what is a high value man?

I’m seeing this question going around the interwebs recently trying to define exactly what a high value Man is.

Some of the answers are okay, some are completely off.

“A Man that other Men want to be, and Women want to be with”

Yeah that’s an effect of it, but that doesn’t define what you need to do in order to truly be a high value Man.

Everyone seems to be missing the big picture on this.

I’m going to pull back the curtain on what it truly means to be a high value Man.

I’ll get right into it…

You have to understand that when you label something as “high value”, you need to define WHO is valuing it.

Most of these definitions that are getting thrown around out there are just debating what Women value.

There’s actually 3 people that you need to consider when you want to label someone as a “high value Man”.

Although attractive Women are one of those 3 people who you’re valuable to…

They're actually the LEAST important and the easiest to be valuable to because they have the lowest value standards in general.

AND it’s only getting easier since most Men nowadays have this all completely wrong and are wasting their time trying to get the attention of the wrong people.

They’re having little success because they're doing it wrong, and they've given up entirely.

Think about this for a second…

I’ve heard Guys talking over and over about what your value is to young college girls and club Girls before they ever mention what your value is to the other 2 people I’m going to tell you about.

Girls whose time is spent getting “wasted”, trying to be seen at the coolest after parties, and scrolling on their phones for 7+ hours a day.

Girls Who haven’t even started to develop themselves as human beings, and really have no clue what is truly valuable in life yet.

Is that who you really want to base your value on?

Someone whose values you don’t share or don’t think much of yourself?

Maybe you’re trying to bank millions to impress young hot girls.

Hot girls that are still in college.

At a party playing beer pong with a frat guy with hundreds of thousands of dollars IN COLLEGE DEBT living in a bunk bed.

Maybe you want Women a little older, say late twenties or so.

What do they value?

Hopefully they value fitness and taking care of themselves instead of “not having the time” to go to the gym and eat healthy. And hopefully you do as well :)

Hopefully they start to see the bigger picture and are starting to value more than partying on the weekends getting trashed to escape the jobs they hate.

Hopefully they don’t value…

Binging on shitty food for comfort.

Talking shit about people and gossipping about their “friends”.

Scrolling on social media and dating apps several hours a day for unhealthy comparison and false validation instead of having discipline to do something good for themselves.

Sitting home being anti-social, cuddling their dogs watching shallow TV because they “hate people”.

Hopefully they have goals and values and want to make something for themselves rather than look to cash out and find a Man to marry so he can provide for them so they don’t have to do anything anymore.

Boss him around, manipulate him, emasculate him, and truly let themselves go.

Then when they lose every ounce of attraction to him, divorce him and take half of his money and the kids.

Hopefully they value a Man who has value to the other 2 types of people that are MORE IMPORTANT THAN WOMEN…

NOW let me say this. All Women are NOT like I described above.

I’m not hating on all Women.

I spend my time with Women who are the opposite of what I laid out.

I’ve been turned off enough times by the ones I've met that act according to the poor values I listed.

What I’m saying is that you need to really understand WHO and WHAT kinds of Women are out there, and what you’re trying to attract.

Have some serious standards, and don't compromise your value to the other 2 people that are way more important than trying to be valuable to surface level “Hot Girls”.

The second group of people that you need to consider your value to is other Men.

Since the beginning of time this has been more important than getting a Woman.

In a book called the way of Men, it’s described very well that your value to other Men either kept you alive or got you killed back in the day.

You had to be a warrior and help the larger mission. You may have had a battle to fight and if you slowed the army down, they’d leave you behind to die.

You had to have a skill and contribute to your community. Whether you were a blacksmith or a hunter or a farmer or a leader or whatever.

If you didn’t help out your fellow Man, you were useless and cast out.

No one wanted to be the weakest link in the survival chain.

Nowadays if you don’t have any value as a person, you have no friends.

I can’t tell you how many Men i’ve helped over the years who wanted to attract Women and got better at it, but still had 0 close relationships with anyone else.

Not their family, no guy friends, no one to do anything with. No one to get their back.

