Why women lose the dating game.

Land_of_the_Losers · 2019-03-24T00:06:32+00:00

For a woman who treats dating like a strip-mining operation, where she gets taken out for free meal after free meal in the process of sorting through men as if they are ton after ton of discarded waste-rock on a conveyor belt, all in the search for a single sparkling grain of precious ore at the bottom of the widening dig-site... well, I don't feel very bad for you and your harrowing struggle. I just don't.

JackieChansStuntGuy · 2019-03-24T01:20:11+00:00

And this was using data from 2006, which was before tinder and dating apps. I can only assume the numbers quoted are skyrocketing.

anti-hypergamist · 2019-03-24T01:58:51+00:00

"American journalist Kate Bolick wrote recently in The Atlantic about breaking off her three-year relationship with a man she described as ''intelligent, good-looking, loyal and kind''. She acknowledged ''there was no good reason to end things'', yet, at the time, she was convinced something was missing in the relationship. That was 11 years ago. She's is now 39 and facing grim choices. ''We arrived at the top of the staircase,'' Bolick wrote, ''finally ready to start our lives, only to discover a cavernous room at the tail end of a party, most of the men gone already, some having never shown up - and those who remain are leering by the cheese table, or are, you know, the ones you don't want to go out with.''

Age 28, the age where women start getting baby rabies and worrying about not locking down a husband. Has a great guy for a fiance, still not good enough. Age 28, still acting like a stupid slut...age 39, still acting like a stupid slut.

lorem6300118 · 2019-03-24T01:32:46+00:00

Great find. Thanks very much for sharing.

I found much of it conforming to my experiences.

One quibble: at the end they write about the “marriage market “.

There is no such thing anymore, for two reasons:

They correctly write that 20 percent of the men getting all the sex. With most men being in zero demand, the supply of acceptable men the women expect doesn’t exist.
Just wait until the AI catches up with the bots. The demand for biowomen will plummet.

So, it is doubly bad for women: they already have bad supply, and the demand is about to evaporate.

Not a sustainable long term plan.

I keep thinking: Amalgamated Spats.

moorekom · 2019-03-24T17:25:15+00:00

Not that it needs to be said, but here is the counterpoint to this "woe is me" bullshit.

One night I had enough. I confronted a room of 8-10 gorgeous white girls. These girls were 18-24 years old. I asked them if they planned to get married. All seemed to say more or less – YES. I asked what their future husband would think about their behavior. I was immediately met with hostility. I was told the future husband would “never know” and “it’s none of his business”. The girls said they knew exactly what they were doing and were planning to “have their fun” (fun= partying, fun=sex, fun=going on spring break etc.) and would “settle down later”. I asked: when are you planning to settle down? They said: “It depends” and “probably around 27, 28” or “maybe sooner it depends”. I really put the girls on the spot. During our exchange they saw I was upset. They told me I should be happy because “nice guys finish first in the end”. I told them you cannot have your cake and eat it to. Then I was told by Kaylene (a young thin super sexy blonde with curves in all the right places (who BTW refused to date me even though we were friends and according to her roommate had sex with almost 30 guys in one semester ) she told me “Michael let me tell you something: not only am I going to have my cake eat it and eat it too. I’m going to have it with ice cream and sprinkles”. All of the girls laughed and smiled in agreement.

I thought things would change after college. They didn’t.

Now at 32 and successful these women are hitting me. In my mind these are the same women who rejected me. I’m not interested. The Bible says something to the effect of “don’t forsake the wife of your youth” or something like “remember your young wife”? Something like that. How am I supposed to remember something I never had? I have no history with these women. Ticking ovaries are scandalous. They will lie and say anything to get what they want. Which is: BABIES AND A LOVING HUSBAND TO PAY THEIR BILLS. Yet these women did not even give a few good years of their youth!

Original post for this quote:

https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2012/11/24/more-grim-news-for-carousellers-hoping-to-jump-at-the-last-minute/#comment-62160

The Dalrock quote found in the article is from this article:

https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2011/03/29/supply-and-demand-in-the-marriage-market/

Also,

https://whoism3.wordpress.com/2012/11/17/confessions-of-a-reformed-incel/

Consider the two replies from ogrilla99 in this very thread.

https://www.reddit.com/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen/comments/b4o0ej/why_women_lose_the_dating_game/ej962my/

Westernhagen · 2019-03-24T01:31:00+00:00

LOL at the descriptions of men taking advantage in the shift in relative SMV as "bile" and "crude misogyny". Reality doesn't give a shit about your feelz, toots!

