How do you not fall in love?

redpillbanana · 2017-11-16T19:43:31+00:00

The answer to your problems is abundance.

From one of my previous replies:

I'm dating a woman right now who is a special girl. She came over last night with some groceries and made a delicious dinner for us. We then watched a DVD together and later went to bed where I made sure she had plenty of orgasms and she made sure that my balls were completely drained. We then fell asleep in each other's arms and I kissed her goodbye in the morning as she rushed off to work. I'd be lying if I said I didn't love her dearly.

I can also say pretty much the same thing about any one of my other six plates. Every one of them is uniquely wonderful and special and I love all of them. I also realize that, at some point in the future, our circumstances may change and I may have to say goodbye to some or all of them. Farewells are always sad but the good news is that when one girl leaves, it frees up time to spend on my other girls and also gives the opportunity to add a new girl to the rotation.

An important point is that the abundance I have in my life allows me to say goodbye from a position of strength and magnanimity rather than desperation and bitterness. Example: a while back, one of my plates decided that she'd rather be "official" with one of her suitors and, while I was sad to be losing her, I honestly wished her the best of luck with him and also gave her a nice final fuck before we parted. A few months later she got back in touch and complained about how her new boyfriend was always traveling for work and not able to meet her very often and suggested meeting in person to talk more about it. This eventually led to her breaking up with her boyfriend and jumping back into my rotation. If I had been angry and bitter about her leaving, she probably would have never contacted me again.

There are many wonderful women out there and you'd have to have the coldest of hearts to not fall in love with them. However, eternal love for the rest of your lives? It's rare, if not non-existent, which is why you'll hear, "She's not yours, it's just your turn." It's best to acknowledge this reality and plan for your life around relationships that will likely end rather than planning your life around a single relationship that will last a lifetime.

Dating multiple women isn't the only way to maintain abundance mentality and acknowledge the realities of human relationships but IMAO it is the best way. The fastest way to abundance mentality is to actually have abundance.

do_it_or_leave · 2017-11-16T21:12:37+00:00

Just fall in love with several girls. Nothing wrong with fiveitis.

[deleted] · 2017-11-16T20:26:26+00:00

I look at my amazing self in the mirror everyday and say god got it so right. After my narcissistic morning worship ritual I don't have enough love left to share with my wife.

Bambam22bam · 2017-11-16T21:14:36+00:00

You're being a little bitch about it and I mean that in the nicest of ways. You need to grow up and realize that girl that you can't get over is getting treacherously fucked on the regular by various men who are bigger, stronger and better than you. AND. SHE. LOVES IT. She doesn't even think about you at all, because you mean nothing to her. Meanwhile you sit in a wallow of self-pity about her? Why? She is getting split open while you're at home crying about her not wanting to love you? That's what she's done to you. Go to the gym. Improve yourself and stop romanticizing pussy. This girl wants to be single because she is a slut, like many other women. Don't fall in love with sluts dude.

m0rphing · 2017-11-16T20:55:09+00:00

This girl was never yours, so you never lost her. In fact, no girl will ever be yours, and you will never lose a single girl because you never had them in the first place. You will always be alone. No one will ever be yours. Nobody will ever make you happy.

All you have, is you. Sometimes there is a pussy hopping up and down on your dick, sometimes there isn't. Sometimes you're at a bar feeling up a girl's ass, sometimes you're not. Sometimes a chick comes crying to your door begging for forgiveness, and other times she's out fucking another man. All of these things are temporary experiences. They constantly change, come and disappear, but the only thing that will always be there is you.

Stop trying to own a girl, to make her yours, to try to depend on her to make your life something more. No one is capable of making your life something more than it is. There is only you and your own actions. Let women come and go but never try to hold onto them. Then you will not suffer like you are now. You may still suffer for other reasons, but a woman will not be the reason.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-11-16T22:24:36+00:00

Can't fall in love if you have options.

TheRedPillMonkey · 2017-11-17T00:10:17+00:00

The difference between oneitis and a TRP LTR is frame. The fact that you're not over her means she has frame over you. You'll never be successful with that attitude. You may never forget about her, you may always wonder what might of been, you may always have feelings for it, but sitting around and complaining about it isn't going to change it. You need to act and move on.

I get it. We've all loved and lost. All of us. Why can we get over it and you can't? You say you fucked and dated plenty of women and she was perfect. Assuming thats true, then go crush some other pussy to forget about hers. If nothing else, she's set a new bar for converting a plate to a LTR.

Questionnaire7 · 2017-11-17T05:07:23+00:00

Im in the opposite place. I cant feel anything anymore and it seems to push them away once we've had sex.

acecutty · 2017-11-17T06:24:45+00:00

How old are you? I find that it's easier to not fall in love with women when you're more experienced with women and with the world.

beermagnate · 2017-11-17T08:29:20+00:00

Scarcity

BestSC86 · 2017-11-17T14:53:31+00:00

Emotional damage......

Frankly, you have to get damaged enough to where you see any relationship as just fucking......

A bit of autism or narcissism also helps because then you don't have to deal in the emotions to begin with.

redhawkes · 2017-11-16T20:21:04+00:00

Dude, watch this. It's oneitis. Work on abundance.

jasondougies · 2017-11-17T03:32:10+00:00

holy fuck... i'm in the same boat as you right as we speak.

Title	How do you not fall in love?
Author	what_do_1111
Upvotes	14
Comments	50
Date	November 16, 2017 7:37 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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