Need objective advice; attraction/sex

I brought this to a member through a DM from another account and got an answer. But was curious to see what others think.

35m (going on 36). 6’1. 220lbs. Lifting for 16 years now. On test. Self employed. Online business. Live alone. No kids.

Currently in an LTR with a unicorn. 3.5 years. I was recently in 2 LTRs simultaneously. One ended in March. That one lasted almost 2 years.

The goal: lifelong. Marriage. Don’t want kids. And I don’t date single moms.

The issue: attraction.

The LTR that ended, she was hot, insane, and difficult. Rocky past. But I was extremely attracted to her, and it was the best sex I’ve ever had. I’d get turned on from just seeing her. Chemistry was intense. She was… a pain in the ass. Masculine. Combative. Tore my frame to shreds. But she was… more fun and interesting to deal with.

The LTR I still have: she’s feminine. Hasn’t been with many people. Kind. Respectful. Understanding. Calm. Reasonable. Selfless. The best woman I’ve ever met really. We’ve never had an argument. Even when there have been issues, they’re discussed calmly, and rationally. I’m surprised she’s even a real person. But I’m not that physically attracted to her. She’s the least attractive woman I’ve ever been with. I’m kind of spoiled that way. I was a bartender at nightclubs for a long time back in the day, so I got used to above average women. She has an amazing body. And she is attractive. But… idk. Still. I don’t get crazy throbbing erections for her like I did for the crazy chick. But she’s literally the BEST person.

I’m struggling to figure out what I should do. Jump back into the unknown and look for a girl I’m crazy about, or just settle with the logical choice? I’m getting older, the options seem to be dwindling, and I just want to do the right thing. I don’t want kids. Don’t want girls who want kids. And don’t want girls with kids. And don’t want fat chicks either.

I should add that a female friend (never trust women) who I’ve known for over a decade, recently got mad at me, ended the friendship, found both women through social media, and told them both about eachother. Even though the LTR with the crazy chick had already ended. The crazy chick reached out to me angrily, disrespectfully, and I blocked her. She also reached out to the unicorn. The unicorn blocked her too. Which sucks cuz I was doing a good job keeping things civil between me and the crazy chick in case there was a chance of reconciling in the distant future. But she was a shitty gf anyway

The unicorn confronted me in person, calmly, respectfully, and tried to break things off but I didn’t let her. We had loooong talks for days about why I did what I did, and we’re working through everything. She still loves me the same as she always has. Still treats me the same. We’ve been together every day since DDay. And in some respects our relationship is better than before. But the attraction thing is still an issue for me. I deleted all dating apps. And even shared my location with her. Which she didn’t even ask me to do.

Do I settle for the unicorn? She really is the best and sweetest girl I’ve ever met. She’s just not as hot or as interesting/smart as other girls I’ve had. But she’d mature, wise, stable, kind, the list goes on. I just have a hard time being turned on by her. I don’t feel like fucking her most of the time. With the other one, I felt like fucking her all of the time.

Not sure what to do here.

Edit: yes I know I’m a POS for carrying both relationships for so long. Not proud of myself. It’s just that each one had what the other didn’t. I had a really bad experience the last time I was completely monogamous and faithful, so I think that tainted how I moved going forward. Still doesn’t make it right though. And it’s not the way I wanna live.