I understand that this may have been asked a thousand times so I apologise in advance.

How do you negotiate the dating world if you're only interested in hook-ups but also want to avoid hurting women?

I'm matching on dating apps with women that I'm not especially attracted to (tbf, it's hard to gauge how attractive a woman is on a dating app in my opinion) but would happily enter a FWB arrangement with.

I know it's not up to me to be a woman's knight in shining armour but I hate the idea of sleeping with a woman only to later drop the bombshell that I was only ever after something casual when she asks where things are going.

The obvious answer to this is to tell her before you meet her; problem is, they usually run the other way when this happens.

And yeah, some women are happy enough to go with something casual but I find that those women are a minority, usually unattractive and are also gonna be very selective when engaging in a fwb arrangement.

The only idea I can come up with is to tell her you only want something casual before you've slept with her but after you've been on a few dates to show off your value.

How do you boys play this? Thanks heaps in advance!