Height? Facts or myth?

zoemondo · 2021-05-16T00:44:04+00:00

Another post about height. I swear this subreddit gets a post about this nearly every day.

Being short is not the end of the world. But backpill guys insist on fixating on their height, because it's too damn difficult to address anything else that could possibly be making them dateless and lonely.

Yes, being short can be a disadvantage. But there's plenty of women out there who just don't care, or will give a guy a chance anyway. Unfortunately the severe mental anguish and anxiety a short guy has over his height can be a deal-breaker for women.

xvszero · 2021-05-16T05:07:17+00:00

I'm 6'4 and didn't have sex until I was 30. Romance is complicated and there are a lot of factors. Some women get weird about height, many don't. If one woman isn't into you, accept it and move on. Someone else will be.

bdove382 · 2021-05-16T03:48:42+00:00

I used to think like this, although I’m 5’11. I’m 17, and probably done growing if I’m gonna be honest. Wanted to hit 6 feet so bad. I was very insecure about my height for a long time. However, there comes a point where you realize that height doesn’t always matter.

“What’s the point If I’m gonna be seen as undesirable forever by the opposite sex?” Is that a joke? You are aware that there are many 5’6-5’8 actors who women strongly, strongly desire? (Tom Holland, Zac Efron) The idea that women ONLY want tall guys is such BS. There are so many guys around that height that have more success with women than the average 6 foot male.

Get some solid charisma and you’ll be all set.

Your_favourite_uwu · 2021-05-16T00:45:05+00:00

Height does mean stuff. I've talked to plenty of girls and they say taller guys make them feel more safe. I'm tall myself and honestly I take it for granted, because I still antagonize over not being an inch taller. I realize all guys wish they were taller and that's just normal.

I've seen plenty of shorter guys just get more women than I do. Height, looks, etc gets more matches but keeping those matches is another story

Comfortable_Intern57 · 2021-05-16T00:13:09+00:00

Women can pick up on your internal insecurities and that itself can make you look less attractive. For the girl you mentioned, you don't know for sure it was his height, it could have just been your personality, interests, politics, etc. Plenty of women date shorter guys, me included. I think what's really setting you up for failure is your reserved nature and insecurity.

Also as women get older, they get less and less shallow as far as appearances go, for men it's the same way. I remember in high school all the guys just wanted to date the hottest cheerleader or whatever. People grow up and they realize what really matters.

mikeyblaze223 · 2021-05-16T13:44:18+00:00

Your post indicates that don't know for a fact that it's your height, and that you are going off of sheer speculation and assumptions. In reality it could be any combination of factors, some of which may include height, some not. The fact is, for whatever reason, she's not into you, so no use continuing to sulk over it.

Even if you knew with absolute certainty that it was your height, why would you want to waste your time on someone who is going to pass you over for such trivial BS? You honestly want to build a relationship with someone like that?

Plenty of women don't make height a deal breaker, despite what RP and frustrated dudes on Youtube may tell you. Go find one of those girls.

WonderingFairy · 2021-05-16T04:35:28+00:00

Stop connecting your self worth to women and sexual experience. You cannot control your height. If she is shallow to the point where she will exclude you for it all I have to say is: good riddance. You don’t need people who don’t want you. I understand attraction can be influenced by shallow parameters like these but turning down a whole man for a few inches seems like a very shallow thing to do. Maybe some women rejected you because of your height. Who cares? You cannot grow taller. Stop pursuing shallowness and you will end up stopping attracting it. Focus on living your life, maybe finding a nice girl to share it with some time in the future and stop caring about body count and inches. The level of shallowness these people possess only leads them to relationships that get no where.

JimBeamAndCoke2016 · 2021-05-16T01:58:09+00:00

Looks are far more important than height any day. A good looking shorter guy will have more success than the ugly tall man.

Yesm3can · 2021-05-16T07:02:29+00:00

Being short for a man is a massive disadvantage in dating, saying this as a woman with a lot of male friends/colleagues and acquitances. I don't know why so many are dancing around that point.

Are there short men who have loyal partners who love them and have been in LTR with them? Absolutely and most of my short male friends are in that kind of situation.

However what people like to forget is that short men are invinsible until they give out some indications that they are interesting and worth knowing. Meanwhile taller guys are almost immediate eye catcher right off the bat.

In the end it is about what you want. For hook up and just short term flings, shorter guys often have to rely on charm and humor compared to taller guys. But for a -happy- LTR, it is almost always down to the person's personality and their compatibility, height are often playing very little part in this.

