Let's take a standard 'model' of seduction, where sexual tension rises linearly:

  1. Meeting the girl, 'friendly strangers'
  2. 'Building attraction', qualifying, DHV-s, finding rapport
  3. Going for the kiss, kissing the girl
  4. Heavy sexual escalation, treading into foreplay
  5. Sex

If my memory serves correctly, this was the simple frame behind the Mystery Method, and it is in fact how a pick up scenario is expected to go down in the minds of everyone on the planet. You meet someone, you vibe together and have fun, make out & take it from there to the nearest practical flat surface or unguarded restroom.

Before we go on, because I don't like using any of the PUA lingo, step 2. from henceforth will be referred to as 'Demonstrating that you're not a horrible fucking creep but a fairly cool fellow' and 4. will be known as 'Trying to sexually vandalize the girl on the spot'. No, this isn't rape, this just refers to the bold escalations, hands down the pants sort of actions.

Now, here's my version of the same five steps:

  1. Meeting the girl, the friendly strangers vibe (1)
  2. Going for the kiss, kissing the girl (3)
  3. Sexually vandalizing the girl on the spot (4)
  4. Demonstrating that you are not a weirdo (2)
  5. Sex (5)

Egads, you may say, why on Earth would I want to mix up such a simple and elegant solution?

Fairly simple. A flat raise of sexual tension works most of the times in movies and lucky scenarios. Down in the busy clubs and bars, to stand out from every other creep she's met so far, you're going to need to create a wave out of it.

Moreover, if the girl is into you from the get-go, my version of the five steps should go just as fluid as the old MM one. In lucky cases, step four might be communicated through the way you order a cab or just lead the girl to the place of action, and no real fluffing is necessary.

Most of the time though, you will encounter resistance as you try to progress. The chump approach would be going a step down on the sexual tension ladder, eg. if the girl doesn't let you kiss her, then you start 'selling yourself' with whatever the fuck it is you do, then you try later.

I call this the chump approach because it doesn't work, and even when it does, you end up stuck with the 1-2-3-4-5 progression.

To make the five steps work in the way I described, you have to stick to it, and upon resistance, take a step or later on, a step and a half back. Realize that 'no' means 'not now'. You failed to kiss her - okay, go back to the vibe of friendly strangers. This will cause the girl to be more and more open up to the idea of kissing you, on the level of a 'need' sometimes - give it time and try again.

Suppose she declines your attempts at fingering her in the middle of the venue - which is perfectly reasonable. If you go back to make out, she might be satisfied with that (remember, it throws you back to the old progression), so you get nothing at the end. This is where you take a step and a half back, somewhere between friendly strangers and making out, letting the tension build up again - and at boiling point, she will be more than welcome to your attempts at vandalizing her in whatever creative ways you have in mind.

This is in fact the reason that I feel demonstrating that you are not a weirdo is necessary - so there is a low charged interval before the finish. The results will vary - it might be a 'it just happened' sort of sex, where it all flows out naturally, or a total frenzy of sexual emotions sweeping both of you away, but there will be results.

And like I said, step four might be reduced to a single action or solution to logistical issues.

How does this differ from a standard escalation ladder?

Well, first off, it's NOT an escalation ladder. It can be applied as such, as in it can all go down one night/afternoon, or in a single scenario, but it isn't an escalation ladder. Because it's scalable in time, it serves as sort of a 'script' for a girl you just met for the reason of having sex (regardless of later plans). As long as you keep 'five stepping' with a girl, it doesn't matter if they are covered in two dates or two iterations, or more. Anyone who has cut off an interaction on a really charged note knows that chicks will practically jump on you the next chance they get.

As a disclaimer though, I'd like to add that without the proper foundations, five stepping is not a solution to anyone. To pull this off with results, you need to be a man who can communicate directly to the woman, holding eye contact, keeping proximity with confident physical contact all the way through. But once you have that, I don't think you need a simpler 'flowchart' than this.