Uni freshman advice request

BPhair · 2011-01-12T03:44:35+00:00

I think she is trying to set you up with the shy friend.

This is commonly referred to as a 'bait and switch'.

chumpta · 2011-01-12T05:17:50+00:00

In true reddit fashion, I've never k-closed or f-closed a girl

it might look very similar, and it's only one letter off, but this is seddit. true seddit fashion is a lot different. i think you'll like it.

now you just had a hot asian fall into your lap. play it cool, and don't be afraid to fuck shit up. youre at college, there will be other opportunities. but dont use that as an excuse not to make a move. it is your excuse TO make a move.

in terms of particulars, when you meet up with this girl, start with a hug and a smile. when you're in lecture sitting next to each other, pay attention or whatever but do something fun with her too. like pass notes or throw paper at her head. when it gets playful enough you can probably poke her and such beneath/behind the desks. there's your kino.

texting needs to be even more laid back in this situation, you live on the same floor, you may not even need to text at all. in fact i may go so far as to say don't text her once, unless she starts it.

after that specifics are going to fall apart, follow the general warming her up for sex and logistical advice that you can gather from the FAQ or some classic pickup materials.

you're new - remember, the most important thing is to learn from this experience. it's just a bonus if you get to learn some sex moves on top of that.

TofuTofu · 2011-01-12T15:58:57+00:00

Just remember this: Abundance mentality.

Don't get hung up on any girls, HB7 or HB9 or anyone.

You are an awesome person who is highly sought after! Do not forget this fact and you'll do just fine.

Ledatru · 2011-01-12T18:57:26+00:00

Just hang out with her more... and once you feel like you two are comfortable, you can start making moves

2011-01-13T03:51:53+00:00

I wouldn't mention what you do other than, "I've got a job. I love it." I feel like saying "I'm a CTO." would be over the top boasting.

Avoid gold diggers. :)

Artivist · 2011-01-12T04:20:41+00:00

Good practice as any! You'll be fine. It's freshman year. They think you're the shit. Don't be afraid to touch her, wear a condom, don't tell her you love her after sex. Or before. Ever. Unless you get into an LTR. Then it's ok. You can fight with her over the phone who loves who more and it'd be cute.

Go for the HB7.

Asians, god. Heart em.

fcdnl · 2011-01-12T05:18:03+00:00

Obviously, one day to learn these things can be a bit difficult. You have a lot of confidence about you so definitely keep that mentality, it is great.

The best advice I can give is, be yourself but don't be a bitch.

The rest of this might very well fuck you up if you try to do it in a day.

Be a man. Lead her, be decisive.
You are now a touchy-feely kind of guy. Hug her when you see her. Walk right up to her smiling, open your arms and pull her in with a great big hug and a squeeze, feel those boobs against your chest. No cheap ass hugs!
Read the kino escalation ladder. Touch her arm. Touch her hand. Grab her hand and lead her around in tight spaces.
Use fucking eye contact. The greatest thing you can do is look at her for a prolonged period of time (think 3 seconds) and give her a light smile or smirk. This should be done after some sexual tension is built. Don't say a word, let the silence do the talking. And when you make eye contact when she's talking, have an open face that is non-threatening, and continue to be genuinely intrigued with what she is saying.
Don't smile the whole friggen time. You are happy to be talking to her but this isn't the first HB9 who has given you her time. You are awesome after all.
Good posture at all times.
Don't use a weak voice.
If you are sitting somewhere, never sit across from her. It is best to sit at a 45 degree angle which increases cooperation and kino. Across creates tension and decreases kino (obviously). Sit next to her if you have to, it is better.
In terms of texting, one text: "Hey let's meet at X. See you soon." Don't over text. It's annoying as fuck for you anyway. I give girls six texts a day at most. Most days two, every other day or so zero. Actually why text when you can call? Call her, say hey let's meet at x before class.
Don't worry about kissing this girl so soon. You should be able to work up to a kiss on the cheek within a couple of hours. You will likely not be well calibrated for such a quick kiss so soon. If you kino like a champ the kiss will come easily, when the two of you are isolated and within a foot of each other. Awkward kisses happen when the guy moves in a couple of feet to go in for the kiss. Don't do that. You'll be close, she'll have these big wet dilated eyes looking up at you, and you kiss her. Don't bitch out when that opportunity arrives, you'll know it.

jagermeistr · 2011-01-12T05:23:29+00:00

Biggest advice for freshmen in college: if you put yourself out there socially, approach girls, and maintain relationships with girls on your floor (meaning being a fun guy who stays in the loop) you will develop on a basic level all the skills you're asking about here. If you set your mind to it and put in the effort, you will get laid. Hey, I pulled it off and I had very little sexual experience at that age. College will change that if you let it.

Why text when you live on the same floor and can walk by their room to invite them over to pregame? I'm learning the hard way at 23 that texts are much less dynamic and effective than calling or showing up in person. In college you live in the same place as the people you're trying to contact, face to face is better.

afcanonymous · 2011-01-12T05:39:17+00:00

I agree with BPhair. Seems like your target is the HB 7, but make sure. Get her number from HB 9 after making sure. The HB 9 will most likely try to talk about HB7, so don't bring it up.

Don't text too much. Keep it very laconic. Text asking to hang out. Do something low investment, like ask her to chill at the quad, or grab lunch at the cafeteria. "I'm gonna grab lunch later at X cafeteria, join me?" This is to get her comfy with you. Don't talk too much, ask her about her life. Don't boast, make her ask questions about you.
Don't worry about kino with college girls on a date/ hang out. Don't let it seem like you're trying to date her.
College Freshmen girls are just as awkward and inexperienced as you are.
Ask her to come to your room for a movie at some point, either during the hanging out part, or some time when you're both free.
10-15 minutes into a not very interesting movie (use Netflix streaming or something), turn to her, hold eye contact and tell her you're bored with the movie. Hold eye contact and move in for kiss.
If she's too shy to kiss you back, smile, and ask her if she's shy. If she is, then telll her to relax and try again.
This should be step 1. Masturbate before your date. If you end up fucking, then you don't want to come too early.

cheddarchexmix · 2011-01-12T21:01:27+00:00

You've gotten plenty of pickup advice, so I'll just throw this professional advice out there. Even though you may have a good job already, it is a huge help to your resume down the line to graduate with a very good GPA. If you're going to a prestigious CS program like CMU, that's good, but graduating with a great GPA helps even more.

I have directly hired well over 200 CS grads in my career, and seen probably 10,000 resumes, and so I'm telling you from experience that a good GPA on your resume will help you down the road. Even for guys 4+ years out of a good college, something like a 3.8+ on their resume would help move them up the stack for me.

Hope this helps and isn't too out of line for Seddit - good jobs will help your lifestyle :)

Title	Uni freshman advice request
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Date	January 12, 2011 3:22 AM UTC (15 years ago)
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