Anyone dealt with extremely narcissistic women?

thesoloronin · 2020-09-20T11:26:52+00:00

Yes, I knew one back when I was steeped in simpery.

She was probably (in my eyes at the time) the best girl I've ever met. Had every little quirk I was into and was, by all accounts, gorgeous. At one point she became self-aware about her looks and the droves of guys who were throwing themselves at her, so she started a simp ring and began playing her suitors like a cheap fiddle for everything from food to drinks to... photography.

Yes, photography. She got into nude photography and started fucking the photographers since she couldn't (or didn't want to) pay them. Guys who were twice age, while us highschool losers who were drooling over her like dogs over bones were lying to ourselves that she's "innocent, she's not that kind of girl" etc.

One day one of these simps realised the futility of his efforts and the error of his simp ways and broke his "friendship" with her after finding out that she will never reciprocate his feelings for her. For the last few months of school she treated him like complete garbage and did bitch stuff like taking pics of his newly-created Tinder and putting them all over her insta with some not-so-nice captions.

I've met a few narcissists in my life, but never one quite as bad as this girl.

TeddyMGTOW · 2020-09-20T12:47:16+00:00

NPD is a serious disorder, problem is your average female has many symptoms. From the Mayo Clinic

Symptoms

Signs and symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder and the severity of symptoms vary. People with the disorder can:

Have an exaggerated sense of self-importance
Have a sense of entitlement and require constant, excessive admiration
Expect to be recognized as superior even without achievements that warrant it
Exaggerate achievements and talents
Be preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate
Believe they are superior and can only associate with equally special people
Monopolize conversations and belittle or look down on people they perceive as inferior
Expect special favors and unquestioning compliance with their expectations
Take advantage of others to get what they want
Have an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others
Be envious of others and believe others envy them
Behave in an arrogant or haughty manner, coming across as conceited, boastful and pretentious
Insist on having the best of everything — for instance, the best car or office.

AJ_KG_JG · 2020-09-20T19:40:41+00:00

I met my first (that I know of) full-blown NPD/BPD woman while getting my PhD in grad school. She was a looker (when dolled-up) and had possibly the sweetest ass I've ever seen. We were only ever friends (my pre-RP years) but our relationship followed the standard 3-phase trajectory for someone involved with an NPD/BPD person:

1) Love Bombing: You can do no wrong, are showered with love and compliments. You're the best thing that ever happened to her and she can't believe she's so lucky to have found/met you.

2) Devaluation: Once you're hooked in the relationship via Phase 1, she starts tearing you down, subtly at first, then with escalating frequency and viciousness. If you don't realize what's happening, this can be emotionally devastating, and you'll second-guess yourself at every turn trying to figure out what you did wrong and what you can do to restore the honeymoon phase of the relationship. (Hint: You can't.) What's worse, she'll often begin Phase 2 by tearing you down with other people behind your back, so you won't even realize what's happened until it's well underway.

3) Discard: Once she can no longer extract value from you and/or has secured another source of narcissistic supply, you're callously tossed in the gutter.

This whore became very possessive of me, even though we weren't dating b/c of an out-of-state boyfriend/schmuck. This culminated in a nasty rage explosion when she saw me flirting with another woman. Shortly thereafter she acted like nothing had happened, a prime example of how incredibly selfish, rude, and disrespectful she was. Later she came onto me, apparently after things ended with the old BF, but I knew enough to stay far away. Then she went after my best friend in the grad program, snared him in a relationship, and proceeded to make his existence a living hell. Then she graduated and moved away, but began a long-distance relationship with my OTHER best friend in the department which led to our no longer being friends (after I attempted to warn him about her). These whores love to triangulate relationships and break up friendships. Incidentally, I found out that her grandma had abused her when she was little, which is consistent with the etiology of NPD.

