Rejected at Concert/Need approach advice

SwarthyMartin · 2024-07-07T07:50:30+00:00

Remember its a numbers game, and rejection is just part of the process. Whilst continuing to make attempts, keep in mind that you need to maximise your appearance to ensure your chances are as high as they can be. Are you confident in the way you dress, in your hair, ect?

canseiDeSerEnganado · 2024-07-07T08:00:15+00:00

Good job. Getting rejected is okay. Most of the time people will be not interested for reasons that are completely out of your control. And some girls don't know how to reject either, so sometimes you will have this situations like your example 2. I these cases, just assume she does not want to be rude or don't know how to reject properly and move on.

Wing_Inevitable · 2024-07-07T13:29:59+00:00

22M went to a concert last weekend and got rejected 3 times. Sucks especially because I rarely put myself out there and have a hard time talking to strangers/girls more specifically.

Shit happens.

Attempt 1: Then I told her I wanted to know her name and she told me but didn't ask for mine.

Because at a concert that would be weird.

I told her mine regardless and she looked visibly uninterested so I walked away.

That will happen most of the time.

Look her current VIBE is Parting.

Why would she exchange that for a conversation which you don’t even know where it is going?

“Emotions are the currency of women”

Attempt 2: Complimented her outfit and accessories and she said thanks.

Ok now what. BTW you did the same thing again as the first one.

Where are you taking this? So she feels she isn’t losing emotions.

I asked for name, got it and didn't ask for mine.

She won’t you are ruining her vibe. And she wants you to leave so she can get back to it.

Told her mine and she didn't say anything.

What can she say - she was waiting for you to show her the Better Vibe than the one she currently had.

Then I asked if she had instagram and kind of used her friends to get away.

She was nice.

Attempt 3:

Nothing new.

Any advice?

Buddy you are at that stage where you will get rejected a ton.

I would suggest you find a system and learn it. There is way too much stuff to cover.

BigJackJack01 · 2024-07-08T03:11:54+00:00

Most people at concerts are there to hangout with friends and to see their favorite artists. I would change your approach and not be too direct/on the hunt. Come with a group of friends and just bring good vibes. Also if you have girls in your group that’s better because it socially validates you as not a creep.

epimpstyle · 2024-07-07T08:49:45+00:00

attempt 1 - Why would she tell you her name or give out any personal information to a stranger who asks for it? The right way if you use "excuse me" is "excuse me bla bla bla bla", not "excuse me" and pause.... no way!

attempt2 - Change your approach method, don't ask for her name (or any personal information so quickly). She must know a few things about you before asking for her name, so you need about 2-3 minutes of conversation. It's faster in the night game (in which case you don't really want to spend too much time), but don't use the same method in the day game.

attempt3 - same as above.

NathanTR1992 · 2024-07-07T17:27:14+00:00

Attempt 2 is the way to go. Excuse me + Compliment + What's her name + Tell her your name + Handshake Nice meeting you is actually a killer opener. Make sure you carry good energy way in and way out, also make sure you and her can hear each other clearly. The rest is luck.

Good luck!

Dry_Tune2919 · 2024-07-07T18:11:34+00:00

For a place like concert, clubs, festivals, approaching girls is the worst because every other drunk guy is doing the same. You have to pick out your target. Look for girls that are in the crowds or at the front of the stage dancing by themselves. Look for girls who are dancing, moving, drinking. Don’t go for girls just chilling with their friends. If you see her in the crowds just say let’s dance and grab her waist to start dancing, make out, then take her back or get her number. Easy.

The way you approach is best for day game, like at target or something. Where they can actually process a genuine complement.

Greedy-Ad7224 · 2024-07-08T00:17:52+00:00

If you approach every girl you're interested in without any signs of interest, most are going to be rejections. The only ones that are not going to be rejections are the ones who didn't look at you because they're so below you in terms of looks (like an obese girl if you're skinny) that they didn't think they had a chance or they're walking in a direction where they just didn't see you.

If you want to avoid awkward situations, just remember this: Women reject you or accept you before you even talk to them, they judge you with their eyes, if they stare at you, it means they're interested in meeting you. If you look at them and they look away or act like you're not there, it generally means they're not interested. I learned this a long time ago and it has been very helpful. When they're really interested they might even give you a nice smile, or stare deep into your eyes, or do all that while playing with their hair.

Also, approaching women who work in a customer service position like cashier, salesperson, hostess, flight attendant and so on, should be a big no-no, because they're going to be giving you signals of interest all over the place and they're going to be fake most of the time, because they're doing their job, and in the case of waitresses, they might even go further just to get you to tip more.

But if you go out during the day at a mall or just taking a walk in a city or simply taking the bus or metro and you see women staring at you, it means they're interested, and you should go talk to them if you're interested in going on a date with them.

That's the one thing that most men should be taught from a young age, but nobody tells us. My parents did tell me a bunch of times when I was a kid, but I was in denial and I would tell my mom she was imagining things even though she was noticing girls checking me out. A lot of guys think they are the ones who choose but it's actually women, with their body language. We approach but they choose from the moment they see a guy if he is worth talking to or not.

DaygameCode · 2024-07-08T02:34:11+00:00

Attempt 1: Went up to a girl and said "excuse me" but she moved out of the way thinking I needed to get through. Then I told her I wanted to know her name and she told me but didn't ask for mine. I told her mine regardless and she looked visibly uninterested so I walked away.

The mistake here is that you didn’t actually establish what you wanted. You asked for her name but didn’t really establish why you are even interested in knowing her name or talking to her. You need to understand that if you wanna talk to strangers you need to say straight away that you want to get to know her and the reason why you get to know her before you ask for her number. For example:

“Hey listen, I know i don’t know you, but i just saw you and i l thought wow i love her style so i couldn’t help but wanting to meet you real quick. What’s your name?”

This is a better way to start a conversation that directly asking for a name without giving context to her as to why you are asking for her name.

Don’t assume that just because you start a conversation she knows what’s up, you need to make it clear that you are not casually starting a conversation for no reason, you need to express that you want to get to know her as the first thing you say.

Attempt 2: A girl was with her friends and I approached her. Complimented her outfit and accessories and she said thanks. I asked for name, got it and didn't ask for mine.

Same mistake as before, don’t assume that just because you start a conversation she knows what you want or wants to engage further in the conversation without giving context as to why a stranger is talking to her. Better to say that you want to get to know her because you love her outfit than simply saying that you love her outfit and then asking her name.

You always should be clear from the beginning that you want to get to know her for X reason as the. you may proceed to ask for her name. But never try to start a conversation without telling her first that you want to get to know her.

Your mistake is trying to start conversation in a way that skips the reason as to why you are talking to her. The girl is always wondering why is this guy talking to me? And you need to answer that question before she even decides to ask it, and the answer is “_Hey i saw you, and i want to get to know you because X reason, if that’s cool with you, what’s your name?_”.

Never try to jump straight like: “Hey? Nice dress. So what’s your name? You come here often?” because this is a very bad way to start conversations.

From_God_to_Dog · 2024-07-08T14:53:00+00:00

Try "excuse me,...can I introduce myself?"

TRTGymBroXXX · 2024-07-07T11:52:14+00:00

So you rarely go out and talk to women and you are surprised you got rejected?

Title	Rejected at Concert/Need approach advice
Author	Acrobatic_Split_2877
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Date	July 7, 2024 6:35 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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