Rebounding from a fuckup

cholomite · 2016-07-11T16:51:44+00:00

There's nothing you can do but play it off and keep moving forward. Make sure you don't dwell on how pussy that shit was. Keep an upbeat attitude and act like it never happened. And for fucks sake don't ever do that shit again.

I'm sure you already know this, but get the idea out of your head that you're owed sex. You're not, only truly worthy men get the sex they want. If you're not getting it, it's on you, so keep improving. Also try working on your seduction skills. Even a shredded millionaire will have a hard time getting laid if he doesn't know how to properly play with a girls emotions.

RPAlternate42 · 2016-07-11T17:32:10+00:00

You haven't fucked in 3 weeks.

Have you been initiating? If so and she has been rejecting you at every turn, why are giving her any attention at all? I don't know how long you've been in your self-improvement, but after 3 weeks I'd just start making a social life separate from her and especially where other women are involved.

If you have not been initiating, then you are making very covert contracts.

In either case, you need to ask yourself if you are someone who deserves to be fucked or that women want to fuck. The only way to know this is by getting IOIs from other women and running day game on women... basically.you need to know if you are even desirable by strange; if strange doesn't want you, your wife never will.

mabden · 2016-07-11T17:13:51+00:00

We hadn't fucked in weeks

Because you have been initiating and she is turning you down or because of covert contracting?

bourbonhipster · 2016-07-11T16:40:14+00:00

"airing of grievances" on my part, explaining to her how I was trying to be cool but I just couldn't fake it anymore.

So you went on a tirade and then you openly admit to just putting on an act? and that was supposed to get you what, laid?

Olderpiller · 2016-07-11T16:59:30+00:00

I think own of the less appreciated tenants of MRP is STFU. I have avoided many an argument just by saying nothing and walking away. Also when I screw up I most often just ignore it when I next have to deal with the wife make a mental note and move on. You are forgetting how easily women are distracted. Instead of apologizing, text your wife and tell her to meet you at your favorite bar after work, wear something nice. Ignore her questions, show up about 20 minutes early and chat up all the other women, then when she walks in greet her with a kiss and an ass slap. You would be amazed how well that will work. Even she is inclined to make a scene she will switch to mate guard her man when she sees you happy and talking to someone else. Her jealousy will be redirected to pride and wetness when she gets her ass slapped by a guy with social validation.

Sepean · 2016-07-11T17:38:05+00:00

I plan to move on like nothing happened, not bring it up again, and keep fighting the fight.

Exactly. Just build your frame and raise your SMV and everything will be good in the end.

Think of it like your wife having small boobs. It doesn't matter what she says, she still has small boobs. If she one day comes home with breast implants, she doesn't have to explain her previously small boobs for you to enjoy them.

It is the same with your frame and SMV.

I_Took_The_Pill · 2016-07-11T18:04:29+00:00

Post about your failed initiations. If you don't have several to talk about after three weeks, then you know where your problem is.

Scurvemuch · 2016-07-11T20:53:26+00:00

So...

Whenever mine says no, and we fight, I tend to explain my feelings and thoughts logically. And she agrees. And while I do the dishes and she plays on her X box, that I bought her, I make sure I apologize for making her feel like she is only there for me as a sexual object. Because she is my one and only and I love her unconditionally.

Ok, No seriously?

I go and do something else, something productive. And I will ask myself one question : what did I do to produce tingles today?

If nothing, I get nothing. And that is ok ON HER end...

on my end... If I am getting nothing for something... I am probably lacking in some OI /Abundance

just a thought.

dandar4600 · 2016-07-11T19:12:49+00:00

STFU and time. Everyone here fucked up at one time or another. All you can do is work on yourself, take care of your shit and initiate.

redearththeory · 2016-07-12T10:22:01+00:00

Today, wake up, drive to work, need to pull myself back together- How do you guys rebound from stuff like this? I plan to move on like nothing happened, not bring it up again, and keep fighting the fight.

Its not "moving on like nothing happened". Its stopping doing things that don't work (victim puking, being butthurt) and starting doing things that do work (lifting, improving, holding frame, dread). It just feels like doing nothing because you're going to not do all that pussy shit that you feel like doing.

stonepimpletilists · 2016-07-11T17:34:24+00:00

Lol, she took your lolly away?

You know there's a candy store down the street, right? Ever think about browsing next time your sweet tooth kicks in?

druganswer · 2016-07-11T21:41:38+00:00

I'd make a joke about the fact that not having sex for a month is bad for your mental health. At least that is you accepting that you acted like a social retard. Then I would drop it.

That way when I never did this again and we hadn't had sex for a month the hamster would start to spin. "Why isn't he acting crazy, this time?"

Title	Rebounding from a fuckup
Author	I_Took_The_Pill
Upvotes	7
Comments	27
Date	July 11, 2016 4:25 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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