real man

bluestreakace · 2020-06-05T01:09:13+00:00

Props to you for doing it with a group of girls. That takes balls! If you’re able to do that for your first cold approach, you’re future is bright with women my man

SamsaranVoid · 2020-06-05T01:25:07+00:00

Good stuff man, very brave

DajuanKev · 2020-06-05T02:02:48+00:00

Approaching isn't just about succeeding. A good approach can still be memorable that will keep you positive. Bruh, I have a lot of memorable approaches that I still cherish and are like blueprints.

pua_max · 2020-06-05T02:10:21+00:00

Congrats bro for starting. There's a whole world of success out there bro. Race ya there ;)

gigglybutt22 · 2020-06-05T04:06:11+00:00

“yet” lol but awesome that’s great! setting an example

iqiu · 2020-06-05T06:54:54+00:00

In my day i had more luck with cold approaches and partly i think because it shows you have the confidents to actually put yourself out there. I think it might be ingrained in us given dms are like at most one generation of humans as opposed to every prior generation had to face each other .

JessD100 · 2020-06-05T07:25:23+00:00

You got guts dude

muntal · 2020-06-05T07:58:48+00:00

Another method, instead of ask for number, is give your number.

h1mera · 2020-06-05T09:36:48+00:00

You should not give up that easy! And if you tried everything and she still does not want to give you her number then you should give her your number. Write it on a paper for example.

MattPruga · 2020-06-05T14:36:12+00:00

Nice one! Little tip: don't ask for her instagram, she should take yours always

aknchris16 · 2020-06-05T14:59:05+00:00

Proud of you man!! I actually did the same thing yesterday while at work. I saw this girl with her friend and seen her a couple times, but was too scared to go up to her and say anything. So I finally saw her one more time (they were both walking in front of me pretty far away) and I ran up to catch up with them and told them to slow down. I told the girl I thought she was really pretty and asked if she had a boyfriend. Sadly she said yeah she did. I definetly could of been better with my approach, but hey its a learning experience. I’ll do better next time. Im just proud of myself that I went up to her

cuandoquieras · 2020-06-07T22:44:58+00:00

love the line “i’m not really the shirt and chinos dude”

ijustcantwithit · 2020-06-04T16:35:53+00:00

One day I hope a guy does this for me! I think it shows guts and grit to do that!! Way to go and good luck with future attempts!!!

SammySafari22 · 2020-06-04T19:30:00+00:00

Who the fuck says no to an instagram lol

SirStiff_ · 2020-06-04T19:56:45+00:00

What was your pick-up line?

HoobaDooba420 · 2020-06-04T20:54:10+00:00

Wher was this

absolutelynp · 2020-06-04T21:44:51+00:00

you felt good? I feel like shit after this seeing how much effort it is to get girls...its ridicoulus

omkar-m · 2020-06-05T13:48:53+00:00

I also did my first approach in march (rejected), was nervous a lot but after the approach i just felt there is not that much of threat of cold approaching, but then this covid 19 lockdown. But give me tips for cold approach after this lockdown shit.

chippi-chippy · 2020-06-10T19:28:36+00:00

Congratulations man! That first one is the hardest but they get easier along the way

rundatbul · 2020-07-01T15:13:06+00:00

You see? It's not always about "winning", it's the chase that gets the blood flowing. It can get addictive.

SirFoxtrotAlpha · 2020-06-04T19:25:33+00:00

Awesome! No need to be a player, but that's a good start in bringing your confidence up.

ShutArkhamCityDown · 2020-06-05T12:12:33+00:00

I can always tell the OP couldn’t get the girl’s number whenever I see a title like this lmao.

Congrats anyway.

macaroon18 · 2020-06-04T16:48:01+00:00

no lockdown where you are?

mr_Tobbor · 2020-06-04T18:08:42+00:00

Only 9999 remain to win a date (flake).

Title	My first cold approach today!
Author	chipsanta
Upvotes	743
Comments	125
Date	June 4, 2020 3:12 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/gwjbj1/my_first_cold_approach_today/
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