How do I last longer??

xddm2653 · 2018-09-03T03:15:45+00:00

Thinking about men lol

Could be the reason?

FemtoG · 2018-09-03T02:44:05+00:00

all these people saying "just go again" or "eat her out" or "take lots of breaks" are idiots. you can't hide from the truth, and it IS an issue. every single thing i pointed out the girl WILL notice unless shes a total fucking retard. and yes you can work around it, but that is absolutely not ideal, and the truth will still linger.

have you tried differnt positions?

which positions do you bust faster than others?

like for me, i can last almost forever if shes riding me or missionary

but if im doing her from the back, i bust quick

also its all about vasodilation vs. vasoconstriction

you need to become conscious of when you are tensing ur muscles and when you are not. its actually a very deep thing. once you can "let go" of ur muscles while still maintaining your erection

then you can last longer

think and research on that concept. first, vasodilation. second, letting go of the muscle tensing while fucking. that is the real secret. if you are tensing your muscles while fucking ,they lose stamina quick and you bust quick. you need to keep a "flow" going. also dont worry about those PC muscle exercises. thats more for ppl who cant bust

finally, learn about pelvic floor and hip rotation/alignment. its not about having strong pelvic floor muscles, but having a balanced pelvic floor. balanced and healthy. something to look into. dont focus on kegels. focus on things like handstands, balance, and hamstring/glute exercises. also don't do kegels, do reverse kegels.

meowsero · 2018-09-02T23:56:37+00:00

Practice edging.

atradervish · 2018-09-03T00:24:32+00:00

Wearing a condom helps with lasting longer

JohnDick2k · 2018-09-02T23:20:52+00:00

Just bust and go again as many times as you want

bazwalt · 2018-09-03T04:24:10+00:00

It's not about how long you last. Anyone who tells you it is doesn't know shit.

Foreplay is key. Lick her situation out, work on her kinks, find her sensitive spot and drive her fucking insane. You can make her bust without even using your dick. Once she's cum a few times then give her a good pounding.

Many people will tell you various bullshit. Some people can last and some people can't so find another way and work with what you can.

The whole stereotype about lasting is what brings many men down.

I am by no means a man with exceptional stamina but I've managed to please every woman I've been with.

Code-Master13 · 2018-09-03T00:19:48+00:00

Have her give you a bj, then get going on her 15-20 minutes later. Has worked for me.

yooou_sonuvabitch · 2018-09-03T05:00:29+00:00

Fuck all that noise. Get in missionary position. Do your thing... as soon as you feel like you are going to bust just pull out and dip down and start eating her out for like a minute.... when you feel yourself “calming down” a little go back in her. And just keep repeating until you feel you’ve gone long enough to bust. She’ll probably have an O this way too lol. Good luck OP

BuckNekkid18 · 2018-09-03T00:36:16+00:00

- Breathing

- Pelvic floor balancing (kegels, reverse kegels)

- Edging

- Relaxing

You can also buy numbing creams and delaying condoms, and if you're really desperate you can get drunk before sex (careful for whiskey dick), and as the last measure you can hop on low doseage SSRI's (Lexapro, Zoloft, Prozac, Celexa, etc.)

[deleted] · 2018-09-03T01:11:12+00:00

jack off until your about to bust. Then stop for a minute and do the same. Do this for 15 minutes and then you can bust your load. Do this every time you wanna jerk off

mrpoopistan · 2018-09-03T02:56:46+00:00

Every woman I have had sex with has said I can’t last.

They sense your insecurity.

My advice is practice being an ungenerous lover. If you nut fast, you nut fast. Who cares? Clearly women want to fuck you.

Bingomancometh · 2018-09-02T23:40:12+00:00

. Focus on your breathing. Don't worry about pleasing her. Make it feel good for yourself.

bobaisdope · 2018-09-03T02:44:47+00:00

Make sure foreplay lasts around 10-15 minutes, tease her, squeeze her clitor, I don't know why but I think women don't want hardcore stuff, most of them won't reach orgasm anyway. I don't usually go full-force on her right away, I keep teasing her as long as I want and when she cannot resist anymore I thrust hard as much as I can and the girls and I we often reach orgasm together this way.

yung_gravy1 · 2018-09-03T02:42:54+00:00

Edging helps with stamina. Let me double-double stress that I do NOT endorse the use of porn but nonetheless like everyone uses it. If you’re not already a consumer then I’d say stay the hell away but the chances are slim. Bust out the ol’ lube & boob tube and do your deed but do it SLOWLY. Set time goals. Make it a couple minutes one day, maybe 5 minutes the next, start creeping towards double digits. Lube is your #1 friend. Youre not designed to last much longer than 30-45 seconds when pleasured in a high friction environment. Lower friction = longer times.