Looking back, my values and beliefs (largely inculcated from my upbringing) played a large role in my allowing her to exert more influence in my life than I should have. I was taught to always be "nice" and never be "mean", and things like standing up for myself and defriending a bad friend were not encouraged. Once I started to change my viewpoints on such things and allowed myself to set and enforce boundaries, put a bitch in her place, etc., things got a lot better for me. I found a great counselor who helped me replace my limiting beliefs and behaviors towards relationships with more appropriate and effective ones.

entrep4 · 2020-09-20T14:41:01+00:00

My strategy in dealing with narcissistic women is to not deal with them. I suggest everyone else do the same.

sowhattwenty20 · 2020-09-20T17:43:42+00:00

One of the best quotes I’ve read about narcissists: “They’ll stab you in the back and then blame you for getting blood on the carpet.”

I have experienced unknowingly being in a LTR with a narcissist. When narcissism gets to a certain extreme, it can be labeled a personality disorder, or NPD. These women can never feel like they “lose" and attach to people for status, wealth, image, etc. because they need constant narcissistic supply. They have an emptiness inside like addicts they are constantly trying to fill, but there is never enough for their warped minds.

They can become obsessed with getting revenge if they feel wronged. When female (or male) narcissists end up in family court, they will spend hundreds of thousands of dollars to try to "win" in child custody cases, doing horrible things like making false child abuse accusations, and smearing the other parent to the children.

319Skew · 2020-09-20T19:08:58+00:00

Most women fall into that category but I have met my share that think they are God's gift to humanity.

michael1962-01 · 2020-09-20T12:16:44+00:00

Their solipsism is AWALT.

Where is your question?

L2diy · 2020-09-20T18:36:56+00:00

Pretty common to be attracted to girls with NPD if you have parents with NPD. At least until you’re unplugged. My first serious ex was like that. Fucked me up for a while.

secondson1231 · 2020-09-21T03:38:09+00:00

Yes, she was a 4 but acted like a 9 and extremely selfish!!!

IXseed · 2020-09-20T14:15:02+00:00

It's not them. It was you. They were doing things that showed that they didn't really care for your time but you kept pursuing so they kept being more "narcissistic".

RossGellerBot · 2020-09-20T10:29:43+00:00

whom she knew

Kushy_Popcorn · 2020-09-20T19:27:30+00:00

Find about about their parents and upbringing. If their parents weren't there or provided conditional love, chances are the children were hard wired to be on the narcissistic spectrum from an early age. Where they lie on the spectrum is difficult to figure out. The important thing is to recognize the conditions in childhood that create narcissists. If they had the conditions, they are on the spectrum. Narcissists are created through a lack of love as children.

xxx69harambe69xxx · 2020-09-20T20:49:25+00:00

there's narcissists everywhere, it's a psychological trait, what did you expect? If you're looking for therapy, I can provide some commiseration, but I'm not sure what you expected

optionsprofiter · 2020-09-20T22:46:28+00:00

Yeah the most beautiful girl I ever fucked was like this, but I was the “new” guy. On our first date were cuddling, but she kept rejecting my advances. She told me she could only stay till 9 cuz she had to “meet her friend” after.

I eventually got the hint and prettt much pinned her down and fucked her, afterwards she decided to stay the night and raincheck on her friend.

Considering she’s a model who has random dudes literally pay for her Europe trips, I would imagine that “friend” was actually one of her fuck toys and she wanted me to pretty much rape her rather than treat her like a princess.

FrancoImperator · 2020-09-20T23:40:55+00:00

Here! I am at Med School, jeez dude. It's truly AWALT everywhere, no matter the race, color or creed, I mean it. Don't be deluded otherwise They only think of themselves, and their time; believe yours does not matter, and so forth; oddly enough these girls are pretty lazy when it comes to group projects; they are less creative but more fearful funnily enough; at the first display of male dominance they crawl back to their deep emotional cave of fear and low self-esteem I do work however pretty well with other girls, and they tend to be more solidary and easy-going, but It's just my perception ye know

Polloway · 2020-09-21T00:38:54+00:00

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ExBetaBitch · 2020-09-20T22:08:51+00:00

In our own personal opinions we are all the most important person in the world, but sometimes we men forget to put ourselves first because very few people do.

Title	Anyone dealt with extremely narcissistic women?
Author	thelad99
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Comments	46
Date	September 20, 2020 10:29 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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