Texting Rules For When You've Already Landed The Girl?

hotwingz83 · 2013-07-02T14:44:55+00:00

TIL /r/seduction sucks at relationship advice.

sedmeepsy · 2013-07-02T14:22:18+00:00

Rules relax once in a relationship. Rules I would still follow
1. Do not over text her
2. Avoid any neediness in your texting
3. Just make sure to keep things interesting. Lots of dull boring texting conversations can cause loss of attraction from either side.

2013-07-02T13:45:23+00:00

Geez, no they don't apply in a relationship.

AloofTortoise · 2013-07-02T14:58:57+00:00

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philatanus · 2013-07-02T16:02:08+00:00

you have to set a boundary. the last gf i had wanted to text me all the time, then ended up breaking up with me because she felt like we were more friends than anything.

if you're at work or in class or what ever you do, tell her you will not text her at those times. tell her when its too much, or you're busy. you still have to make her want you and if you're available to her all the time, there is no incentive for her to want you.

with that though, you have to give her some of you some of the time. if you are too unavailable she'll move on. its a fine line.

BaconBoob · 2013-07-02T16:17:29+00:00

There are better subs for relationship advice, but here are my two cents.

Just be yourself and if you want to text her, text her. If you want to call her, call her. There are no "rules" for this.

If before you became her boyfriend, you were using your "pickup persona" then I'd say you're pretty much fucked. Because if you keep it up, it won't be an honest relationship and you won't be happy and if you change to your true self, she will notice the difference and things might not end up too well.

If you were being your true self when trying to "land" her, then just do what you do and don't worry about coming off "too needy" because if that's who you really are and she really likes you and might eventually love you, then great because the best thing about being in a relationship is being able to be 100% yourself around the person you love.

That being said, relationships are give and take and may involve some sacrifices by both parties and things of the sort. so just play it out and if you see that she doesn't appreciate you texting/calling her every second you're apart, then fix it. You can't generalize with relationships because no two are alike. So just "play by ear" and do what you feel will be better for your relationship without losing who you really are.

Edit: Spelling and shit.

lord-denning · 2013-07-02T17:04:35+00:00

Text like crazy, but never more than her and never in a needy manner. Always stop before she is fully satisfied and wants the conversation to end. Make her laugh and make her day bro, she's your gf.

vinniedamac · 2013-07-02T14:09:54+00:00

You still have to maintain attraction, but you can also now open communications to talk about stuff such as texting rules?

yokhai · 2013-07-02T15:43:33+00:00

THERE ARE NO RULES!

Text whatever the fuck you feel like and guage her responses. Seriously. You can literally say anything once you get a feel for the chick.

Every girl is different. Experiment and stop caring so much.

-lifesgood- · 2013-07-02T15:42:15+00:00

tread carefully dont get caught in a text trap where youre expected to text her every 2 minutes trust me it sucks

Geaux · 2013-07-02T13:51:38+00:00

Seduction should never stop in a relationship, otherwise she'll see you as a fake, "not the man I dated". Seduction is not only about what to say and do, but it is also about changing your outlook on life as a whole. If you stop seducing her, the relationship will get stale.

Phaint · 2013-07-02T19:34:10+00:00

The Game Is Always On.

DipDipPotatoChip · 2013-07-03T00:11:39+00:00

Just text with her as much as you feel. If you think about to text more or less to her - like when you feel you text talk too much - ask her -once- if she's okay with it. That's it, dead simple.

Do what you think is right. If you don't you are trying to be someone else.

everyoneismyfriend · 2013-07-03T01:07:56+00:00

in my experience once you've landed the girl, there is nothing wrong with texting her a good amount. if youre good at keeping a text convo going it can be a fun and useful tool to help pass the slow moving work day.

jblzk · 2013-07-03T01:27:46+00:00

Actually it works wonder to land the girl. Dirty talking in a text before you score is very effective to build strong attraction. I don't know anyone else who does that. It's bold and it works.

2013-07-04T19:04:35+00:00

First - a relationship is always the same like gaming her (don't stop, not even after 10 years)

Second - How much value would you give yourself? You don't have to answer this, but think about it.

Edit: Act natural and fuck these seduction rules. Find your own lifestyle maybe based on them but don't follow them like a robot. Alpha, Beta, Gamma.

And don't try to analyze every situation! Enjoy the moment. Not every sentence from her is spoken to test you, if you are the right one.

PLplotsOTS · 2013-07-02T17:24:19+00:00

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wolfie1010 · 2013-07-03T12:55:32+00:00

This isn't so much a seduction question as it is a tolerance question. Do you want to spend half your life responding to idle text messages?

Set the expectation early on this. Call her a couple times a day rather than text a thousand times a day. At least that's how I prefer to do it.

Title	Texting Rules For When You've Already Landed The Girl?
Author	nycprowl
Upvotes	61
Comments	37
Date	July 2, 2013 1:23 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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