[deleted] · 2018-09-03T04:41:50+00:00

Stop watching porn.

kayfab · 2018-09-03T05:08:30+00:00

watch some harry potter movies to calm down before sex....

ElOweTea · 2018-09-03T06:32:04+00:00

Stop watching porn

[deleted] · 2018-09-03T11:46:01+00:00

Avoid watching porn

thisiswhyicant · 2018-09-03T03:21:26+00:00

Round one always goes fast. Bust in 20 seconds, take a 5 minute water break, and get back in there and destroy that shit. You’ll last way longer the second go round. You can do it champ!

Plazma_doge · 2018-09-03T05:56:21+00:00

Low doses of SSRI will make you last as long as you want.

stefchou · 2018-09-03T08:31:12+00:00

Try kegels and stop watching porn/jerking off

_Last_Man_Standing_ · 2018-09-03T11:28:56+00:00

change your rhythm and position often...
changing your rhythm will make you last longer and make her want it more...
like do:
- 4 fast thrusts all the way
- 3 slow thrusts all the way
- 5 fast thrusts only half the way
- 2 slow thrusts only the tip
- 2 slow wiggles across the clit
- repeat
- when you see she's cumming and can't take it anymore... smash smash smash...
- you come at the same time

htowntrav · 2018-09-03T02:48:27+00:00

If you’re having sex the act doesn’t have to stop at the first nut. Do something together and stay busy, keep the mood going. Be happy, calm, relaxed but sexual aroused. Take a couple minutes and get back to having sex. Lather, rinse, repeat.

andystyle24 · 2018-09-03T03:33:08+00:00

Smoke some weed or drink some drinks. 100% way to last longer

Rollo_Mayhem3 · 2018-09-03T05:25:27+00:00

Practice bro. Practice. And Practice. Develop a rhythm. Once you bust. Take a 5 min, break, remove the condom, flush with your own eyes, relax, lay with her, grab her ass, have her blow u again, shove it on again...after 100 times, ypill learn what to do. Coincidentally, i busted 5 nuts tonight, drink water, give each nut about 15 minutes...you'll learn your body.

EvFlix83 · 2018-09-03T05:39:45+00:00

It's usually the 1st time for me. The anticipation has been building and you can't help it. I hope women understand that. But gimme 10 mins and ready to go bc that wasn't even the real deal that was just the anxiousness. But even the 2nd time wont be full potential. 5 or 6 times, cupp days, once I get used to it at least a little bit and comfortable is when I can go for however long and start focusing on the things that rly matter like getting her off first and often and rly finding what and how she likes. And I know a lot of women consider guys coming fast a compliment. Obvi not ideal at first and awkward etc, but a necessary "learning curve" I guess you could say. At least that's me. And it might not be 5 or 6 times over a few days. But def the first time I'd expect it to be quick. But any guy who cares should be ready asap to go again, and hopefully your smart enough to keep her turned on during this hopefully short hiatus, bc we know it wasn't much and just the jitters and anticipation that is almost uncontrolllable. And hope that she's down to go again asap too and doesn't kick you out lol. But if your honest and upfront and just be cool should be ok most of the time. It's all in the comfort and getting that initial bullshit outa the way. Believe me we want to go longer and harder and just as passionate than you women prob want to. Just gotta work up to it, preferably quick as possible lol.

DouglasPR · 2018-09-03T06:09:33+00:00

Research on internet, there is lots of exercises to do alone and or with your girl. Exemples: Edge and Manual manouver (when you are about to burst hold (pinch) your glans with two fingers to close the channel (nothing strong, just cut the flux). First times you will make a mess, but it will help you know your timing and learn the series of things that happen together in your body so you have an ejaculation. And of course, go see a doctor. He will help you or direct you to a specialist in sex related issues. Learning to relax is also important (easier said then done, I know). When I was young I had this problem too. Most of it came from anxiety (yes sex can be stressful as being on a fight-flight situation). I gave too much importance to what she would think of my performance and it ended up doing it nervously and made everything worse. Its not easy, but its possible to learn how to relax and enjoy yourself (like almost from a third person perspective, if you know what I mean, to help you detach from the overhelming need to cum). Get help bro. Relax, enjoy

Aidsagain · 2018-09-03T06:43:02+00:00

Practice breathing and relaxing your muscles. Stop/slow down when it gets intense and grab/light clamp your nuts and pull them down away from your body. This will ease the tension and let the juice flow back down allowing delaying your finish time.

Practice solo of course.

