I'm dating a girl since last 6 years on and off for most of the times but started living in 2 years ago after getting a job in same city to save high rental costs and support each other emotionally and physically ( one of the worst decisions of my life).
It has been a toxic relationship where we both are from completely different cultures and family values. She is full of feminism, matriarchy and women rights and I have grown up in an orthodox family where patriarchy is still a norm. I'm not as orthodox as I cook meals support her in household work and keep her safe from ogling Indian men when we are out. But her needs never seem to end. She always want more love and emotional support where I always enjoy my own company. I like to explore and travel alone and am a workaholic. She like to spend time at home want to be with me 24x7. I come late from work and she always complains. Also she keeps complaining on how good I am to my parents where I can do anything for them and not the same for her. She doesn't understand my parents have given their lives bringing me up to this state, they have done a lot to me.
Her emotional and love needs are never met so she always keeps crying. Also I have faced real toxicity since last couple of years where she has started blackmailing me that she will tell everything to my parents about our live in status, she will end lives and will file an FIR report to cops if I don't get married to her as I have been delaying marriage as I don't want to get married with such toxicity. I have tried multiple times to leave her but she blackmails me back into it. Some points in her defence - we both are in mid 30s and she has ailing parents who wants her get married soon but she is adamant in getting married only to me.
Recently, she took a drastic step and called my mom and told everything to her that how we are living in and she will report to cops if I don't get married to her as our names are in rent agreement as spouse. My mom has been upset since then and not talking to me properly. She put a lifetime dent in my relationship with my parents. I'll never be able to forgive her for what she has done. I know I shouldn't have hidden this from my parents but they are too orthodox and would have been upset about this.
Please advice what realistically possible options do I have. Should I give up and get married to her and live in a jail with her giving up to the toxicity. Or run away from everything becomes a godman or a sadhu and go and live in the mountains. I dont know where to escape. I'm scared and petrified. Please help.
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