170 cm is not that short. When I think about short male friends, they are often in range of 153 cm - 165 cm.

tjohnson718 · 2021-05-17T02:52:05+00:00

To put this height debate to rest once and for all...

Despite me being 6'5, the guys I've met who've gotten the most women (I'm talking 100+ sex partners in a lifetime, women cold-approaching them, have no less than 3 girls on rotation at any given time, etc.) were all under 6 foot. In fact I struggled with women most of my life despite towering over all of the men in the room. The guys who get the most girls tend to take pride in their appearance and date with an abundant, "girls are like buses" mindset.

Guys should also stop paying attention to what girls say and base their results with women on what they do instead. Women will say all kinds of things, but their actions are how they reveal the truth.

hddjdkdkr · 2021-05-18T09:34:18+00:00

Girls is really important for a women. Just accept It.

nh4rxthon · 2021-05-19T02:32:13+00:00

Ok i've never been on this sub just saw it by accident today, and idk if this is within the rules or not to make this type of comment but i can't help but give ya a few tips. this is just my advice based on what you're saying and it may be wrong, so take it with a grain of salt but the tldr is :

get some perspective. your situation's really not that bad. 2. stop thinking about girls all the time and focus on building up your life independently, then women will come to you.

here's a little more detail. i know this is long but i wrote it in like 2 minutes because I know the story you're telling well, i've known many friends in the EXACT same place as you, today, they're married, happy, having kids, all that stuff. its a very common phase. first of all - move on from this girl you mentioned and STAY AWAY. it might not be easy but i am speaking from experience - the dynamic of being 'friendzoned by a really cute girl who lovebombs her male friend and is extremely close/confiding in him/ even telling him hot he is and how he could get any girl.., but will never actually date you and will just date other guys in front of you' can go on for literally YEARS. and at the end of those years you'll just have wasted time money and finally will realize, no, you aren't compatible and she never would have dated you and you are going to wish you'd focused on women who are compatible and might be a good match. i'm not gonna say anything TRP but she sounds like a vampire for attention. don't. waste. your. time.

re: height, bro i just met a guy who's like 5'3 and married to this gorgeous 5'8 girl. its a little unusual but they are one of the happiest couples i've ever met. height is not everything. yes, it is a fact that there are a huge amount (possibly the majority) of women who just will never date a guy shorter than, same height, or only slightly taller than them. that's just life. a lot of women want a dude 5-6 inches or more taller than them. part of it is just the way they're wired, part is societal pressure from other women. either way, again, you just gotta move on. there are also tons of women who don't care, will date men onyl slightly taller or same height as them. dating's gonna be a little harder for you. that's life. some dudes have one eye, one arm, giant diseased moles, whatever... there are a TON of really tall good looking dudes who have some deep secret problem or defect that they're horribly ashamed of and they would gladly trade places with a short dude to get rid of ... PERSPECTIVE IS THE KEY HERE. Stop wasting time thinking about could have been should have beens, focus on the women who are open to dating someone your height. may be that means shorter women, whatever. figure it out. its really not that bad. thinking about all the disfigured deformed people out there trying to find a mate, and then tell me, have you really got it that bad?

lastly - stop thinking about girls and dating so much. focus on getting more out of your gap year, work, study, your professional future. way way way more important. here's a truth bomb - a lot of dudes in your age range, 18-25 , have an extremely difficult time dating. its an awkward phase for men because women want stable, employed, interesting men with money, and aren't interested in dating guys your age range. a lot of women your age are gonna date older guys and regret it. some are gonna get hitched right away. it all varies but point is if you keep chasing girls, you're going to waste so much time and effort. if you focus on yourself, education, work, being a good and interesting person, you will wind up attracting incredible, interesting and gorgeous women who don't care about your height. i know that may sound impossible but i stg, its 1,000% factual. they don't want to date a guy desperate for a woman, they want to date confident successful interesting men. there are a lot of really sweet intelligent women out there who don't care about height or who are short themselves so it works out. its a marathon, not a race. take your time and when you come back to the hunt, be prepared.

Mayleth1 · 2021-05-20T23:48:05+00:00

5’7” is honestly not that short, most girls are even shorter than that height. The more you focus on your height, which is something you can’t change, the more you will become dissatisfied with yourself. Men of all different heights and sizes have success with women. Just focus on doing things that enhance your own well-being and your life. When you meet someone that is right for you, they won’t care about your height.

Title	Height? Facts or myth?
Author	stormstrom
Upvotes	4
Comments	21
Date	May 16, 2021 12:01 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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