Only drawback is that it looks like you're a banging your own asshole in certain positions, but girls like that kind of stuff anyway so bonus?

randomcaqitaLization · 2018-09-03T07:18:33+00:00

Have sex twice, use fingers and tongues when you’re recovering, think about something else than sex, practice edging (preferable without porn), try to make your pelvic muscle stronger, or just don’t give a fuck

8700nonK · 2018-09-03T07:56:23+00:00

I really don't think edging is the solution. I last a bit longer but not great. Edging has done nothing for me for months.

There are a few guides on forums out there, and you should try all of them and see what works. For me not coming close to the point of no return gave me nice improvements.

So masturbate slowly but steady enough to be erect but not come close to ejaculation (brain training to not chase the ejaculation). Try to suppress the involuntary contractions. Practice reverse kegels (super important) while masturbating and kegels in free time. Slow the breathing down, don't inhale through the mouth.

In time after lasting time gets longer, add more speed, again trying to keep away from that point of no return. Edging means coming close to that point and then backing down and back up. For some that doesn't help, because after coming close to the point, you get back to it very quickly.

joner888 · 2018-09-03T08:11:01+00:00

Try Cialis or Viagra .

arphmaal · 2018-09-03T08:50:07+00:00

It’s a mental thing and one suggestion I read on a similar post is to literally not give a fuck about any of it. You’re busting soon because you’re thinking about it and are worried. Just don’t give a fuck about it. Do what you want. It will help get over the worry of it all and then you’ll be lasting longer in no time.

I use this method and I also have stopped watching porn and I can usually last as long as I want.

ppanthero · 2018-09-03T13:17:31+00:00

Edging

omega_dawg93 · 2018-09-03T14:36:07+00:00

i KINDA wish i had your problem... i have the opposite. i can go and go and go and often leave frustrated because i can't get off.

i'm not sensitive at all... wasn't sensitive when i was a teenager either.

my girl loves the fact that she can get all she wants every time we're together, but sometimes, she feels 'weird' bc she can't get me off.

my advice to you is to watch porn guys. lol. seriously, when you feel like you're about to blast off, switch her to another position. then, another position... then another... and another. keep doing this until you can control it.

... and about control. practice male 'kegels.' start pissing and make yourself stop. keep doing this until you can literally stop the flow of urine. when you're having sex & about to cum, squeeeeeeze really hard (as you did while pissing) and the urge will go down. then, start fucking again.

this is a technique that porn stars use. source: my HS football teammate did porn in the late 80's (pre-viagra), and that was his 'secret' to last thru scenes and keep an erection without finishing.

Peter_B_Long · 2018-09-03T16:23:33+00:00

Wear a condom. 2. Wear a thick condom ( her pleasure) 3. Wear a condom that desensitizes your dick (extended) 4. Read sex god method. 5. Smoke weed

alpha_bravado · 2018-09-03T16:59:35+00:00

Are you intact or foreskin removed?

LordShoan · 2018-09-03T17:06:37+00:00

I have the opposite problem. Do you wear a condom?

Morphs_ · 2018-09-03T20:20:57+00:00

Learn what I call soft-orgasms. Which means getting close to the edge, tense your PC muscle and if you do it right, you'll get like a mini-orgasm. Not full-blown, but it feels good and releases some tension. Withint 20sec you can go again and everything is a bit less sensitive, although pressure is building up.

I'm quite in the opposite camp, being able to fuck for 20+ minutes no problem. Overall the women love it, but sometimes I wish I was a bit more sensitive. I'm unable to come from a bj or the woman riding me.

Anyway, years of furious masturbation and porn decreased my penile sensitivity. Going NoFap for 118 days made me incredible sensitive again for a while. So I guess doing to opposite may work for you.

xezhaw · 2018-09-03T00:38:10+00:00

Watch more porn. Soon enough it will be hard to orgasm with her lol

Big_Daddy_PDX · 2018-09-03T03:23:45+00:00

You’re just lazy. It feels just as awesome to all of us that can last longer, yet for some reason you lack the control. Women have nothing good to say about a man that can’t last in bed. Get some focus.

MoneroMoonbase · 2018-09-03T03:51:33+00:00

Some doctors prescribe tramadol for PE. It can make it extremely hard to finish, but it can be very addictive. Maybe try 50mg.

Exodus230 · 2018-09-03T09:12:41+00:00

Not advisable long term but cialis you can bust a nut and stay hard and keep going indefinitely. It may give you a bit of a confidence boost and youll get more experience of going for longer.

thoughts_prayers · 2018-09-03T05:55:47+00:00

Maybe I can help as a woman. First of all, good for you asking this question.

I've been with my bf for 9 years. He may have the same bedroom issues as you - but sex is still really great. Foreplay is awesome. After-cuddling is divine. Find someone who wants to have sex because they like the couple-intimacy, not because they're looking for their own gratification.

Title	How do I last longer??
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Date	September 2, 2018 11:00 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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