Land_of_the_Losers · 2019-03-24T00:49:09+00:00

Hahaha. Hahaha. Haaaahasaa

divorce33 · 2019-03-24T02:11:38+00:00

Feminism lied to them.

Joe Wilson: "YOU LIE!!!" ----> Feminism :-(

lorem6300118 · 2019-03-24T01:59:28+00:00

A sincere question, offered several ways:

Why doesn’t the women’s marriage market correct itself?

In other words, positing that the top 20% of men are in practice unavailable for the average (ie 50th percentile) woman:

Why can’t they get tingles for men in the next ten percentiles?

A man between 70 and 79th percentiles is a high value man.

Perhaps related to the prisoners dilemma, why don’t a horde of average (or below average) women flood the market for these men in the 70s percentiles?

No mega Chads, but they would have endless choices of Brad and very high better betas.

I wish I had this current disparity, eg the roles were reversed in that 100% of the men pursued the top 20% of women, even for a year: an endless variety of above average women, some (again, the 70s percentiles) well above average.

The whole system will collapse, due to unrestrained hypergamy. We’ll see if society can make it.

Chairman_Ellen_Pao · 2019-03-24T00:53:02+00:00

Those motherfuckers quoted in the article are still looking for their unicorns at the end of the rainbow (article).

And then they will get their assets stolen in future divorces. Haha!

2019-03-24T02:19:33+00:00

Excellent article. Sums up everything.

Autisticus · 2019-03-24T14:00:42+00:00

I stopped reading the second I read 'Melbourne'. Australia is so messed up by Feminism and over-entitled women

DemonGroover · 2019-03-24T07:25:00+00:00

Girls should have to do Reality 101 in high school where they are taught (by a male teacher) that you can do whatever you like in your 20s but be prepared for the consequences when you smash into the Wall.

Ultramegasaurus · 2019-03-24T12:15:51+00:00

Women deliberately sabotage themselves by being arrogant, horny and overall retarded when it comes to romance/sexuality. Almost any woman could easily find a stable, decent guy to spend the rest of her life with if she just stopped thinking with her cunt and social media account.

AncapGhxst · 2019-03-25T14:34:33+00:00

Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr Good Enough.

Not 1 single woman will ever read that book until it's too late lmao

Luffysstrawhat · 2019-03-26T21:54:45+00:00

My mexican grandmother had a 5th grade education. But she told all my sisters one thing. Dont waste your looks cause us women we die twice. I realize now abuela was a genius

moorekom · 2019-03-24T15:39:44+00:00

Good to see a Dalrock shoutout, even in an aged article.

OniiChanStopNotThere · 2019-03-24T12:07:46+00:00

I remember reading this article. I read it when it came out in 2012 and I was just getting familiar with the manosphere. I think I'm going to re-read it now, after 7 years of learning my experience reading the article will probably be different, and I encourage others to do the same.

0kool74 · 2019-03-24T15:15:06+00:00

I've read quite a few articles surrounding this particular theme, but I had not seen this one. Great post. But the problem with all the women in this article....if you were to tell them why this happened and that they're to blame for it they'd look at you like you're a 10-headed monster. And for that....I have no sympathy for them whatsoever. BED! MADE! LIE!!!!!

alleyteris · 2019-03-24T18:46:35+00:00

On that post she speaks about having to deal with ex devorces and single fathers with children.

Oh the fucking irony,!

She has to " deal" with single fathers yet we as men have to MAN UP! ™ for the single moms just because they have children they cant take care finnancialy on their own.

Stahlboden · 2019-03-25T09:43:13+00:00

They have a male privilege of marrying down and being a provider in the family.

TheObelisk · 2019-03-27T16:27:41+00:00

It's incredibly odd to me that women cannot see such obvious happenings around them, lack all forethought and seem to have no common-sense regarding being picky shallow narcissists and still thinking men will want something to do with them. Men and women often switch places in desirability from the 20s to 30s and women act like they are goddesses and always will be. This to me is the pinnacle of female shallowness. Then they resent that men can be choosy and shallow in their 30s.

BluepillProfessor · 2019-03-24T16:49:19+00:00

This sums up my reaction to a mainstream article like this written by a woman

Title	Why women lose the dating game.
Author	Tookthemethpill
Upvotes	189
Comments	131
Date	March 23, 2019 8:44 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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