First date, not sure what to do

iznou · 2012-01-24T07:46:45+00:00

40,000 readers on a seduction forum. I guess that means that dating has turned into seduction for all intents and purposes. In other words, we're apparently at war with the opposite sex. LOL.

But I digress. Friend, you know this girl. She's not just a pickup. You didn't just meet her 2 hours ago. You know her and have talked to her before. You have similar interests. You asked her on a date (AWESOME by the way, way to make a move).

So from here on out, PLEASE have absolutely no techniques or tactics on your mind. I want you to be completely focused on enjoying yourself in the moment. Women are natural-born seducers and you will appreciate it, goddammit!

Kiss on the first date? LOL what a funny question. The answer is, if you feel like it. If you're a real boss you will do it like Woody Allen.

korky1318 · 2012-01-24T04:14:11+00:00

"Should I ask her to dinner? I've been told that's too forward for a first date" <- limiting belief, all my first dates are dinner and about 70-80% I end up f-closing.

"Also is it weird to kiss on the first date?" <- Nothing is awkward unless you think it is. So get used to thinking that everything you do is completely normal.

"maybe I'm really living in the past (I'm 23)." <- You're not living in the past, you're living by other people's rules that you internalized at a young age. Forget those rules, unlearn them and make your own.

To answer your question about the date. Go out, have a good time, involve drinks if possible, don't over think things. If you want girls to see you more than once you need to phsyically show them you're interested in them. This doesn't mean you have to kiss them, but it does mean you need to learn how to kino properly:

http://www.tokyo-pickup.com/articles/the-14-steps-to-arousal.php

Cheers and good luck, Fluffy McGee

DrLio · 2012-01-24T06:24:55+00:00

Take her for a beer, to a nice bar!

minorsecond · 2012-01-24T02:32:15+00:00

You're going to laugh, but I yell out along with Jr. in this video and it gets me pumped up and ready to go. Try it.

The Video

ge99 · 2012-01-24T01:36:24+00:00

1- good job on getting the #, from what you've said...she is interested...the fact that she accepted to go on a coffee date and then remembered she doesnt drink coffee is a good sign.

2- Nothing is too much for a first date (I am also in Canada), what do YOU enjoy doing? personally...I fucking love eating. so what do I do on a first date? I tell the girl to meet me somewhere that I want to eat...and we BOTH pay our own meals and get to know each other.

3- if you see the signals that she wants a kiss, then go for it..if not..dont rush it...you'll get her on the second date.

4- Make her invite YOU out for a second date..that means make yourself look interesting and make her feel that she has to prove herself to you that she'll be dropping hints like "next time we should watch a movie" or etc.

VMikeL · 2012-01-24T12:54:48+00:00

First dates - har har.

First up, your problems seems to be not being able to take the date further, ie. they're not interested, you don't know how to act, or something in that vein. I hear you - a lot of guys have this problem. First things first; you asked her for coffee, not a date, so I wouldn't go around labelling it.

On the date itself, it's been analogised on many different occasions, by a number of people as a job interview. This is your chance to make an impression on her. Pick an activity (and if you want to be really prepared, have a back up or two) that you think the two of you will like and do it. Personally I will never go to a movie because thats 2 hours of awkwardly sitting there. Do NOT ask "what do you want to do?" because this is you straight away saying "I didn't really give two shits" and from there she might take this as how you act all the time - indecisive and unhelpful.

Now what's more important is how you come off. What I'm talking about is your personal presentation. When you talk to her, make sure you let her talk about herself - ask her questions and try to relate. There's no magic ratio of how much she should talk compared to you, its all dependant on the person. But either way, when she does talk - LISTEN. When you're able to reference something she said earlier, or talk more about something that was mentioned in brief, it'll go a long way with her. Also don't be afraid to make a joke. In a survey which I CBF finding, the two biggest turn offs for girls were in order: 1. Hygeine 2. Boring guys

That's right, having no sense of humour was worse than being "clingy".

As far as your other question, yes kissing on the first date isn't a long stretch. Though Don't go in with any expectations.

iznou · 2012-01-24T17:38:10+00:00

Everyone likes nature :P

ClimbTREES · 2012-01-24T06:02:05+00:00

Its as easy as ABC. Always Be Closing.

2012-01-24T06:14:41+00:00

Get a suit.

qmriis · 2012-01-24T03:18:25+00:00

siihp

Serpantking45 · 2012-01-24T16:42:42+00:00

ok first think of something new and exciting, coffe is overrated,, try something that suprises her, like a horseback ride or something (probably no outside stuff in winter though XD ) but something unique, maybe swimming? in an indoor pool obviously, or maybe say that you have a new recipe youd like to try out aand invite her to your house as a taste tester? or maybe like a poetry club to make you look ssensitive? but take what you know of her and try to find something that would intrest her, as far as the first kiss goes, she will get a look in her eye, she will hesitate to go inside her house or will get closer to you, and if all else fails, touch her hair and comment on it, if she lets you play with the tips of her hair she is ready to be kissed, and telling her your newer at this and you might be awekward, if said correctly, can come off as cute

First date, not sure what to do

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4 happened to me recently. It felt fucking nice. We were on our 2nd and she said "next time, we should play pool so I can kick your ass at it."

Title	First date, not sure what to do
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Date	January 24, 2012 1:23 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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