I've been following FDS for a while now, but didn't truly start seeing the light (so to speak) until my heart was broken by a LVM who I thought was The One 🤡

Anyway, after working on myself and finding a culturally aware therapist, I have finally seen the light. Now that I feel confident in who I am and can set boundaries, I decided to step into the dating world again. The goal is to find a life partner, but not to make dating a priority in my life because I have so many other things going for me (new job, career growth, gym, therapy).

First mistake I made was online dating. Again 🤡 I will be honest though, I'm not sure where I can find a American Muslim Pakistani man who lives a similar lifestyle to me and is not conservative in regards to religion. I don't practice my religion much anymore. That's a story for another day.

Anyway, thanks to my new found knowledge I've been able to see red flags as soon as they pop up without giving these men benefit of doubt. The second I see a red flag I bounce.

Examples of red flags: same profession as my ex (cop), believes feminists aren't wife material, blatantly obvious lies about height, sex depraved fuck boys

I decided to have a little bit of fun with the latter. I would get these fuck boys excited for a night with me and then I'd block and delete them immediately after I got their hopes up. Maybe not the best use of my energy. I was just so frustrated by fuck boys using women for sex and not respecting them.

Couple of things I've learned from this experiment with fuck boys: Men do not see you or value you as a human being, you're simply a vagina to them and once they have their fun they'll drop you. I don't understand why they can't just get a fucking fleshlight to satisfy their porn sick tendencies.

These men do not respect you as a woman. They will throw around words like hoes and sluts with no regards to the disrespectful meaning behind those terms.

They will make every attempt to try and coax you into sleeping with them, and that includes lying about being ok with being in a relationship.

A man who asks you about sex within the first 10 minutes of talking is the most glaring red flag. Run sis run.

Men think you owe them nudes because you spent a few minutes of your life talking to them. In what world 🥴

This next one really pisses me off. These fuck boys know they're conventionally attractive, and they use that to their advantage. Meaning they have a whole list of girls they go through and sleep with. And the worst thing I've learned is that these women actually chase these men 🤡🤡🤡🤡

I'M SORRY SIS WHAT?! Why are you chasing a man? Why the fuck are you convincing yourself a friends with benefits will be just fine for you when you know you're going to catch feelings for the man? Do these women have no self respect? Why do they not value the power of their bodies?

I really needed to let that out because since I've heard this I am just in complete shock. I knew modern feminism was a disaster, but to hear women willingly sleep with fuck boys in hopes that they'll convince the fuck boy to date them is beyond me.