I don't want you

pickmieshaexorcist · 2020-04-01T13:56:02+00:00

One of the cruelest lies women are told is that somehow, men do not understand soft nos, body language and polite social cues. THEY KNOW. They are human like anyone else; they grew up in this society too. They can read soft nos from coworkers/friends/family just fine. But with women, they use the plausible deniability of her not giving him a definite no to pester her into compliance.

You gain NOTHING by being all nice and polite* even after you’ve given a soft no. Now obviously you need to gauge your physical safety, so if in a particular situation your instincts tell you to be nice until you can get away safely then listen to that. But other times, be clear and direct. NO.

”nice and polite” for women that means fawning and giggling and continuing to let a disrespectful man encroach in her space. Anything less than that, even if polite and softly spoken, gets you labeled a b*ch. So why bother being all sweet?!

Trine_tg22 · 2020-04-01T19:29:06+00:00

Having to reject a guy is never pleasant because we don't know how the guy might react (delusional guys actually believe women enjoy rejecting which speaks volumes of their mentality and projection; women don't have the luxury that men have to safely reject someone). What I notice works best as far as rejecting undesirable advances/guys is to not even reply or respond anything; not even a 'no' just physically move away.

ThatGirl60 · 2020-04-01T17:44:53+00:00

Regardless of if I give a soft no or a hard no. No one gets it. It’s the most frustrating, demeaning thing to experience. Your word has no value and nothing you say matters. Luckily it hasn’t gotten to the point of physically being attacked too many times, but I’ve had friends aggressively kiss me or grab me...and that’s under the guise of friendship.

Some women are doomed to live this way it seems. I try to not think about it, I just keep my distance.

Davina33 · 2020-04-01T15:49:57+00:00

This is true. I remember one awful night when my friend and I were 21 we went to a nightclub. This man hit on my friend so we both pretended to be lesbians. It did not work to our astonishment! He went to grab her so she threw her drink over him. Them he punched her in the face! The bouncers bundled him out of the nightclub and I comforted her whilst she received first aid upstairs. Rejecting a man is a very real risk and a scary experience.

Peachypinkpwr · 2020-04-02T02:04:01+00:00

The only thing I miss about being hit on by strangers wanting to fuck is not being able to tell them I don’t want them

I know, right?

He looked disappointed, mumbled okay and walked away.

It's nothing less than he deserved.

Also, please share your most successful rejections of sexual advances.

I would love to know more rejection strategies. Entitled scrotes need to be put in their Place!

GlamorKiss · 2020-04-01T13:51:26+00:00

Not everyone hits the wall. The better you take care of yourself the longer you can stay attractive looking.

So many young men think for example Meghan Markle is stunning and she is in her 40s so she should have hit the wall 10+ years ago.

Everyone always says “But celebrities have access to this and that” well almost anyone can eat vegetables and meat and avoid eating sugar and excess alcohol and exercise if they want to be hot badly enough, and I do want badly enough. You can save up for cosmetic procedures, most of the celebrities you think are “natural beauties” have had work done. If you want it bad enough you will find a way. Yes celebs have it easier but if we start early and really want to age well we can do it.

I personally plan on being beautiful for a long time coming, I’m determined enough to save money for any procedures I could need and also I don’t drink and plan to cut added sugars 100%. I always eat organic plants, fresh seafood and grassfed meat/organic animal products where possible. I plan to not “look my age” for a long time and have the determination to actually do it. I don’t have money like celebs either, just the determination.

eatapeach18 · 2020-04-02T13:27:19+00:00

I think being polite in the workplace is an absolute must, especially when you or that coworker is new. You don’t have to be their best friend or hang out outside of work or anything, you just have to be nice. It’s not about stroking their ego. You just want to be approachable and make a good impression on your new colleagues (regardless if they’re male or female) and I’m sure your boss would notice this too.

But outside of the workplace, you don’t owe anyone anything. Especially in a club. Oh dear god, I’m getting flashbacks of all these gross sweaty guys that would grab my arm in the club and be like “hey baby, let me buy you a drink!” 1. I’m not your baby 2. I don’t accept drinks from strangers 3. Pretty bold of you to assume I’m not here with another man. The audacity.

ThatGirl60 · 2020-04-01T17:45:09+00:00

Regardless of if I give a soft no or a hard no. No one gets it. It’s the most frustrating, demeaning thing to experience. Your word has no value and nothing you say matters. Luckily it hasn’t gotten to the point of physically being attacked too many times, but I’ve had friends aggressively kiss me or grab me...and that’s under the guise of friendship.

Some women are doomed to live this way it seems. I try to not think about it, I just keep my distance.

Title	I don't want you
Author	Wrong-Key
Upvotes	79
Comments	26
Date	April 1, 2020 12:54 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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