What is the general consensus on "ghosting" girls for small amounts of time?

Velvettouch89 · 2025-06-19T21:26:35+00:00

Ghosting to build attraction is childish and immature. You will only get a false sense of security which will eventually give you a real sense of insecurity. You think you're better than someone else that you have to ignore them for them to like you? You've already failed if your absence is the best thing you can give someone.

If things aren't working out between you and a woman, let it be, pressure other options, reply to her if she reaches out, set the date and the date must be entirely on your terms: she comes over to your place with a bottle of wine or seltzer.

The only time ghosting is acceptable is if she is crazy, manipulative, narcissistic, vindictive, evil. And you are not using this as a "trick" to sleep with her, you're using it as a way to protect your sanity and from ever getting into legal trouble.

If you're talking to multiple women, have friends and family and hobbies you spend time with, then you will be naturally busy and won't have time to be available at the drop of a dime. You're at dinner with your mom on mother's Day, you aren't looking at your phone until the next morning when you can respond to someone. Set times for yourself to be available 8am before work, 12 at lunch, and 5:30 when you're off. Only the ones who show the highest interest in you do make random exceptions for. Women better know you have a schedule, and eventually they'll be texting you at your set times knowing you're available because that's what you've shown them.

Seduction isn't manipulation, trickery, or quid-pro-quo: seduction is a dance you take your time on, moving in and out, until she can't handle the tension anymore

LizzoBathwater · 2025-06-19T22:25:28+00:00

Bruh 4 days, she’s gonna assume you lost interest and go fuck some other dude 💀

pendragon2290 · 2025-06-19T23:59:48+00:00

This is so childish.

ImaginaryList174 · 2025-06-19T21:35:54+00:00

If I was dating someone new, and we were still in the excited talking, first few dates phase, and he just stopped answering me for four days for no reason? I would have mentally moved on. A day or two being busy is one thing, and I would understand. Or if you had a reason, like ‘hey I’m out of town for work till Thursday, I’ll hit you up this weekend!” Or something… then ok.. cool. But just mid texting convo, stop responding for four days? lol nah.

Maybe I’m different, but usually for me, in those first initial dating phases, the fun part is texting back and forth getting to know each other in between dates. I personally don’t like to play games, and if I like a guy, then I like him and I’m not going to be trying to respond at strategic times or waiting several hours before responding. That’s all just bullshit to me.

Excellent-Archer-238 · 2025-06-20T03:25:48+00:00

Bad move. She won't take it well and women are unforgiving, she will just drop you and talk with someone else.

You don't have to talk with her 24/7. As long as in person she is fine, how long she takes to text back doesn't matter. Don't be needy. Live your life and don't let it revolve around texting someone.

Beginning_Tap2727 · 2025-06-19T21:39:47+00:00

I immediately cut off men like you 😂 This is not the strategy you think it is, and the other commenter is right that if this is the best thing you have to “give” to a connection you’re gonna be on struggle street

personal_cheezits · 2025-06-19T21:45:48+00:00

As a woman, if we were talking and you suddenly became unavailable, so would I. Playing hard to get isn’t cute or attractive, I don’t have time for games.

Complete_Wave_9315 · 2025-06-19T22:14:26+00:00

If I get that, I’m gone. I like talking to people I’m interested in.

No-Buyer-6278 · 2025-06-20T02:34:20+00:00

You do it right after the first date for 24-48 hours unless she reaches out first. Then you match her energy after. Easy peasy

OkSeaworthiness251 · 2025-06-20T01:48:51+00:00

I did it to upgrade myself and be less of a pussyhound. I came back in 90 days and got most of them all back I couldn’t do it again though, they wouldn’t be so forgiving. I didn’t completely ghost my favs but a couple I straight ghosted I got back. Communication is key. Honestly everyone has rosters these days so ghosting doesn’t really hurt them unless you running bf/situationship game.

BombardMeWithBoobs · 2025-06-20T04:04:41+00:00

Forget the ghosting, as that has already been addressed in other comments. What do you mean that the 2nd date is happening in 2 weeks? Why are you waiting so long to go out again?

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-06-21T13:58:10+00:00

You are reading the situation wrong. You say that you are taking longer to reply because she took longer to reply, but the real question is in the fact that she is taking longer and that's not gonna be fixed by you mirroing her or anything, and texting more often also won't fix it. In other words, regardless of how long you take to text is not gonna fix anything. So what then?

If she is ignoring you is because she is losing interest, not because she is somehow playing a game. You had a date and now her behaviour changed when compared to prior to the date. So her pulling back is a sign that the date simply was not as good as she had hoped for. That is due to not feeling anything signifciant during it, maybe you didn't kiss, maybe you just had a pleassant conversation that stick to platonic topics and thigns in commun and that's it.

Now you also say you both have planed a date in 2 wees time. A lot can happen in such a long time frame, don't assume that she has commited to really go for the date as if she had sign a promise on a contract. It's very likely that she changes her mind before the second date. Why? Because women only do things if they feel like doing them, in other words, if the day of the second date gets closer, and she is feeling off for whatever reason, as in not excited, not anticipating it,... she will likely come up with last minute excuses, but she will not completely shut the door. It's more like she will say "unfortunately i can't, maybe some other day, or "i'll let you know" which are also not real commitments to anything.

So, really the problem here is not about how long you take to text, but about the quality of the texts you send when you decide to text her. Your texts are only high quality if they manage to make her feel something, some intense emotion, laughter, anticipation, hype, surprise, excitement, curiosity, intrigue, tension... etc If your texts are low quality as in generic, platonic, with questions like hey what's up, how's your week so far, you are unlikely to make her feel anything and thus her enthusiasm about a second date will die down even more.

You need to make a second date sound promising without looking like you are trying to convince her and spark emotions here and there that make her feel something. Due to the lack of detail abot your first date, I can't give more insight..

Fun_Character1888 · 2025-06-19T21:19:11+00:00

Yeah I’m kinda in the same boat rn. I’m honestly not against phone dates. Like hit my bong and call em up and chit chat for a while. Maybe watch a movie together or play Fortnite that’s my fave. Had the best Fortnite phone date the other day and we won the match she was psyched ha

I also think chicks want to feel desired and think she can sometimes close off and put a wall up if you disappear ya know. Depends on the situation obvi

BrilliantThought1728 · 2025-06-19T23:19:59+00:00

Whenever i try that, I always end up getting distracted and forgetting to text back at all.

Title	What is the general consensus on "ghosting" girls for small amounts of time?
Author	Spare_Air9406
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Date	June 19, 2025 9:13 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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