They often pursue Women out of sheer loneliness.

It’s cool you can hookup with a few chicks off a dating app or pay a prostitute less than $100 in a foreign country to have sex with you, but do you have brothers that will go to war with you?

Brothers who will teach you things, support you, have your back in tough times, bring you up and make you a better Man?

My brothers are worth their weight in GOLD. Women come and go, but my boys give me insane value for life.

They’re my most precious and valuable asset.

They help me make massive life decisions, help me accomplish all of my goals, bring me up when i’m down, and join me in all the fun and excitement of life.

Oh, and laugh at my jokes.

Even bigger than just your circle, what value do you bring to Mankind in general?

It’s much easier to get a date or have sex with a Woman than land a 6 figure job or start a successful business.

For good reason. You need to be more valuable.

I think that being higher value to other Men and to society in general is the most attractive thing you can be.

It’s why people with influence and power own the world and get all the attention.

The third and most important person you need to consider your value to is yourself.

EVERYONE talking about this high value Man stuff has missed this point entirely.

One of the most important things you need to discover and constantly define for yourself is what YOU value in life.

And it’s always changing.

At the end of your life you want to have a smile and feel like you achieved what I believe is the purpose of life on this earth…

Did you get to do what you wanted to do while you were here?

Did you have love around you and quality relationships with friends, family, and Women?

Did you get to have fun and experience the many thrills and sights and tastes of the world? You have to stay open minded to see them all.

Did you fulfill your potential and make yourself into a badass Man that you are proud of?

Inspire and help anyone else do the same?

Did you earn the freedom and power to do the things you want when you want, with who you want, whenever you want?

THAT is what I value, and that is WAYYYY more important to me than what a Girl on tinder thinks of my 5 pictures.

What are your goals? What type of Man do YOU want to become?

I think riding a harley in the sun through the mountains with a few of my close friends is a perfect day.

I don’t give a FUCK who finds that “high value” or not. Because I do.

I value…

Practical knowledge and skills.

Being a kind and good person.

Having a big, strong and lean body.

Having passive income and enough money to do what I want.

NOT overspending on shit I don’t need and living minimally.

Getting deals and selling things excite me way more than buying expensive stuff.

Having love, support, and deep relationships with my friends and family over having one “partner” who is my “everything”.

Rock and Roll.

Creating things that I think are cool rather than buying mainstream, trendy, or flashy things to fit in or impress people who don't share my tastes and values.

Being more present with the real world and being off social media. (I deleted my personal Instagram and keep no social media on my phone)

Going places that I think are cool rather than the newest “cool spot”.

Meeting Women in person instead of messaging.

Helping other people and making them better.

A sense of accomplishment and staying busy with projects that I enjoy rather than mindless entertainment.

Constantly learning and improving and enjoying that process and privilege.

Etc. etc. etc.

You don’t have to agree with what I value at all and that’s the beauty of it.

You get to choose what you value.

You have to decide what that will be, you can’t let anyone decide for you.

What matters to YOU needs to be what you value first.

Not what attractive looking Women say they value on some podcasts.

Most of them haven’t done the work or had the experience to find what they truly value.

That’s why they are so attracted to a man who knows his values.

They’re inspired by him.

Not a man who compromises his values to appease them.

I value attracting Women and having fun with them.

I have my entire adult life.

But when it was what I valued most, I lost sight of the bigger picture.

When I got back to focusing on my value to Mankind, and more importantly my true value to MYSELF…

I’ve never gotten more attention from Women than now.

AND I was younger, better looking, and more fit back then in my twenties.

But now I know what I value most.

THAT is the type of Man that Women, Men, and everyone gravitate towards.

That's confidence.

That’s a high value Man.

Once you know and are working on your most important values…

Then learn the proper skills to meet and attract Women in the least amount of time and effort with the proper strategy.

And go out and do it. The most important factor is putting yourself out there.

I’ve been working on a book on masculinity for a while now. I should probably finish it.

I think it's needed now more than ever.

Know your values.

Stay strong Men!

-Joe Ducard